Xmas is coming and this goose is NOT gonna get fat!  

rm_tennismaiden 59F
2103 posts
12/22/2005 7:51 am

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Xmas is coming and this goose is NOT gonna get fat!

Ohhhh the cruelty of the holidays, I inhale scents that produce the insatiable need to stuff my face. I'm a bit insatiable if most of you haven't already figured this out.

The season is bittersweet for me, memories of kitchen appliances being unwrapped, my children waking at 5 am and smells of freshly ground french roast brewing.

I've been grossly disciplined to loose some weight this year due to some mistakes over the last months. When each New Year approaches I longingly pray for change, keep vigilent in my personal progress and dream about one day having a holiday filled with joy.

The concept that holidays creep up with expectations of granduer but instead produce much melancholy. We gorge ourselves with food and liquor as a fatal attempt to go out with a bang. In fact there is no "bang" for this Tennismaiden and I greet it with "just everyday" mentality to get through.

Another confession....(dreamy and anticipatory) what I really wish is for something I'll never have. Now don't read me wrong here....I'm grateful for much in my life. Three heatlhy boys a beautiful home, some financial security and being free from strife. BUt there is this little whisper of a voice inside my head pleading for more.

To be indulged, I'm deserving...paid my dues over many years ohhhh bahh freaken humbug. Just once in my life waking to some one else that's made the coffee, trimmed the tree, wrapped the gifts and taken enough thought to blowing my mind with something sparkly showy and decadent would be fabulous!

Yes my men...decadence for women is a wonderful thing. Your undying adoration coupled with diamonds, gold, or sensual fur is dreamy. Every year came and went, a toaster, bread machine, music recording, garden equipment, tires, you name it. But never a gift that made the memory... infamous. I guess my partnership was equivilent to tools....damn!

Good gift giving is an art, if you treasure moments as I then they must be marked by items that take tremendous thought and spirit. Ok...I know that's not what the holidays are about, I know that. For the last five years I took a moratorium on the holiday and didn't get or give a thing. It just hurt too much to be reminded of what I lost....HOPE.

Isn't that what the season represents? Hope, eternal light, gratitude, and love. I guess I must have lived on Mars...cause those sentiments were never all wrapped up under the tree for me.

Oh boo hoo....Tennismaiden...get over it already!

HeardLankaMalls 55M
2925 posts
12/22/2005 8:40 am

Here's a gift to you TM...a little of my "hope":
- Hope for happy and safe Christmas for all
- Hope for all who are traveling, for safe journeys and joyous time with whomever they are spending their time with
- Hope for a great New Years eve bash for those who are celebrating, and a good hangover cure for the day after
- Hope for a great new Year for all who need it

And finally, I hope that such a warm hearted woman as you are has a great and joyous holiday with your family; a great New Years eve and day; and a great new year that finds your spirit and hope re-lit and brighter.

Hope this helps


redmustang91 57M  
8604 posts
12/22/2005 8:53 am

Pregnancy and little bundles of joy is a gift that keeps on giving and taking! Women yearning for breakfast and a back rub, while more men yearn for a front rub...

WoodyDiaryKepis 62M
99 posts
12/22/2005 11:07 am

Men just don't get it! Something sparkly, showy, and decadent? How about a new 756-piece tool kit -Oh, that's not what you meant?-how about a 4 slice Dualit toaster? or a Chrome-plated Kitchen-Aid Mixer?

See what I mean? And of course, what man sees the sense in "wrapping" presents? After all, the recipient is just going to tear off the wrapping, later if not sooner, so why bother?

Tennis, you already know that we men can be tough nuts to crack. We are what we are, so please try to bear with us and try to understand that we're just little boys intoxicated by our own testosterone. And remember, the really important gifts, laughter, movement, hope and love, are priceless, and without end.

PS: I won't wrap your gifts (unless you ask me pretty please!), but I'd be happy make you coffee, or even breakfast in bed LOL!).

"Nature always favors the hidden fault. "- (Murphy's Third Law)

rm_need4fire2 63M

12/22/2005 2:35 pm

Is that all you want? Gold..diamonds and fur? or are you searching for more? I myself have gotten shirts on almost every x-mas..some still have tags on them..but who cares..the smile on my kids face or of that on an unsuspecting friend means more to me ..and i never expected any reciprocation..this year I took my daughter to see the x-mas tree at Rockefeller Center. I surprised her by taking her ice skating there and then going out to eat. How could any gift be better than that. Its not always about the "GOLD" P.S. coffee is on me!

rm_need4fire2 63M

12/22/2005 7:38 pm

My fair maiden..someone as giving as you should be recognized all year round not just at christmas time ..santa wont forget you..im sure your in his heart


12/22/2005 8:13 pm

I guess my partnership was equivilent to tools....damn!

I couldn't help but bust up straight laughing at that line.

I already got what I wanted for Xmas.

1. To get well from thie pervasive cold that I got at the beginning of the mont

2. To heal the relationship with opne of my closest friends and creative collaborators

So I'm set. But if your deeper wishes have anything to do with the very first post of yours I responded to I can't say that I also don't still have a secret unfulfilled (and possibly impossible to fulfill wish)

I'd say to keep dreaming for that one or you really will lose hope of someday getting it. There is nothing which can stop my own dream of a similar nature. Even if I wanted to for it's beyond any sort of simple addiction. Using your hardware/tools metaphor, it's truly hardwired into my soul.



redmustang91 57M  
8604 posts
12/23/2005 3:18 pm

While diamonds are nice as a momento, but I think the best presents as we get older are great experiences. So this year we went to Spain and loved the Prada museum with its fab Albrecht Durer's exhibit, and the Valesquez, Rubens, Grecos, Goyas, Van Der Wyden's Descent from the Cross which is so amazing, etc. and then on to Barcelona. Then later in the year we went to France and loved Paris and Mark Meneau's fab restaurant in Vezelay and on to Beane in Burgundy and Dijon. Taking time to enjoy life is the best gift you can give yourself and your lover! Try to have fun in 2006!
Happy holidays!

Plano69 54M

12/24/2005 10:17 pm

LOL! Sigh...
I just gave up on getting anything I really wanted years ago...
and concentrated on seeing smiles on the faces of my kids
and that seems to have worked
(up to a point...)
But you're right...
Even we men sometimes dream of that "something sparkly showy and decadent", like a new corvette, a harley, a babe in garters, heels and glitter (on her behind? LOL!)... but we seem to end up with drills, tool sets, socks, ties... Can you blame us for "returning" the favor? LOL!!
(Kidding!).. Merry Christmas!

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