Tips for getting your introduction (email) noticed  

rm_tennismaiden 59F
2103 posts
11/18/2005 5:25 am

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Tips for getting your introduction (email) noticed

When sending a response to a potential hook up the key to success is mentioning your personal reaction to the individuals profile.

Access and make a comment on what struck you most about the content of what the person says in his/her add and how it relates to you.

Don't go on and on about what you are looking for...that's a given and is displayed in your profile already. Humor is a huge magnet for most people, if you can either communicate humor or sensitivity that's a plus.

Make it personal, not sleezy, I know this website is promoting sex, but no amount of ramming your organ up the inside of my vagina or any other female (unless that's what she asks for) is gonna get you noticed.

Being polite, dapper, showing respect and above all else if the member asks for a must send one right up front!

We are all visual creatures, you get an immediate sense for the person if they fit your attraction criteria. Do not send x rated photos unless asked for it.

We are all fabulous creatures but tooting your horn without some humility shows conceit. Don't we all prefer someone that admits flaws even if they are minimal?

Keep your email somewhat short, poems, ditties, cut and paste content is very noticable and not very personal. Don't write a book either unless what you're sharing is very crutial to the introduction.

Lastly....remember there are more males to females on this site, we (females) get far more responses and if we don't respond it's because we're overwhelmed and feel you are not what we seek. We do not wish to be rude, but some introductions can be crass and not worth responding back to.

Any questions?

And.....spell check..I can't live without it!

Boy121975 41M

11/18/2005 6:08 am

Great post! Thanks for the tips

pinstriped_gent 59M
1 post
11/18/2005 6:23 am

In the main, these are good, wise words, Tennismaiden. I beg to differ over responses.

I do object to women ignoring thoughtful, grammatical, properly-spelt and honest responses. I'm sorry, but how busy do you have to be that you can't send a simple 'no thankyou' to people who have taken the trouble to write to you, even if they are the crude 'wanna fuck?' responses? What on earth do women have to lose by honouring the basic norms of politeness?

Maybe it would help if women thought of their profiles as job advertisements - 'wanted - lover: all candidates should meet criteria A B and C; ideally, they should meet criteria D E and F'.

This makes it a lot easier for men to decide who to write to. What's more, it would make it much easier for women to shortlist.

2xmrclean 59M

11/18/2005 6:39 am

tennismaiden, good advice if I ever figure all this out. like setting up a blog lke this! well thats what happens when your new to things.I'm new to life agian and new to vegas. and all I'm trying to figure out is how would some one like me get a tour of the town?

WoodyDiaryKepis 62M
99 posts
11/18/2005 6:55 am

Pinstriped's comments are well taken. Every response I've ever sent has been polite, without misspellings, individually composes, and almost always accompanied by a good face photo (I make exceptions to posters in my immediate area, because I'm relatively well known by many attractive women-no, not blowing my horn, it's my work!). Despite the effort I put into these responses, perhaps 1 in 20 is acknowledged personally (autoreplies don't count, auto=no).

I know of at least a half-dozen women in my area who have posted ads (some with "saucy" photos) and read the responses only for their entertainment value, with no intention of ever responding.

The real value of this site is not in "hooking up", but for the insight one gains into human nature in general, and human sexuality in particular. Anonymity breeds rudeness, but also frankness.

"Nature always favors the hidden fault. "- (Murphy's Third Law)

kryztoph908 59M

11/18/2005 5:03 pm

So how's your backhand? LOL!

Best of luck to Tennis Maiden and to the guys too.


WoodyDiaryKepis 62M
99 posts
11/18/2005 7:38 pm

Hear, hear, want2... Rejection's not a problem, it's more THEIR loss than mine. Being ignored and not receiving any feedback, positive OR negative, is much more disappointing. We understand the women are overwhelmed with responses, that's to be expected, but a polite autoreply means that at least at some time in the past there was a breathing (and presumably thinking) person who was taking an interest. Things would be much better if AdultFriendFinder pulled off inactive ads, but that's not going to happen, because the numbers attract those men who think with their "little" heads and pay most of the bills.

So, us men will continue to waste our time responding to fake, scam, and "orphan" ads on this site. I personally don't have much of a problem with it this dismal response rate-I do very well in the "real world", and view AdultFriendFinder as adult entertainment with a chance to get "lucky" (and yes, I HAVE gotten "lucky" a number of times from this site-if I just had the time.....)!

"Nature always favors the hidden fault. "- (Murphy's Third Law)

keithcancook 60M
17839 posts
11/19/2005 5:15 am

I pretty much stopped writing to local gals after the first couple of weeks. I just use this site for blogging, and have actually met someone through the blog.

Besides, I am standard now and cannot write anymore anyway...

However, I have been around the block enough to sense that your advice is sound.

rm_paulus247 39M
301 posts
11/19/2005 2:03 pm


I noticed your pic on Tillers blog- you look nice!
(an Oldskool hottie)

I think networking is the name of the game on this site. The pic IS important as this is the "first port of call"- (i don't bother with profiles without them). I am wary of putting my face on the site as there are ways to copy pictures- i don't want an "identity theft" !
I wouldn't want to display "richard and the twin's" to a worlwide audience neither. The main thing is to get noticed- so thats why i got my blog. Hopefully, from here conversations can start, then people can get an idea if they want to start E-mailing. This is my method anyway.

