Such a thing as affectionate spanking???  

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
5791 posts
7/30/2005 7:10 pm

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Such a thing as affectionate spanking???

I have loved my man to give me gentle spanking on my butt during the love making process. There is a degree of excitement to that.

Through exploring the worlds of the BDSM through this website and reading The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty series by Anne Rice, it would seem that this can only be achieved through hard whacks with a paddle. I am not so sure that it has to be all that hard of a spank to achieve some degree of stimulation.

Do you give your loved one spankings while making love?

Do you use a paddle or just the palm of your hand?

Do you consider yourself a dominant merely because you like to spank???

Just curious....

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
8/1/2005 5:37 pm

yagottalikit - lol... ok... I won't!!! j/k BTW, I, too, found it uncomfortably erotic as well...and leaving me wanting to explore some of that other side...without getting too much on the pain aspects of it.

yagottalikit 49F
583 posts
8/1/2005 5:07 pm

oh, and also, the Sleeping Beauty series was uncomfortably erotic to me. I found that reading it stirred up some feelings that I was not sure I wanted to feel. That one might need a bit of exploring.....

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it

yagottalikit 49F
583 posts
8/1/2005 5:03 pm

I love a good "love tap", as well. I don't feel comfortable being on the "giving" side, however. I wonder if there's some deep psychological meaning to that.....if so, DON'T TELL ME!

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
8/1/2005 3:03 pm

silvertongue65 - Oh, but of course! That should go without saying....which is more than likely I crosses off my list the guy I had dated that pulled my hair too hard for example, it brought back too many bad memories; however, I have not been not opposed to the spanking in a very loving strike of balance. I am not into pain either....which is why I probably wouldn't fit in the BDSM world too well.....

BTW, good to see you back!

silvertongue65 52M
31 posts
8/1/2005 10:23 am

My only comment to this, aside from the obvious that I love the feel of a nice ass against the palm of my hand, is that you make sure its something the lady won't freak out upon experiencing. Never know what memory/baggage you can open without asking first. Nothing too hard, as I am not into giving/receiving pain, but a surprise spank here and there usually gets things very exciting for both

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
8/1/2005 9:55 am

travelingintexas - LOL.... timing is everything.... BTW, I don't think anyone is too old to try new things in the bedroom...

nightguy1961 - Okay.... speaking from a person who is dominant in the bedroom, would you say that you gain a sense of power from the spanking...or the results of the spanking????

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
8/1/2005 9:52 am

MiAmore62 - Cool... that is comforting.... I think. I am not really into the spectrum of the BDSM; however, I like the spanking part. I didn't want to be considered a BDSM person just because of that though.... BTW, took a peek at your blog. Interesting... I'll go back there and explore more soon.

frbnkslady - hee hee... that must have been some multitasking!!!

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
8/1/2005 9:44 am

humboldthonni - Being surprised by it is key as well. I remember being spanked one time by my Dad (b/c I laughed at my sister for being stung by wasps that received the water gushes from the hose she had pointed at their nest); even so, though, I remember bracing myself for it and remembering it didn't really hurt so very much. I know that, being spanked by your parent, in no way compares to the erotism found in the bedroom with your lover. Receiving "love pats" during love making is exciting indeed.

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
8/1/2005 9:39 am

rockinhard24 - Oh, I have never tried anything with a paddle either.... however, it might be something to explore some day with someone I can trust to do so within my limits!! Trust factor is also a key here....

Barbiebunny69 - Thanks!!!

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
8/1/2005 9:37 am

aylwin001 - True... I think, if applied correctly, it can be very erotic. Not just a tap on the skin, but nothing too hard either...finding that appropriately erotic feeling is certainly something that a couple can explore...and may even liven up their bedroom a little!!!

iw2cp2 - A man I used to date loved to pull on my hair too; however, I with the headache. As in the spankings, I think (to be erotic) a couple has to find what their erotic balance is....

nightguy1961 55M
4866 posts
8/1/2005 5:29 am

I have giving some of my lovers a spanking during foreplay and during intercourse. As to the degree, it depends on the person. Some want a little, some like a lot. I'm not sure about whether spanking makes one a dominant type or not. I know I have a dominant side in the bedroom 98% of the time, so I can't answer that objectively.

frbnkslady 48F
6183 posts
7/31/2005 1:39 pm

I have had 1 spanking..was really just a hard slap.. but he timed at the exact moment he slammed into me and yanked my about multitasking.. and 1 major orgasm..MMMM T.


MiAmore62 49M

7/31/2005 1:31 pm

I dont consider myself Dom for giving a sapnking..I have given and received them and found that if you are getting it HARD with a paddle or strap right at orgasm the pain intensies the orgasm sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo good. MY lovers have really liked getting spanked on the ass while we had sex..... it always seems to make them cum really good! I think its the bad little girl in allof ya! Check out my blog and help me get it going!

Barbiebunny69 43F

7/31/2005 9:39 am

Do you give your loved one spankings while making love?

Yes, and they enjoy them a rush of adreneline and forces those that tend to think a lot down into their bodies

Do you use a paddle or just the palm of your hand?
Both or a back of a brush. U can vary the intensity with just a wrist snap.

Do you consider yourself a dominant merely because you like to spank???

Hoppy spanking! Ms Rose

rockinhard24 36M

7/31/2005 8:55 am

I always love a bit of spanking, and most other like it too. Nothing with a paddle or anything (tho that does sound interesting to try) but just a little slap while she riding me

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
7/31/2005 1:34 am

brandnewman2003 -
aylwin001 -
Yes, I agree.... they can be done very erotically, if done right...and, the pressure doesn't have to be all that hard!

wyvernrose - Yes, I would have surmised as so much from what you tell in your blogs!

rm_iw2cp2 65M

7/30/2005 11:38 pm

I have found that when things get good, and logistics allow, I love to sprinkle smacks on a pretty butt when I'm making love. I have been known to pull a womans hair (not too hard) as well when that appears to be what trips her trigger. It excites me as well, and I fully enjoy receiving as well as giving.

aylwin001 63M
1 post
7/30/2005 10:53 pm

a slap on the bum can be veryerotic if done correctly..and has nothing to do with a dominant. Its what a couple find turns them on and works for them

wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
7/30/2005 10:51 pm

I love a bit of a spanking txrose but im sure you already knew that


rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
7/30/2005 10:08 pm

Biglick694 - Oh, I am not into pain either by any means!!

Biglick694 59M
23 posts
7/30/2005 9:28 pm

From time to time over the years, Some of my lovers have asked me to spank them. I think if someone enjoys sonething well ok by me. But my self I'm not in to paln. I think i'm a little domunet becuse I have no problem takeing charge.I know what I want and I go for it. I look at rejection as a part of life you keep on trying, not lay down and sulk. A good excample of this is in sales you learn. knock on ten doors to get one sale.

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