steam hissing from the ears!  

rm_ukpete2 57M
13 posts
6/29/2005 9:05 am

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5/10/2007 1:59 pm

steam hissing from the ears!


You know, when I look at profiles, I read all of it usually at least 3 times before I decide to (or not to) contact somebody through this site. Most of the time I will write quite a bit about me, about what I think of them, why I think it would be nice to have more contact etc.

I am always amazed that the vast majority who are contacted don't even look at my profile! never mind just sending a real quick email back saying "sorry but you're not what we are looking for"...is that so hard to do. Hey I know that couples and single ladies get so many emails it takes time to sift through them....but come on!

And as for the people who are on here to get a kick out of gaining attention? Well! what can one say about such a thing? I reckon most of us are comfortable and confident with our own personalities allowing us to just get on with being pretty bloody happy with our lives. Obviousley these sad souls cannot...and crave attention at every opportunity.

OK, I've had my tantrum. Anybody feel the same?

rm_algolstar 56M
14 posts
6/29/2005 9:58 am

I think the women here are overwhelmed with the responses they receive. I know what you are saying, and some do responded. I’ve met 6 women from AAF in the past few years, two I still see for fun times. Hang in there.


rm_babylove1977 38F
1 post
6/29/2005 10:03 am

hi ukpete, i dont think thats really the case here. for me, i may not want to reply or even send yu a wink cos we both stay so far apart. i find yu attractive, bbt we have to consider the distance too.
so dont feel bad. soon, a nice pretty lady will come along.


pussinboots4u 50M/47F

6/29/2005 1:14 pm

For us - I (the wife) answer all our emails and respond to winks and those that added us to the hotlist. It is sooooo much work getting through them all. The site is very slow, opening up profiles is a bear! Back and forth with everything - I even open a couple of windows so that I can move on in another one while waiting for the other window to do its thing.

I don't respond to people with "you're just not what we are looking for". Part of the reason is because I would just rather be ignored than to get an email like that, or god forbid, many emails like that. So maybe the question really is, how many of you really want to get emails that say "you're just not what I'm looking for".

Another reason I don't answer people that we are not interested in is because it saves me a lot of time.


rm_ukpete2 57M
2 posts
6/29/2005 3:47 pm

Great comments guys and all welcomed. Don't get me wrong I have met a few fantastic genuine people and like I say I totally understand all the couples and single ladies who are inundated with responses. I just want to direct my frustration at those folks who really do "piss us all about"....Gosh this is a great way to get things off your chest!!


nightriders40 62M/56F

9/28/2005 12:04 pm

If people carefully read our profile and fulfil the stated points we mention, yet are still not right for us, we feel it is only right to reply and explain why briefly. E.g. too far away, just not enough common ground, etc.

If people reply despite quite clearly not fulfilling our stipulated conditions, we feel entitled to ignore and block them. Sadly, there are an amazing number in this category.


1highclass1945 71F

12/1/2005 11:08 am

Hello ....I write as an 'inundated with emails'... female with approx 600 emails received over 3x times in 2yrs. I agree with 'ukpete2' about manners lacking online therefore I resolved to answer every single email irrespective and therefore prove to the many who commentated on the fact they often hit a wall ....that there were some decent females out there ....and I have a very demanding job !!
Sadly this site desensitises people ....


1highclass1945 71F

12/1/2005 11:12 am

Oh! yes! ...and I read each profile several times before I considered my reply.


Hotstuff22416 65F
1 post
5/13/2007 5:12 pm

Hi ukpete...Being a standard member myself, I've found that AdultFriendFinder only allow me so many points, once those points are used up I'm not allowed to answer any more messages unless I subscribe, and at their prices, who would want to? That may be the reason people haven't contacted you, not because they don't want to.


sexybunny4love 47F  
229 posts
7/15/2008 3:17 am

Sometimes standard members like us ladies dont have much opportunities to reply so i hope gents out there dont think we are neglecting them for no reason.

I like the attention but I do make time to reply, sometimes if I run out of daily credits, i use the network invitation or testimonial to give them my details. A wink or hotlist addition can also warrant responses from men, i have noticed.

It works.

Have fun honey! xxx


~ Dare to be different ~ sexybunny4love


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