Hoursofhardcock 67M
36 posts
11/19/2005 2:17 pm

You go Girl!You have just helped me to make an informed decision as to wether I should post any cock pictures or not. I haven't as of yet because I wanted to ask women if they are truly interested in them or not,if I do I want them to be something sensuous and not just another Jackoff picture. I find alot of you beautiful ladies have bodies that are a work of art but that doesn't mean I want to fuck you because you are beautiful,I do however want to compliment you on your beauty.I find your hearts,minds and emotions just as beautiful if not more. I've learned to love & repect you for all of you and not just a gorgeous body.Men need to learn to talk to you and really listen to you from your emotional point of view. They may get laid in rare circumstances when they hook up with someone with extremely low self esteem but they will never know what truly great sex is until they start listening,understanding and treating a lady with the repect she deserves.
Thankyou for your time Sweetheart and may you have the best of fulfillment in every aspect of your life!

rm_lickmepretty 51F
851 posts
11/19/2005 11:08 pm

Hi, welcome to blog!

Are you aware there is a new group created for bloggers and their readership to meet and frolic in the chat room? (A place for serious discussion as well)

A group where interesting blog posts will be “spot-lighted” along with the links of how to get there. A place where new kids on the block can actually get seen as well as the predominant “hierarchy”.

A place where ideas can flow--from suggested blog topics, to writing "critiques", to directions on how to better use the elements of color, photos, and font style/size to make your blog more eye appealing; as well as instructions on how to better use linking to other posts.

Being that this is an adult site, we will also have a group post running where writers and their followers can indicate where they're from so maybe you might actually be able to meet some folk "local" to you.

Flirtatious banter is encouraged--crude obscene assaults will not be tolerated and are subject to deletion.

So...Stop in and have a little fun over your cup o' joe!

Here is a link to the group Blog Cafe, look forward to meeting you there!

ejejplumber2000 53M
1 post
11/19/2005 11:53 pm

It really sounds like your on the wrong site you should try the site.

rm_unlistedone 65M
2718 posts
11/20/2005 12:08 am

Like your views, tennis. All very sound advice.

Some guys are taking a shot in the dark, as they can't see your profile. Others, it may just be a numbers game.

Like Keithcancook, I can't see it either. I'm here and enjoying the blogs, like so many others are. Look forward to reading more on yours.

Welcome to blogland, unlisted one

sam5875 56M

11/21/2005 6:20 am

Well Tennismaiden you are correct. It is nice to see there are still intelligent, sensitive, creative, humorous and might I add very beautiful women out there. If not most men would have killed each other by now. Woooie!!! We men need women to keep us balanced. And I think the same for them..... The key is to find a connection with another person and that is not by saying "Lets Fuck"!! Thier is room on this site for others who may want to explore thier sexuality but in a respectful way with respectful partners. AdultFriendFinder is just a conduit to that end. Sometimes you have to go thru a few creeps to find a good connection. In the case of Tennismaiden I am sure you will find exactly what you are looking for.... At least on the surface you seem to have it all together. The internet can help accelerate that search and level the playing field. Just wish I was the kind of guy yuo went for . . . at least to meet you. Good luck finding the partner who smuthers you with positive Kharma.... Cia, Mr M.

TopFisher 63M

11/21/2005 12:25 pm

Pinstriped, I'm gonna pick on you a tad.

"I do object to women ignoring thoughtful, grammatical, properly-spelt and honest responses. I'm sorry, but how busy do you have to be that you can't send a simple 'no thankyou' to people who have taken the trouble to write to you, even if they are the crude 'wanna fuck?' responses? What on earth do women have to lose by honouring the basic norms of politeness?"

First you need to remember that many profiles are inactive people and many are just plain non persons at all. Some years old but AdultFriendFinder will not clear them off as it causes a reduction in bragging advertising numbers reducing the prices they can charge for advertising.

Nobody with a 'wanna fuck' deserves an answer when writing to real lady!

"Maybe it would help if women thought of their profiles as job advertisements - 'wanted - lover: all candidates should meet criteria A B and C; ideally, they should meet criteria D E and F'."

Most of us would still try and put a square peg in a round hole! We can actually think to ourselves that , "hey I'm like that", when in reality we are nothing at all like that.

Besides many women have a list longer Cabelas inventory sheet! Some with weekly updates no less!!

But alas, the attorneys have found this source of revenue is for them also. The suits are just begining and they are pushing for class action status. I would like to see these places clean themselves up withour some judge dictating they do so. A little more honesty from all of them would go along way to aiding everybody that pays the bills for them.

Tennismadien, thank you for allowing me to preach within your blog. Sorry if I oversteped the invite.

naughtyme68 53F

11/26/2005 2:11 pm

Tennismaiden, you are absolutely correct!!!
I agree 100%

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