How do you do it after 19 years?  

rm_thickannie 52F
14 posts
8/10/2006 1:16 pm

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How do you do it after 19 years?

I've decided it's time to end a 19 year celibacy streak, and wondering if I'm going about it the right way. Should I be getting out there turning up my tail, or take it slow...just do the internet thing, or hit up the bars. I don't know where to begin. Hell, I don't even have a good reason for the 19 years of celibacy, other than fear of disease. 19 years ago was a scary time. I'm a nice looking lady, a little on the fat side, but I can turn heads. Is it hard this day & age to get men to use condoms? I need some guidance...and maybe some offers.

rm_fender831 61M
10 posts
8/10/2006 1:33 pm

Welcome to the blogs. I can't even begin to offer advice in you situation, but I wish you well in your search. As far as condoms go, I wouldn't take no for an answer.

Keep us posted on your progress!

Visit my blog at [blog fender831]

CognitiveVoodoo 45F

8/10/2006 1:35 pm

wow... 19 years????? What did you do in all that time?

CB_2 51F

8/10/2006 1:48 pm

Annie, you don't "get" men to use condoms. You make it clear that it's part of the deal, and bring your own (they never say no if you're ready to put it on!). Yes, it must be nerve-wracking to start again after being celibate for 19 years (really??), but remember that in today's world, women are equal and you can be assertive and still sexy. Just know what you want and go for it.

Courage, girl - it'll be fun!


Blogito ergo sum.

eclecticsoul4u 57F
942 posts
8/10/2006 1:51 pm

I would suggest you read Bipolybabe's blog. She has some really good information on it about getting the sexual experience you want and how to do it safely not only in the bedroom but in setting up that first meeting with an internet friend.

Second, I was celibate for 9 and a half years. After all that time my first sexual experience wasn't that great simply because this energy center wasn't fully activated. Now after that first encounter I was so horny I could go screaming into the night. Unfortunately I was on a business trip when this happened and returned home to the celibate life.

If I had it to do over again I would be dating someone that way the tsunami of re-awakened sexual energy would have an outlet. Nothing worse than waking all that up only to have to put it back in it's box again.

Good luck with everything!!!

sexypeter1963 53M
1 post
8/10/2006 2:50 pm

i wish you luck i am sure your a very nice person i am a guy not known where to look or more not known where to start but i think somone out there for everyone of us hope we get results soon

Hydragenias 56F

8/10/2006 3:13 pm

Welcome to the Blogs! Please feel free to drop on by hydragenias even if it's just to say Hi!

Smyrna2755 40M

8/12/2006 11:08 am

Good luck in your quest. It should not be terribly hard to meet someone on AdultFriendFinder. Just picking the right one may be the challenge. Don't be too reluctant to meet a few people in person to break the ice but do take precautions like first meet in a public place, etc.

rm_fivecrows 46M

9/2/2006 9:19 pm

6 years, for me. It ended three years ago, but in a relationship with a rather sexually reserved partner. That's not why it ended... many reasons, but I now find myself in a similar situation as you.

I'm really beginning to open it up, but not too familiar with the gears.

I'm just having faith that the right partner is present(I don't neccessarily mean this site, I mean they exist and are around)and all I have to do is give it time, and it'll all fall into place. Let go and let nature guide me, and try not to thing so goddamn much!

It can be difficult, just trusting timing. But it's worth it.

I think.


Good luck to you. Good luck to me. And, yes, safe sex, always.

Come by and say hi anytime.


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