Got spies????  

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
5791 posts
5/26/2005 1:15 pm

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Got spies????


actually my daughter and her friend announced at an after graduation lunch today that they saw me with a guy at a restaurant last week...and who was he???

Didn't mention to her about AdultFriendFinder at all...didn't want her to get the wrong idea.....but, I guess I need to start being more careful as my daughter, I am finding out, is also lurking at night. Why she didn't come up to the table and introduce herself and her friends, I don't know; but, I am glad she didn't. I wouldn't have been able to prepare my date for her inquisitive nature and to be discreet in the explanations.

I know that there are married folks out there. If I cannot hide the fact that I am dating from my own daughter, how in the world do married folks hide that aspect from their loved ones???? Are most of the married folk doing this AdultFriendFinder thing with or without their spouses' knowledge????

Inquiring minds want to know!!!

GutsyDialsAetas 59M
7 posts
6/1/2005 6:54 am

Well, just because I know Linux doesn't mean I understood what you were wanting to do with your hard drive!!! If you'd like to discuss it further, feel free to email me.

So far, I'd have to say yes. I've met some VERY sexy ladies via AdultFriendFinder & other avenues. Just not someone I've managed to hang on to for long enough!!! Know anyone interested in a "friends with benefits" type thing for some period of time???

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
5/31/2005 6:52 pm

Oh, lol... mwelby... the Linux was on your profile!!

Question is though... have the results been worth it for you????

GutsyDialsAetas 59M
7 posts
5/30/2005 11:15 am


Not sure exactly what you're talking about hard drive wise, but feel free to email me at Yahoo, same handle, if you'd like to discuss that further.

Yes, it DOES eat at me. It's just a question of "Are the results worth it?" I DO hate the lying part of it, though, no question.

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
5/27/2005 11:13 pm

mwelby - Linux??? (reading your profile) hmmm... I have a hard drive that I want to create a switch between my other hard drive with MSXPPRO.... Gone to Frye's... they have no such thing.... Any ideas???? lol...(enough techie talk)

On another note.... Question: How long have you lived this double life? Just curious... I would think it would eat at you after a while; I know that it would me... at least, I think it certainly would.

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
5/27/2005 11:09 pm

I am not so sure that I could have quite so open a marriage as you.... Once I ended up in a 3some... long story (maybe the subject matter of a future blog)..... and that was an emotional event for me. I just don't think I could be in such an open relationship; however, for those who are, it definately takes a lot of trust and committment to remain in such a relationship.

Apolybear 54M

5/27/2005 1:28 pm

My wife and I have an open marriage, and yes she knows I'm here. She even wrote a post on my blog just to reassure others I wasn't cheating.

I couldn't imagine what it would be like to conceal a lover from my wife. She’s very intelligent and intuitive, so I doubt I could pull it off.

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
5/27/2005 12:53 pm

Dang, Sporty... Thankfully, I don't have to walk on the eggshells that you do, or others might have to do. My only concern is my daughter. I also honor the discreet meetings of those I might date...


GutsyDialsAetas 59M
7 posts
5/27/2005 8:49 am


VERY carefully!!!!!!!!!!!

sportyfun56 106M

5/27/2005 6:33 am

I also have daughters in High School and College. The very last thing in the world I could stand is that they would find out what I am doing on this site. Or of any results of my being on this site. I am also married and my wife does not know what I am doing here. That would be the second worst thing in the world for me... So I must be extremely discreet in anything that I do. Any outside activities that I engage in must be planned and accounted for perfectly. I take extreme measures to hide any activities while maintaining "normalcy" at home. I have a very good relationship with my daughters but know that I am risking that here. It is not something that I am very proud of but that is the situation right now.
Those times that I have had meetings with someone from the site, I have always met somewhere "out of the way" and had a work/networking angle to use in case of bumping into someone that I knew. I've frequently had meetings with people (including ladies) in coffee shops/restaurants in a business setting. So that is an "excuse" I can use at almost anytime if I am prepared.

This is a tricky business to be sure.


rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
5/26/2005 7:26 pm

smileguyqc - That is part of being a single parent with a single child. It was the two of us against the world and all odds for a long time..... struggling to survive. We have never been destitute ever.... Long story.... Unless you have ever been a single parent and been through what we had, it would be harder for you to understand. Even so, that has brought us closer together in many ways...

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
5/26/2005 7:14 pm

lol...innocent... actually, it's not that bad with me. Especially with the fact that I am not married and don't really have the same issues.....She has surprised me by her spying on me...

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
5/26/2005 7:11 pm

avgjoe.... lol... yes, you got that right!! Teens are very funny!!! I have explained to her that I am dating again.....but, that doesn't change her very inquisitive nature!!! lol....

Thanks for the feedback. Feel better!

smileguyqc 53M

5/26/2005 7:07 pm

Another with here... its only fair that if I'm playin around she gets to too... best to talk and be open, don't see why you daughter has to know the details of your love life though?

innocent19735 44M

5/26/2005 6:49 pm

HELL YES!!! I'm a frequent "VICTIM" of being taken advantage by married women and I really do think they like..better yet love the thought of knowing they can get caught!! especially with a younger man. IF they could get the satisfaction of knowing they're husbands saw them with a younger man then the husband would straighten up and fly right! Then theres the ones that dont want to get caught and they are straight forward with you!! Cant call them at home or cell phone, they'll call you when needed.. Cant park car next to each other, she'll pick you up around the corner! IT's a serious game to them. MUMS THE WORD!

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
5/26/2005 5:56 pm

Yes...and the fact that I was oblivious to her being there at all. We are extremely close in many ways and, in a sense, I do value her opinion; however, sometimes, her opinion is not wanted.

My now deceased husband was met through the internet. She had despised that idea and fought against him often because I had met him on the internet. I don't want her to have that preconceived idea about anyone that I am dating and I wouldn't want them to tell her, "Hi, I met your Mom through the internet" much less saying "Hi, I met your Mom through AdultFriendFinder". Not that she knows about AdultFriendFinder, but she is still too young for AdultFriendFinder and understanding protecting herself.

When she was 14....after learning that I met my last husband through the internet...she and a friend of hers (after both her Dad and myself got married to separate people that year within a month of each other) got on the internet and met a 21 yo hispanic male through the internet and ran off with him for 4 very frightening days. Through her runaway experience (despite my trying to get the FBI involved too) she ended up getting everything she values stolen from her. As a result, she now has a strong opinion about meeting people through the internet....and, the last thing I would need to happen would be for my date to announce to her that I met him through the internet.

So far....she hasn't asked where I met him. In the past, I have been able to utilize a connection -- ie, if we both had worked for the same telephone company many years ago, I would tell her that he is an old friend that I had known through the telephone company and had just ran into him again and now we are dating a little.

Thus, herein lies my need for being a little discreet eventhough I am not married and do not need to sneak around b/c of that. What I don't understand is those who do need to be discreet and may be seen in public with someone else, how do they explain off that? How do they handle that? and if my daughter and her friend did suddenly appear at the table, what do I (or my date) say??? lol....

Some advice please...

redswallow777 48M
6810 posts
5/26/2005 3:06 pm

With in my case...but not sure I understand your fright....were you worried about you or your guest's anonymity. You were just two adults out on a date....yes? But I think I can understand your need to have an adult date with no interuptions.....much less have to deal with what your child was thinking.

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