Getting it off my chest!  

rm_trulydivyn 53F
98 posts
5/31/2005 8:14 pm

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Getting it off my chest!

Today I cried most of the day away...I couldn't control it, and it pissed me off! Talk about your complete emotional melt down day! I was even blubbering at the red light on the way to work because I heard a song that reminded me of someone I'd as soon throw water balloons at than care about right now. Every time I think I've made some progress, something takes me back to square one, and I can't figure out how square one got there to begin with! Does anyone else ever feel like that? Like the farther you go, the more behind you seem to be? One step forward, two steps back? My mental state of mind is fairly unpredictable right now, I can say this, it's a bitch being so emotional at times that you can't control it...the utter rage that boils to the surface, and you have to release it somehow without self destruction, so you can only sit and cry...I hate throwing tantrums...I know that it's more than okay to let it all out, but JEEZ this is torture I tell you! Pure torture!

Plumpness1 48F

5/31/2005 9:24 pm

Hey Truly,

I understand what you're going through. Many people really don't get how music and songs have such a strong tie to memories that a few notes can evoke the strongest emotions in me too! I'm a worrier/over-analyzer by nature so sometimes I get overwhelmed with emotion. What's really bad is when I get depressed over, not my own problems, but the state of the world?!

Like you, I remember bursting out blubbering at a stoplight listening to Sting's remake of a country song "I'm so happy that I can't stop crying"! (And I'm a BLACK chick!) It's a song about a divorced man who was mourning the loss of his wife and children. Something about a man singing so sadly about that subject (which you don't usually hear men talk about without anger) just collapsed me!!

Another time: A man who I considered my true 'grandfather' died when I was about 13 years old. I felt sad but I never cried for him. Seven years later, on the way to work, an old song he used to play came on the radio. I was floored! I missed him so much it overwhelmed me to the point where I had to sit down! I cried throughout the whole song, then I remembered a bunch of good memories, then suddenly I felt happy! I felt that I TRULY remembered him in the best, most honest way!

So, you're not alone. But stop throwing tantrums and get yourself some St. Johns Wort (in high dosage) and take it everyday. It'll smooth you out a little!


rm_Elysia2005 43F
412 posts
5/31/2005 10:54 pm


Just for the record... Sting didn't remake that song, Sting did the original. Toby Keith did the remake, with Sting as a duet.

That said... I know all too well the power of music to pull unwanted emotions to the surface. I have a zillion examples, but my favorite is from when I was pregnant with my oldest. Life was a little rough at that point anyway, and I worked nights, so would make the 30-minute drive home around midnight, in my car that got two radio stations - one Tejano, which I can't get into, the other country... Driving along the freeway at night, alone, tired, emotionally vulnerable... at the time when the country station is doing love-song dedications... many's the night I had to pull over and bawl my eyes out to get it out of my system.

pantymansmyp 44M
69 posts
5/31/2005 10:58 pm

I think it was simply the day... I found myself angry for no logical reason for most of the day, and tearing up & silently weeping most of the afternoon... There's something changing in the metaphysical web that we're all connected through, and I suspect it's something worth crying over... Any ways, hope you feel better!

problklover 53M/F

6/2/2005 9:21 pm

Hey even Us guys go through the same pain and emotional upheavals. Sometimes there is so much pain within that I go and workout extra hard so that the pain inside is replaced with the aching muscles. At this rate, I will have 55” arms and a 30” waist…LOL I have a way to go.

Every time I think that I can move forward with someone, something or someone steps in the way. Right now I am just waiting to see what the future brings Me. When the pain from love that is not there…it is the greatest pain one can ever go through….well at least in My mind. Perhaps the fates with change one never knows. I keep meeting the wrong people for all the wrong reasons.

Plumpness1 48F

6/3/2005 7:22 pm

Fellow-Sting-Fan Elysia,

Since I believe I am the biggest Sting fan EVER, I'm ashamed that I didn't know the origin of that song. I should have guessed Sting wrote it with those sensitive lyrics !

Some other songs that will make my wistful and teary are Fragile and It's Probably Me which are both by Sting!

Maybe you can answer if Sting actually wrote my absolute favorite song "Fragile" or if it was Isaac Hayes? I've heard both versions but never looked it up.

Anyway, we all agree that music can evoke emotional responses. What about a smell? My first love wore Drakkar Noir cologne and to this day, I have gone nuts with romantic/sexual memories whenever I smell it!


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