Your viewpoint on pologamy???  

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
5791 posts
7/12/2005 7:43 pm

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Your viewpoint on pologamy???

Some view it as just the ability of being able to love more than one person.....

Some view it as bing able to have many wives (almost to the degree of being king of the mountain with the machoism shown by the number of wives one is able to keep).....

What is your view point???

Just curious...

Di47Him51 63M/59F
42 posts
7/14/2005 4:55 pm

I believe that we can love more than one person at a time. And that there are varying degrees of passion. I think it unfair to expect any one person to be all I need them to be for me. I do think that jealousy is the result of not enough communication and insecurity in a relationship, not knowing where one stands, or accepting their position. We are all a gift to one another. I don't think it is just a male thing, or at least it shouldn't be. There are a lot of complex women out there.

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
7/13/2005 8:10 am

alice593 - Lol.. without a doubt!! hee hee..

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
7/13/2005 6:58 am

I, too, think that (1) there are varying degrees love and (2) it would be difficult to be in a pologamus status without there being some sort of favoritism. I know that I couldn't do it, for instance, because I would be quite jealous. I like having the one-on-one relationship -- even knowing that, in a sense, my man may still be in love with someone else at some level (as I still have some degrees of love left for my exes, my daughter, my family, my best friends, etc); knowing that it is just me that he is in bed with means the world to me.

alice593 71M

7/13/2005 1:27 am

Oh my God, I don't think I could handle that. Sometimes one wife can be a strain on a guy's brain. LOL Bet you gals think the same about us guys. LOL

jim5131 55M
1296 posts
7/12/2005 11:00 pm

I don't think it's the love of one woman at any given time. Of course you can love more than one woman ( or partner)...

In my lifetime, there were varying degrees, I suppose. Only one true love, two others (one I married, the other I broke off an engagement) that were slightly less, and two more that I also loved but couldn't keep (they had their own problems that I couldn't fix). I would've been happy married to any of them, and loved them despite my being married to someone else.

I still love all of them as much as I ever have, but, faced with the realization that it takes more than just love to make it work, I know that I had to stand aside and allow them to go on if I couldn't be all they wanted or needed, or if there were other factors to keep the relationship from growing to its fullest. In addition to the pure love between the two, it takes the 'nut and bolt' work of logistics, temperament, lifestyles, etc., as well as the different types of love languages that each of us speak differently.

Insofar as the polygamist, I think it's ridiculous that anyone can marry more than one and not show favoritism, nor insure that there is not a 'pecking order' among wives, as many polygamist marriages DO have.

Maybe I'm just old-fashioned, unless we go back to CroMagnon, when all women in the tribe were do-able...

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