If in a relationship, should your fantasy....  

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
5791 posts
8/24/2006 11:32 pm

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If in a relationship, should your fantasy....

be kept a fantasy or played out.

There is a guy that I have known for a few months now and we are taking it real slow...developing a friendship, etc. Mostly talking on the phone, but we have been on a date or two.

Question of our latest discussion....

Do fantasies played out help to enhance or destroy a relationship???

Be honest guys, I know that your knee-jerk reaction is going to be "enhance" but of course; however, in your course of experiences, has this really truly been the case???? Honestly....

What is your fav fantasy that you have???

Do you think that it will ever be played out in your lifetime -- or, is it merely a dream???

How far does your fantasy go?

Does your fantasy include your partner?

How much trust do you have in your relationship in order to carry out a fantasy that may include another man/woman???

If you have completed any fantasies, what were they? and, do they only make your next fantasies seem more surreal???

Just curious....

TxRose


IviesBidesJuste 55M
3658 posts
8/27/2006 9:46 pm

I've lived out just about everything fantasy I could have ever mustered up. Some of which I wouldn't mind repeating. If you're part of a couple, it's best if both are in total agreement and understanding. Otherwise, if it's just a one-sided thing, you're bound to stir up problems unless it's just between you and the spouse.


rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
8/27/2006 6:52 pm

    Quoting lustmirror:
    ...I'm not actually out on the front line...
    ...but I've always felt that if I held a fantasy,
    it stayed quiet, I didn't tell it,
    but if my partner tripped onto it....well watch out.

    ...fantasy can be a lot like the TV left on all the time... you begin to wonder how necessary you really are.

    Welcome back. So is school done? Are you officially a big table person again?
Thanks for the welcome back.

No,
, school is not over for me yet. Got my Associates in '05; been working on that Bachelor's, but now changing schools because of the new platform the University is using now, and their new lack of listening to feedback from the students.

Had a marathon move as I downsize due my daughter moving on her own.

At any rate... life continues to move forward....and trying to stay 2 steps ahead of the game where-ever possible. I haven't taken a vacation in a VERY long time and thinking about the hotair balloon festival in Alburquerque if there is still hotel space at this time.

How about yourself??? What you been up to?? Staying out of trouble??? lol.....

Keep in touch...

TxRose


lustmirror 63M
2897 posts
8/27/2006 4:58 pm

...I'm not actually out on the front line...
...but I've always felt that if I held a fantasy,
it stayed quiet, I didn't tell it,
but if my partner tripped onto it....well watch out.

...fantasy can be a lot like the TV left on all the time... you begin to wonder how necessary you really are.

Welcome back. So is school done? Are you officially a big table person again?


rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
8/26/2006 5:04 pm

No opinions? You are slipping. You used to always have an opinion before....


rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
8/26/2006 5:03 pm

    Quoting nedthebundler:
    Rose,
    Good gosh almighty it's nice to see you back again....

    I joke about my fantasy being my wife greeting me at the door wearing nothing but a smile and maybe a wicked set of heels, and telling me "Get naked honey, you're eating out tonight!"

    I started our profile because she expressed an interest in sharing me with another woman. It has been over a year now, and she shows no desire to actively seek it out, so I stay and blog. I think once you get to know a person enough to feel comfortable with discussions about sex itself (likes, dislikes etc) then you can go on to what you have fantasies about. If they're the run-of-the mill type, there shouldn't be a problem, but if you have a verrrrrry specific one that would require detailed planning and maybe risky behaviour, maybe it's better to let it remaing a fantasy.

    The way I feel about it is... I've never been disappointed by a fantasy. I've had thoughts about being with two other couples, and my wife being made airtight while the women suck on her breasts... I'm not sure, but it would probably make me feel uncomfortable if it did happen, and my wife is definately NOT interested in making it happen, so it will remain as a fantasy to be talked about while making love.

    Does that answer your question?
It is good to be back -- I think. We'll see how it goes. I am proceeding cautiously.

I think you are right. The guy I dated last year had an extraordinary fantasy that I would never ever carry out, but he enjoys having that fantasy.

This guy that I am talking to has fantasies that would be a little more plausible; however, I am not sure that I would carry those out as well.

In a relationship, it would seem that it would require a great deal of trust between both partners of a relationship in order to explore anything beyond that relationship. We are certainly not at that point in an established relationship. In fact, I am not sure that I could even call him a "boyfriend" since we primarily talk.

That being said, the uncomfortable feeling of jealousy isn't what one is trying to achieve in explorations (or, at least, one would hope not); however, perhaps, that is part of the "rush" that swingers enjoy. I am not a swinger, and not sure that I could ever make a regular practice of it, so I really couldn't tell you about that, although in my 20's/30's one of my best friends (Mormon) married (a Catholic) and swung while I baby sat their boys. I have lost touch with them in the past years that I took a hiatus from the Austin area and have no idea if their marriage had survived their wild swinging days. I'd love to catch up with her and find out.

Guys that I have talked to about their fantasies before have said that "it would add to the relationship". I am not sure what that means if the adding would be potential jealousy....

At any rate....


rm_anacortes 74M
2850 posts
8/25/2006 4:31 pm

HUGZZZZZZZZZZZzzz I don't know..


nedthebundler 56M/59F

8/25/2006 10:58 am

Rose,
Good gosh almighty it's nice to see you back again....

I joke about my fantasy being my wife greeting me at the door wearing nothing but a smile and maybe a wicked set of heels, and telling me "Get naked honey, you're eating out tonight!"

I started our profile because she expressed an interest in sharing me with another woman. It has been over a year now, and she shows no desire to actively seek it out, so I stay and blog. I think once you get to know a person enough to feel comfortable with discussions about sex itself (likes, dislikes etc) then you can go on to what you have fantasies about. If they're the run-of-the mill type, there shouldn't be a problem, but if you have a verrrrrry specific one that would require detailed planning and maybe risky behaviour, maybe it's better to let it remaing a fantasy.

The way I feel about it is... I've never been disappointed by a fantasy. I've had thoughts about being with two other couples, and my wife being made airtight while the women suck on her breasts... I'm not sure, but it would probably make me feel uncomfortable if it did happen, and my wife is definately NOT interested in making it happen, so it will remain as a fantasy to be talked about while making love.

Does that answer your question?

Madness takes its toll. Exact change please!


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