I am so torn....  

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
5791 posts
6/29/2005 5:43 pm

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I am so torn....

Dear Blog Owners:

There is a guy that comments often on my blog who has been a friend in many senses, but on the blog has become a little annoying. It is only that he insists on getting off topic in the blog with his comments. It wouldn't be so bad, but it is consistently.

Initially, he has come across way too serious when he was blogging and many blog owners were quite curt with him. I explained to him that he should lighten up and he did.

For a while, I enjoyed seeing his comments online, but now things to be off topic a lot. I have tried everything from giving subtle hints to kindly telling him to straight out making comments back to him.

By all rights, as per in [blog harshawj]'s blog regarding "Mr. Manners" I have the power to ban him from my blog. The problem with that, if he should reform himself, he may not ever be able to return to my blog and make any future comments. I don't know of a AdultFriendFinder feature to left a ban off of someone that has been banned without, perhaps, contacting the IT folks with this site and having them go in and physically remove the ban.

I feel that ample warnings have been given.

This is the last thing that I would want to do.

I am not a viscious type of perosn; in fact, I have no vendictive bone in my body. I just want everyone to get along and have fun.

I have truly been having fun with this AdultFriendFinder blog and hope to continue doing this forever. There will always be those few people who make comments that you may not wish were there, and most of us just overlook those remarks and move foward to keep the thread going; however, when it becomes consistent, it feels like a thorn in one's side.

I have strived to keep the Blogland alive by encouraging new bloggers to keep blogging, banter with my commarderie bloggers, and keep things good spirited. But I am facing a huge dilemna that I could certainly use some sage advice.

Should I ban this person????

Should I give him any more chances????

Please advise as one blogger to another.....

Thanks, in advance!

aka Blogland's "Town Flower"

ps If you don't want to comment below, you can always send me an AFFmail.

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
7/1/2005 9:22 pm

cumtounge44 - Thanks.

UPDATE: This person has sent me an apology and I have accepted his apology. We'll see what happens. In any case, the warning has been sent.

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
6/30/2005 10:52 am

GB_Cple - True.

GB_Cple 66M/55F  
3042 posts
6/30/2005 9:26 am

Delete at first, if no improvement , bann,
hey it's only cyberspace

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
6/30/2005 7:41 am

harshawj - Thank you for your sage advice.

avgjoe19602 - It isn't like me Joe. I am a very, very, very patient woman; however, push me into a corner (so-to-speak) better watch out!! After all, I do have some redness to my hair... and you know what they say about red heads!!!!

smileguyqc - Thank you. I am more diplomatic than a lot of people - almost to a point of it being a fault. But there does seem to come to a point when you have to draw the line. BTW, I would NEVER EVER hit anyone with a stick (a paddle maybe??? lol...just kidding, but usually a light bop on the head to see if anyone is home).

74ShovelHD - Oh, would you like a spanking??? hmmm... just kidding with you!! Thank you. It seems as a more direct approach can be warranted at times. Hmmm...

SirMounts - Sooooo very true!!!

SirMounts 102M

6/29/2005 10:11 pm

I would say that if what you have written above doesn't do the trick, probably nothing will. you have been patient with Him, so now it is more in His hands than yours, as He must choose to do the right thing, now and in the future.

74ShovelHD 53M

6/29/2005 9:42 pm

If I ever comment out of context... please take me over your knee and spank me!!

I would email this person directly and speak your mind. If I ever did anything to offend or irritate someone, I would hope they would tell me. Maybe this person doesn't know... I know there are a lot of hidden meanings in the blog world, but sometimes you have to be direct!!

I wish you well!!

smileguyqc 53M

6/29/2005 9:24 pm

Your blog is your space... you shouldn't feel badly about exerting control over it... if you have e-mail contact with this person perhaps warn him or her. Have to say you are way more polite than most... Is it I, if it is you'll have to hit me with a stick or something I can be a little dense with respect to those subtle hint thingies.

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