That fiesty cock makes babies...hey whats up with the condoms?  

rm_tennismaiden 59F
2103 posts
11/26/2005 6:04 am

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That fiesty cock makes babies...hey whats up with the condoms?


In my effort to purge myself from the evil ex who has practically abandoned his own sons I joined a group on another site...you know the big Y and the group is "screwed by the ex"

I thought if I could network with others that have had difficulty with their divorces and legal issues I could make better decisions as to what's next for me? I joined, said hello and soon realized my issues, divorce, child support all minimal in comparison to many countless woman who are struggling to make ends meet.

Now you ask.....what the heck am I talking about and how does it relate to my title here in this blog? I have met dated and slept with a few men after seperating from my spouse, I'm not sure if it's an age factor or what. But the reluctancy to use condoms is overwhelming and quite frankly stupid!

I then jump in thought to the millions of children born out of wedlock or created by mistake and not fully cared for and I ask you....what the hell is this?

Have we become so blindly stupid and selfish to our needs that we have forgotten the consequences of mating and the potential to produce offspring?

This is the absurdity, my ex and I planned our pregnancies....(oops except the last which was such a blessing).....let me say that again...we, or so I thought wanted to raise a family and here it is 25 years later and the man barely speaks to his own sons. Add to that blatant with holding of child support. My ex is in a percentile of men making a very generous income, but due to his narcissism and controlling behavior got the divorce settlement of a lifetime.

I am angered by the reluctance of people in general to be held accountable for their actions...and that includes random flagrant hookups that aren't being cognizant about the possible out come of creating life.

Hell I'm all for a really good fuck....but guys...use your heads (both) and a condom!

mygmyg 59M

11/26/2005 8:48 am

T. Maiden, You're 100% correct, this is just selfishness on a man's part. Yes, we have a thousands excuses but that is what they are excuses, self centered egotistical excuses.
Set the ground(and pound) rules, and if there is reluctance, or the hemming and hawing about this and that, leave him to enjoy hisself.

T.Maiden, your are a stunning Lady, you have all the power, never waiver in your beliefs, just wave goodbye to these self indulgent men.


Hoursofhardcock 67M
36 posts
11/26/2005 12:38 pm

How I would love to listen to and talk to you one on one! In my profession (now retired,still consult) I've interviewed,listened to and helped over 30,000 women solve their men problems in many different areas of their lives. If anyone is curious the answer is no,I never went to bed with any of them,even though I was flattered with the countless offers! They came to me as a professional in my field seeking help, protection, understanding and that's what they got! I'm in the process of writing a book about this to continue to help women but I can't mention the profession or tittle of the book on this site but I will remain forever thankful to these women for teaching me so much about you lovely wonderful creations.
When I hear of such beautiful wonderful people having problems with your ex it goes right through me and makes me want to step in and help you!
As for the condoms I agree for more than birth control.Those men out there that are not wanting to produce anymore offspring should also consider Vasectomy,It doesn't hurt,you don't lose anything and it last forever.
Hoursofhardcock


rm_anacortes 74M
2850 posts
11/26/2005 1:01 pm

EXCUSE ME..

EXCUSE ME FOR COMING INTO THE MIDDLE OF "STARWARS" BUT,

I MUST JOIN YOU IN SHOCK AND OUTRAGE..

AT THE IDEA THAT ANY PAIR WOULD ENGAGE IN UNPROTECTED SEX..

YES, IF THEY HAVE HAD ANY UNPROTECTED CONTACT IN SAY, THE LAST 10 YEARS, THEN THEY MAY VERY WELL BE CARRYING DEADLY STD'S.


TopFisher 63M

11/27/2005 4:24 am

TM, someone once there is a fool born very minute.

I suppose it's still true eh?

My X got a half a million in cash!

She rambles on like I'm the scorge of the universe and a total dead beat daddy!

I suppose I shold have really made her life a hell of her own making!

I chose to just pay her off, NOT become an issue with her moving on. Well that did not work either.

Three adult children that in reality, don't like her like they once did. THEY say, it's her problem. One 9 yr old daughter. Yes she was an accident, but! Oh so welcomed into our family! I went 1.5 years with no contact, (yes I paid support), then another several months, it was just a phone call. They even came to town, I was not notified or called.

I make no accusations, but many women make it pretty challenging to have any sort of relationship with their children. Well when they are young anyway!

All I can say is TIME will continue to tick. I know that I have many more years ahead with my loving daughter than her hate filled mother will have.

She still does not have a REAL friend in the world! I do not wonder why, but some may!

I do indeed hope that you are not being the hurdle to a relationshop to their father. Does not sound like such is the case, make sure you are not and can prove it to your children when they are of age and ask you.

My X is gonn be in a world of hurt one day. I still will not give a daaum! She has made her bed, I've spent way too much time covering for her in the past, and such is the key, the past. It's fone and over with. She is finally REALLY on her own. FOREVER!


TabithaElectra79 38F

11/27/2005 6:56 am

tennismaiden i do not think it is an age factor as i am aware of guys my age with exactly the same attitude - unfortunately.

I think these types of 'men' are best avoided they cannot have any respect for themselves (or others) if they are being this wreckless - not only with the possibilities of conceiving a child but also risking contracting something nasty down below from their female companion by not protecting themselves and so many other things which can occur from not condom wearing...they must surely be a sandwich short of a picnic to act this way !!


sexyman9111943 73M
4 posts
12/6/2005 6:26 am

TM;
I would like to make a few comments about your situation. I agree your Ex was a no good Bastard and why he would ever stray from you for another women is beyond me. You are very beautiful women and as far as i can see very devoted to your famly. Also i must tell you what happened to me. I was married for 27 wonderful years when my wife who has a wonderful job strayed to another man because she wanted to be with more than one man and thought that would be alright with me. I tried for a year to work things out but finally i said enough is enough and we got divorced. I was a mess for a few years but now i am ok with it and finally got over my divorce of 8 years ago. I told my 2 sons who are now 34 and 31 that they should love there mother and see her as often as they can and they do that.

Finally we both have something in common and these things happen to both men and women. As i told you you are a lovely women and how everything works out for you. Be well and god bless you
Mike from Whiting, NJ


rm_Lupo19047 58M
1 post
12/13/2005 6:18 pm

Let me play devil's advocate.

Two things come to mind. First, if you're using a condom for birth control, you should probably love kids. Second, and more personally, sex with a condom is most unsatisfying.

Now before you begin the "What a jerk" rant, please read to the end. For me, sex (good sex anyway) is about intimacy. It is also about vulnerability. When you have sex, you are about as intimate as you can be (if you're doing it right). Some people want the intimacy without the vulnerability. I did that once, and only once, and found it very unsatisfying. Sex is something any 2 animals can do. They don't even need to be different genders. Making love, now that's more rare. Making love is something that involves mind and body completely. So, like you can't make love while watching the Superbowl, you can't REALLY make love wearing a condom. It interferes with intimacy and vulnerability (at least for me).

What about STDs? If there's a chance your partner has an STD, you should most definitely use a condom. But people can be tested for STDs And if you're still suspicious, you probably aren't making love, you're just having sex (not that there's anything wrong with that).

So my ever-so longwinded point is: use a condom to prevent STDs, use something more reliable for birth control, use nothing for intimacy.


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