How often do you feel that...  

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
5791 posts
7/6/2005 8:21 am

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How often do you feel that...

sex is over as soon as the thrusting motions is over. Do you have to immediately grab a cigarrette, for example, after the deed is done? How often does your partner just say, "Hmmmm, baby, that was great" then either just rolls over.... or gets up and do whatever else is on the agenda for the day.

On my blog about magic fingers, xeeking_you thinks the magic fingers is more about an attitude -- fixing and serving breakfast in bed...etc. While that is part of every good relationship (being comfortable to treat each other like a King or Queen on a daily basis), it isn't what I perceive as the magic fingers.

Magic fingers is all about not bringing the sexual event to a screeching hault and rolling over and that it is it. It is about continuing to touch one another...until a true euphoria seems to exist and the bonding between the couples reaches a new height for very existance.

I am not a therapist, but when people talk to me about sex seeming to be meaningless in their marriage, I often ask my friends just how far do they allow themselves to go with the sexual event/encounter. More times than not, the men and women in this relationship just bring the encounter to a screeching halt. I tell them that it doesn't have to be anything kinky that they do but the mere light touches of one another to bring the height of the rush of the sexual encounter to a different height of euphoria. They try it -- and they are amazed.

Sex doesn't have to be just an act, it is a level of intimacy -- that when truly explored, can put one in ecstacy. I had this level of intimacy with my late husband and believe tha it will occur again in my life.

Of course, all the little extras in a relationship that each other does for one another to treat each other like King and Queen, helps as well... but you will experience a new euphoria if you don't treat the sexual encounters as just a deed.

Have fun and a blessed day! Feel free to share more about what you do make the experience much more intimate.....

lovelyok 41M
1 post
7/7/2005 11:00 pm

pleace help me

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
7/7/2005 12:01 am

ladysluvar - Yes, yes, yes!! That is it exactly!

rm_ladysluvar 47M
4 posts
7/6/2005 10:48 pm

Txrose4uNTX. You're an experienced woman. I bet you're also a good lover, both in and out of the bedroom.

Absolutely, I have to agree with you. Sex doesn't stop when the thrusting act ends. It starts even before the foreplay. It is a level of intimacy. It begins from the eye contacts, the kisses, the cuddling, touching and savoring the sensations of climaxing, and even way beyond both you and your partner reaching the level of ecstacy, and this feeling of pleasure should linger on until the next round starting over again. The relationship should be built on more than the sex act itself. One should not treat the sexual encounter as a deed, but the emotional feelings, the touch, the caring for each other after the sex act counts as part of the relationship as well. Not until the true act of love reaching to this level of a new euphoria, one has not truly reach utopia!

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
7/6/2005 1:42 pm

papyrina - Yep... sometimes people forget it isn't just all about themselves getting fulfilled!!

papyrina 51F
21133 posts
7/6/2005 12:42 pm

so true txrose and how often we forget

I'm a

i'm here to stay

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
7/6/2005 12:14 pm

cumtounge44 - Perhaps, you will need to take the lead on this... and show her what it is all about??? Maybe she will soon see the light on this and share in the joy....

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
7/6/2005 11:10 am

Hmmmm... some ghosts have removed a couple comments, as well as mine!! Auugghhh.... Will supply a response again to 2 old comments and 2 new comments in the meantime! What is going on with AdultFriendFinder??? lol....

PillsburyCodeBoy - It is certainly not my preference either by far!!!

ExploreMore4Me - Certainly does give the wrong impression, indeed? Better, if you have to take a shower, bring your partner with you to share in the intimacy of the shower as well (lathering each other up, touching each other, and imagine yourself kissing one another under a waterfall..... rather than send off the message that you just performed a dirty deed!!

tallandlean00 - Absolutely!!!

hotandhorny107 - yes, the cuddling, touching, and savoring the sensations are all essential to making the encounter last for a long time....

hotandhorny107 58F

7/6/2005 10:38 am

There is truly a difference between making love and just having sex, and I agree that it should be making love. That is the slow sensual experience that should should be mutually satisfying and involves all the senses and never rushing out of bed for whatever reason there may be. Cuddling, touching and savoring the sensations well after climaxing is the best....

tallandlean00 66M

7/6/2005 9:45 am

You haven't experiened true love making, if its over after climax. I love to spend a lot of time turning a woman on with my mouth and tongue. After extended oral and several positions, then the mutual climax, more touching, tasting and oral for additinal climaxes for my female partner. This is true lovemaking. Long, extended loving.

ExploreMore4Me 59F

7/6/2005 9:30 am

txrose...I couldn't agree more with you. So much is missed by the quick ending. I do believe for the casual "encounter" the need for quick endings is significant in that, prolonging such activities such as delicate touching and soft whispering maybe too close to an emotional involvement. As you stated, you're not a therapist and neither am I. My particular pet peeve is the "jump out of bed and head directly into the shower!":that particular action certainly sends all kinds of disturbing messages!

Very nice blog entry! Glad you posted this! Hope others take your advice.

PillsburyCodeBoy 60M

7/6/2005 9:28 am

I agree completely. To me sex is about celebrating the sense of touch. It should be about touching each other at all stages, until you've both had enough.

I think what you're talking about takes time, and today, too many couples don't have enough of it. Sometimes I hear people say that rushed sex is better than no sex, but I wonder. Couples today are busy and too often let their schedules dictate how long sex lasts and how much physical intimacy is involved. If that's the best you can do, it's the best you can do. But it's far from ideal and certainly not my preference.

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