Train Wreck  

rm_titsandtires 51M/41F
2973 posts
2/9/2006 3:12 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Train Wreck

What a great term. I love it. I also love the fact that it is most commonly used to describe a relationship. At least it is in the circles that I run in.

We all know these people... The ones with the "train wreck" relationships. Some of us have been those people. Now I'm not talking about the marriage that last 4 years, one cheats on the other, divorce, yada, yada, yada... I'm talking about the 19 year old girl... gets pregnant... b.f. is 38, lives with his aunt and her boyfriend in his parents garage... she's a cosmetology student... he's "in between" jobs... the two jobs he's "in between" are both 15k/year... they fight constantly... both smoke pack and a half a day of 100's and the kicker is almost always the same....

It's somebody elses fault. That's right, you heard me. It seems to always be "societies" fault for the position their in. Or it's because of his old boss, or her mom, or both... you know what I mean.

In a way, I think that's one of the things that makes this type of dysfunctional relationship a "train wreck". The fact that they usually involve two individuals with no comprehension of the words accountability, or responsibility.

I'm writing this today because I'm starting to see this happen to a young couple I know. They are far from this "train wreck" stage now, but I'm just starting to see the writing on the wall. I want to be able to "head it off at the pass", so to speak, but it won't do any good. They are likable kids, but they have a bunch of learning to do. The one thing that's really sad is that they are about to bring another into this world of theirs. The one good thing they have going for them is the fact that their parents are loaded. Both sets.

I know, pretty boring blog entry, huh? I just wanted to vent a bit. Thanks for suffering through this with me....


tillerbabe 56F

2/9/2006 10:05 pm

Not boring at all.. I have some very distinct opinions about victimization vs. accountability. I may BLOG on it at a later time. I do agree with you though....

rm_titsandtires 51M/41F
3656 posts
2/10/2006 6:35 am

see this comment above by tillerbabe? Yeah, this is NUMBER 500 for me! thanks tiller! You're the greatest!


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