I'm Single but I'm not looking at you like [i]that![/i]  

rm_tuttle 43M
106 posts
7/19/2006 3:39 am

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I'm Single but I'm not looking at you like [i]that![/i]


I'm freelance in my work. I travel around quite a bit creating wondrous graphical images for unsuspecting clients.

It's my job to look at things closely: places, objects and people. And although, to some extent, I'm paid to stare at things, I've suddenly got a bit self-conscious now I'm single.

The places I work are full of "beautiful" people; designers, artworkers etc... It's a profession devoid of suits but welcoming of self-expression through clothes and hair. People in the creative arts tend to feel obliged to make themselves look a bit gorgeous, as there's the prevailing attitude, "if you can't create yourself how are you going to create anything else?"

I work quite closely with people in my job because to discuss creative matters is to become intimate with the way we view the world. There is an inherent flirtatiousness with the whole process of discussing how you "feel" about things and how things should appear.

While non-single there seems less ambiguity about this flirtation, because everyone is sure the line is being drawn at the front door after 6pm. However, now I'm single, even I'm not sure whether I'm flirting for "the cause", or trying to impress women and laugh / draw them into bed!

Maybe I should embrace this feeling - part of me is sure there's nothing wrong with being talented and a bit flirtatious. But I would like to address a question to women (if anyone can be arsed to read down this far)...

Are you inherently suspicious of men's motives in the workplace - particularly if they happen to seem available? I find the British very repressed generally - which I'm not - and so I'm endlessly confused by the sexual politics of the workplace. All comments welcome...

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Reverbe2 43F
3297 posts
7/19/2006 5:15 am

I've never worked anywhere where there's been any decent men available or not. Aside from my Line Manager while at M & S n he was gay. Sorry can't add much to this debate.

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rm_Ellenback 58F
966 posts
7/19/2006 6:19 am

Nope, not suspicious at all, although they just may be suspicious of MINE! Of course, being Canuck and all, that's normal. The environment I work in is also devoid of suits, 'club gear' being the norm for everyone, and I am one of the more (ahem!) mature women there. But guess who is getting ogled? LOL Ok, so the rest of the 20 year olds are too, but I do alright!

Nothing wrong with being flirtatious, hon. One of the sexiest men I know is a natural-born 'ho' and all the women know it, but we love him anyways - well, not ME... I DO have SOME standards, but I love him as a good friend, have fun partying with him, and I would do almost anything for him, as he would do in return. We just know that part of him will always be polyamorous, and to not try to pin him down! That's just the way he is.

You might have similar characteristics. Oh, and welcome to the blogs, you've been a virtual writing machine since you started LOL I think, or maybe, I hope, that you'll find the release you need forthcoming from placing those fingers on the keyboard as frequently as you've been putting them elsewhere!

(((softboobyhugs)))

Elle


rm_tuttle 43M
75 posts
7/19/2006 6:34 am

Well Reverbe - either your standards are impossibly high or ... I'm not sure what else!! Doesn't matter now though, of course, because you met someone. Don't nice people turn up in the strangest places?

Elle - Hello! Very nice to meet you and thanks for viewing my postings (that was just slightly flirtatious, but innocent

I don't think I am polyamorous (if you're a man, this used to be called "misogynistic" back in the 90's)! I'm also well capable of thinking and talking about plenty of "other" subjects. But hey, it's summer here and the rutting season is so short!

I'm actually bored today, hence the prolific posting. Start a new job tomorrow... in a new office. Yikes! Ladies watch out....
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Reverbe2 43F
3297 posts
7/19/2006 7:11 am

Tuttle

I only recently had standards. Before it was a case of take what you can get. I'm really not very attractive.Yes nice people do turn up in the most unlikely places and I for one am glad they do

Good luck with your new job. Hope you find a nice lady there. They sat most people meet their partners at work

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Reverbe2 43F
3297 posts
7/19/2006 7:13 am

Tuttle

I only recently had standards. Before it was a case of take what you can get. I'm really not very attractive.Yes nice people do turn up in the most unlikely places and I for one am glad they do

Good luck with your new job. Hope you find a nice lady there. They say most people meet their partners at work

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Please view my blog reverbe2 Sweethearts Sanctuary


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