Lasting impressions....  

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
5791 posts
8/4/2005 10:52 am

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Lasting impressions....

When you first meet someone what are the top five things that make a lasting impression on you???? (These are things that will always make you remember that person even if you don't ever meet that person again.)

Are these the same type of things that you try to do when you meet someone for the first time????

Just curious....

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
8/6/2005 7:43 am

My list??? Hmmmmm, but not necessarily in this order:

1. Eyes - These are windows to the soul. You can tell a lot about a person by looking into their eyes!!! Of course, a good smile and dimples will be a good attention getter for me as well.

2. Communication - Is it like pulling teeth to get them to conversate? If it is this hard to get them to talk initially, it is probably a good indication that it will be this difficult later when you are in a LTR with them. Asking questions can indicate their level of interest in you as well.

3. Humor and Wit - This is a good indication on how seriously they take life and their ability to enjoy life as well. While there are times to be very serious, the ability at laughing at themselves and life in general can be equally important. Are they able to smile as well. Smiling is always good -- and smiling with dimples will make my heart melt indeed.

4. Appearance - Not whether or not they have a tight physique, but whether or not they are dressed sloppily, their clothes look and smell fresh and wrinkle free, general hygiene is good, etc. will indicate how important that they care about themselves. If they can care about themselves, they will put more effort into a relationship as well.

5. Mannerisms - If they cut you off mid-sentence constantly or monopolize the conversations, for example, can be, not only very annoying, but may indicate that they care more about themselves than they do others. Are they polite? Do they seem to have interest in you as well? Do they have any other quirky things about them -- their laugh, rocking back and forth in their chair, looking away from your eyes while talking to you, checking out the bodies of those walking by, etc., etc. If something annoys you on the first time you meet, it is certainly going to be an issue later and a good indication of not pursuing it any further.

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
8/6/2005 7:28 am

DallasPhallus56 - Yes, a general disposition can certainally make or break a meeting....and a meeting of the minds in the level of intelligence is essentail towards carrying through with a conversation with their ability to express themselves or communicate with another human being. While physical appearance is important to a degree, it isn't everything...the important thing is what they carry in their soul.

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
8/6/2005 7:22 am

djnap40 - Yeah, no one wants to be perceived as a pig...and not eating could often indicate disinterest in the company as well. Perceptions can be received - right or wrong - by the other person, depending on their background, how they were raised, etc. I would have to agree with the eyes and the smile - these are definate attention getters as well for me, as well as their dimples and general attitude. Whether or not they take things too seriously can be indicated by their laugh as well. Scents can indicate how well they take care of themselves, which is important because, if they can't take care of themselves, how are they going to demonstrate caring in a relationship? Sometimes, though, their quirky mannerisms can certainly make a lasting impression - good or bad - indeed!

Great list....

DallasPhallus56 60M

8/4/2005 8:16 pm

An interesting question, and I'm not sure I can name five. However... let's have a try at this.

1. General disposition. Is the person happy, cheerful, angry, serious, sullen, enthusiastic, or what?

2. General level of intelligence. I meet a lot of fairly bright people, but most don't try to impress me with how smart they are, they just act and talk in intelligent ways. People who ask questions generally make a better impression than those who don't.

Hmmm... Can't think of much beyond that. I do notice physical things like appearance, dress, and grooming, but only if they're particularly good or bad to they make a lasting impression. Care to post your list?

djnap40 52M
22 posts
8/4/2005 7:48 pm

1. Eyes

2. Smile

3. Laugh (often times this is not a pleasant remembrance)

4. Scent (perfume, shampoo, or just them)

5. Mannerisms -- what quirky things do they do -- sometimes its cute, sometimes annoying

-- I am very aware of my appearance when meeting anyone for the first time, if its dinner / lunch I am very aware of how I am perceived to be eating

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