Age factor?  

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
5791 posts
7/21/2005 11:49 am

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Age factor?

Normally accepted age difference ranges seem to be 1-7 years....especially, as people get older. Some people are finding themselves dating folks that are 8-20 years difference these days though, albeit not the norm.

Because it isn't the norm....

I was wondering how many people are actually finding themselves in this bracket......

and how do they deal with it when it comes to family and friends???? and, especially, the parents?????

Just curious....

kandykutie 55M/40F
1 post
7/25/2005 8:40 am

My husband is older than me... by years, but it has never really been a problem, and we never worry about what other people think, We have lots of fun together. We have been together over 7 years. And my parents got over it after the first 2 years

alice593 71M

7/24/2005 1:55 am

Kind of, txrose, but don't know if he had any health problems that could cause him to be that way.

triag916 51M

7/23/2005 10:07 pm

Ms. txrose. . .Thank You, however, I regrettably forgot to mention, the maturity factor. We all know, women mature faster than men. I think, (uh oh) That's why men are attracted to younger women. Those men tend to overlook the beauty of a woman's mind, which eventually leads to orgasm bliss

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
7/23/2005 7:58 am

triag916 - You are absolutely right. Age is a matter of communication. I tend to have a good communication skill across the board of ages; age factor doesn't play into my communication skills at all; I get along with everyone (young and old)!!!

triag916 51M

7/22/2005 11:59 pm

Wow. I'm floored by some of these responses. Age. What is age? Is it a state of mind? A physically structure? Or an enigma of a conscience soul? When you meet, greet, or walk by an individual, do you wonder, hmm... How old or how young? Or.. Are you looking to create a stereotype on the "appearance" of their shell? I have dated 12 years younger and 9 years older. Not because of a scale, but becuase of the ability to communicate with those individuals. Certain/Most experiences are dictated by your environment. Everyone, woman, we've have had common interests. Mozart to ZZTOP, Eminem to Jonny Cash, Vietnam to Iraq. So, no matter what the "age", it comes down to communication, and what is wanted, needed, desired, and fulfilled.

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
7/22/2005 10:10 pm

Lipator - Wow! That is a big age difference... and a big swing. My first husband was 7 years older; 2nd was 7 years younger; and 3rd was 4 years older....

keithcancook - Yeah... I don't make a issue of the age factor; but, it always seems like someone has their opinion about it!!! lol....

alice593 - Sooooo, you are saying that your ex-wife's fourth husband is an old fuddy-duddy???? lol...

jim5131 - With those dimples of yours, I can clearly hear you say that like a Gomer Pyle sort of "surprise"!! lol....

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
7/22/2005 10:01 pm

4nik8_4u - It is so nice when the age differences disappear totally from view, isn't it???

EvilMuppet69 - Assets??? What would those be??? lol...

pASSionwantd2 - lol... my 70 yo mother still thinks she is 29!!! lol...

CallMeSirInCA 49M

7/22/2005 8:36 pm

The biggest difference for me was 20 years older than me. It didn't last long. Then years later, I went out with a woman that was 20 and I was 32. That lasted longer, and we were more compatible. Most of the time the ages were within a couple of years.

jim5131 55M
1296 posts
7/22/2005 6:44 pm

I was in the bracket with all girlfriend and up to wife. Funny, though...right after the divorce (she was screwing a guy 10-years younger while I was overseas) I threw a party with a bunch of co-workers. One of the girls was a 23-year old that was crazy about me..I was 35. I've had several younger women and a few older...mostly within 3 years of my own age.

My former remarried....he's 10 years younger....surprise.

alice593 71M

7/22/2005 1:55 am

My first wife, is on her fourth now. He is about 15 years older. When seeing them on occasion, it isn't too lively. He doesn't seem to have much where-with-all, when dealing with company. So when we are all together with our kids, it isn't that pleasurable. He is a great guy and all, but just not too responsive in conversation.

keithcancook 60M
17718 posts
7/21/2005 6:17 pm

Hmm, maybe that was my problem. Let's see, the first girl I was real serious with was 27 when I was 19. That lasted 3 yrs. My ex wife was 7 yrs younger than me. That lasted 15 yrs. The last serious relationship was closer. She was 5 yrs younger and we were 5 years together. One gal I dated for a while last year was around 10 years older. (she was the only one out of all of em who seemed to have a problem with age. I never did discover what the actual range was between us. But I grew tired of her referring to it so I stopped calling on her. She began to make me feel self concious).

I had no problem with family or others due to these ranges in age.

Lipator 56M
71 posts
7/21/2005 5:36 pm

My first sexual girlfriend was about 20 years older, but my last girlfriend was 10 years younger. My mum was a bit upset about the 1st one but not prohibitively so.

pASSionwantd2 50M
1316 posts
7/21/2005 5:25 pm

My Family was alway's on me for Dating what they called YoungN's,Now it seem's these Day's Older is after younger and Vice-versa,And I can tell you that there are alot of 49 to 65 yearold women on this site who think they are 23,LOL.

EvilMuppet69 37M
89 posts
7/21/2005 3:44 pm

I think that's difficult to answer, and it can vary depending on the type of relationship.

I have lots of friends of various ages, but the closer I move towards a romantic relationship, the less of a difference I would go for.

If we're talking about a friends-with-benefits relationship, then that would also depend on the individuals concerned. If a partner was older or younger, they would need to have other qualities to compensate.

For instance, they might have nice assets like yours.

rm_4nik8_4u 61M
2501 posts
7/21/2005 2:39 pm

My wife is ten years younger than me. She was one month shy of her 18th birthday when we got married. I was one month past my 28th birthday. Nobody, even her parents, questioned the age difference. We just seemed to fit together. This September will be our 22nd anniversary.

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