Sexual Addiction?  

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
5791 posts
5/30/2005 7:23 pm

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Sexual Addiction?

Cajunpet stated in my prior blog post about age differences, "It was the age difference. I tried helping her with her MH and drug issues, but I was of no use."

I responded by stating, "That is too bad, cajunpet..... I have also found that trying to "help" people with MH, drug, alchol, and other addictive issues is of no use, unless they are TRULY ready for your help. 'Til then, all else is futile... no matter the differences in ages.

I have learned to stay away from people with issues b/c I am the one who wants to help them...and, unless, they ask me for my help, I will remain closeby for them to express that need.

In the meantime, I seek to have my sexual desires met constantly .... (hmmm... do I have my own addiction???)

Laters..."

lol.... What do you think??????


rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
6/1/2005 1:04 pm

cajunpet - ... hmmm... so I served to inspire you to write about sexual addictions???


rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
6/1/2005 4:47 am

cajunpet -- lol... Do you think so???? hee hee... Is that necessarily a bad thing????

Have a great day!!!


cajunpet 70M
1185 posts
6/1/2005 4:27 am

Hi TxRose, I created two blogs today on "What is sexual addiction?" - An introduction to the subject, and "Are you a sex addict?" - A quick quiz to see if you may be sexually addicted .

Keep On Blogging!!!! Have a great day.


cajunpet 70M
1185 posts
5/31/2005 4:02 pm

I agree with lawyerdude2000 clinical definition. Is your behavior such that it is interfering with any of your major life activities?

I do not see this in your writings and thoughts. You may however have a slight addiction to AdultFriendFinder. ROFLMAO.

Keep On Blogging!!!! Have a great day.


rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
5/31/2005 3:59 pm

redmustang -- "Oscar Wilde said too much of a good thing is wonderful. When it comes to sex I agree."

Question -- Can one get too much sex??? I haven't discovered that answer yet.


rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
5/31/2005 3:58 pm

74ShovelHD -- "I am dependent on it and crave it all the time!!!"

lol.. I know what you mean!!


rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
5/31/2005 3:57 pm

indophilist -- Yeah, I guess of all the possible addictions, this one is probably the least obtrusive to one's life....


rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
5/31/2005 3:55 pm

lawyerdude - No, I am maintaining my work and other obligations... so, I guess I just have the high sex drive -- which is a good thing??? lol...


redmustang91 57M  
8599 posts
5/31/2005 1:13 pm

If you are going to be addicted to something sex is the best one I think. I decided to limit my own addiction by not paying for it! That makes it harder to come by if you are a guy. Oscar Wilde said too much of a good thing is wonderful. When it comes to sex I agree.


74ShovelHD 53M

5/31/2005 11:17 am

Addiction:
1. an abnormally strong craving
2. being abnormally tolerant to and dependent on something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming

I know from the above that I definitely have an addiction to sex.... I am dependent on it and crave it all the time!!!


rm_indophilist 36M

5/31/2005 7:38 am

If it's an addiction, it's a good 'un.


lawyerdude2000 55M

5/31/2005 7:35 am

I guess to determine if you are a sex addict, you get to look at the clinical definition... is your behavior such that it is interfering with any of your major life activities? There is a huge difference between a high sex drive and being a sex addict... The sex addicts that I have represented or been acquainted with will miss work, go without food, and neglect their responsibilities in order to satisfy the addiction (just as you would see with a meth addict or an alcoholic). Are you there? I would guess not...


rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
5/31/2005 7:22 am

sporty --- lol... according to cajunpet, apparently it is just a high sex drive....


sportyfun56 106M

5/31/2005 7:04 am

I've often wondered if mine is just a high drive or do I have some "issue".... lol


rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
5/31/2005 12:42 am

cajunpet - How can you be so sure that I am not a sex addict??? lol... hee hee... I am sure some people ride a fine line between having a high sex drive and being a sex addict -- right????


rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
5/31/2005 12:40 am

wyvernrose - yes.. you are so right.... incentives do play a role in the recovery process. Sometimes, I think that people resort to their addictions b/c they just give up on life...


cajunpet 70M
1185 posts
5/30/2005 11:36 pm

I agree with you TxRose. They first of all need know they have a problem and do something about it. It was not so much as the physical age difference but her mental age as a person. She was abuse as a child by her step father, and her mother did not want to believe her, her sister, or brothers, and continue living with him. She have a mind of a child, and used her body to get the drugs. She did not know how to cook or take care of herself. I paid for her private counseling and went in with her when she went. She just did not want to live anymore, and she had already tried commiting sucide two times before I met her.

I took her away from the drug scene, but I could not help her with her wanting to die. I have other friends that I helped overcome their addictions, and yes they have to do it for themselve.

No, you do not have a sexual addiction. Some ladies and men have a higher sex drive, and know what they want and like.

Keep On Blogging!!!! Have a great day.


wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
5/30/2005 8:29 pm

I agree entirely txrose, the only thing you can do for such people is try to keep them alive until they wake up to themselves.....incentives sometimes do help but not until they are themselves ready and it just gives them a leg up, like the car was for my brother in law....
he was a reformed drug addict, he had cleaned himself up for his son but had no incentive within the system to better himself if he worked he would be paying CS he got enough on the dole to pay his share of the rent in an apparentment he shares with 3 other guys, he had enough to provide for his son....but he was content to sit and play roleplay games until the early hours of every morning, he isn't into dating his first ever GF/fiance destroyed any such experience of joy that could be found in that for him....by cheating on him and then trying to steal his son a number of times over after abandoning their son for months on end.....

anyway he was clean but aimless, giving him the car ment he had to finally attend his driving exam and get his licence (which he did within weeks) and it meant his excuse of distance for turning down work was no longer valid and it meant it was easier to pick his son up from school....etc

BUT it also gave him bills which he had to pay to keep his privaledge like rego and fuel....and car parts if he took pride in it which he does.....so even though it was a condition of keeping the car the needs of owning a car and the bills associated took him out of his financial comfort zone he had made for himself and got him out looking for a decent job again..... it's worked rather well actually even if I do say so myself.....even the price of the car is negligible as it was costing us a tonne him turning up and raiding our freezer for supplies on weeks when money was short

WyvernRose


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