Are politeness and manners DEAD??!  

rm_tlaw781 38M
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6/22/2006 8:16 pm

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6/22/2006 10:02 pm

Are politeness and manners DEAD??!


So I'm at the ball park last night and in between innings I go to get a beer and brawt and fulfill the summer dream as much as possible.
As I get to the stand to order, the attendant immediately tells me they are waiting on buns and he hands me my beer as I wait. Bare with me but here's how the exchange went- We're waiting on buns just so you know" Thank you that's fine I'll just pay and wait with my beer thank you. "When the buns come what do you want on yours" I would like the peppers and such please, thank you-
Now how hard was that? I knew he wasn't personally making the bread in some underground bakery below the stadium and he was nice enough to tell me they were getting more it would be a wait.I knew he didn't have some master plan to fuck me over take my money and make me miss more of the game than necessary. BUT noooo how many people who came after me got pissed threw attitude and acted like the were the fucking CENTER of the universe. Not ONE please or THANK YOU. Just me me me.
Some can say well that was just one example people don't always do that. Well..here's one I see every week.
I like to frequent a subway sandwich shop near where I work once or twice a week and they pretty much know me. Not by name or where I work but hopefully how polite I am to them.
Here's an exchange- Would you like cheese. Yes please american thank you. Bread? White is fine thank you. Toppings? Lettuce tomatoes blah blah please thank you.
Again, how hard is that? The people behind the counter are not perfect, believe you me I have had many a fucked up subway sandwich. BUT, i realize they make mistakes and still deserve a polite demeanor at least. BUT, noooo how many people do I see almost yelling at the worker with the snottiest demeanor like it's going to really make your sandwich taste so much better. It's not.
Yes, I have had to translate for a spanish speaking worker who's telling their non speaking comrades that there's no lettuce left. I give a chuckle and with a reassuring smile say not a problem when they apologize for the wait. It's not gonna get lettuce there any quicker for me to talk down to them and advise them they are beneath my service standards.
So my question is are manners and politeness dead? Are people so miserable in their own lives they can't extend the slightest of courtesies to another human being? Yes i knew I would never see the cab driver I tipped $100 on christmas eve but jesus it was Christmas eve and he was helping me with his service. I was saying thank you and hoping the money would aid his family in the new year. Did it have to be $100 to say thank you? No, but I was fortunate and was sure he could use it with his young sons more than I could.
Is it so wrong to chat with someone in the service industry you don't know and maybe learn something about them? Is it so wrong to make them feel recognized and appreciated with a thank you or words of appreciation????

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