Out with the old, in with the new....  

rm_tennismaiden 59F
2103 posts
6/11/2006 5:15 am

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Out with the old, in with the new....


Good morning sunshine, did anyone happen to gaze at the full moon last night? It was stupendous, but with that gravitational pull I've been receiving some very odd emails here at AdultFriendFinder.

In keeping with my topic there is a fine line between endings and beginnings. The transition can be a puzzle and only your innards know when the door is safely closed behind us. Last Tuesday was the day of reckoning for me, I shed a little tear, started up my car and drove away. By the time I hit the pavement I knew it was behind me. All the torment, the pleadings, the anger, un-appreciation. In a nano second a sense of calm washes over you and the feeling you can breath and relax all those muscles that have been flexed for the last month disappear.

Ending a relationship is like cleaning ones house, there is much tidying to do, the refrigerator smells and needs scrubbing, the car has accumulated sand, empty water bottles and gee how odd a random fork was found under my seat...not just any fork....his. The bed sheets needed stripping, carpets vacuumed and a general disinfection of the whole environment.

Love is like this at times, out with the old smelly rotten skanky emotions and in with fresh new visions, people, and adventures. What's that cliche? (I'm big on cliche's in case you didn't know) "When one door closes another opens" But such truth! Only your heart knows when it's truly over and life picks up where it left off. Before wiping the slate clean there is a ritual I have of cleaning my home, nesting.

In a word this could be feathering my nest and getting ready for another person to hang his robe on the back of my door, or place a toothbrush in it's own little cubbie. How can you be ready for something new if there's old clutter just hanging around weighing you down? I'm not a collector, and don't want to be reminded of what didn't fit, all the bad needs to gone for something to takes it's place. Cleansing...a good cleansing of mind body and soul.

I say "Out with the old....and in with the new"!

Meditation anyone? Ommmmmm Ommmmm

free2chose2 66F

6/11/2006 6:18 am

Well I did clean my house thoroughly also, but starting anew is exciting but ...

Don't worry, be Happy


free2chose2 66F

6/11/2006 6:19 am

btw-the moon was beautiful

Don't worry, be Happy


rm_tennismaiden replies on 6/12/2006 4:13 am:
Now now free, we must be strong no "buts" about it, with the full moon comes hope that lives begin in a whole different light. See? House cleaning IS a good thing!

rm_mtnravyn 60M
890 posts
6/11/2006 7:44 am

Here the moon was filtered through a haze, creating a tangerine dream in the sky.

And George Bernard Shaw said "Imagination is the beginning of creation. You imagine what you desire, you will what you imagine and at last you create what you will." Hope you really enjoy this creative process, cause I knwo you have hte imagination.


rm_tennismaiden replies on 6/12/2006 4:22 am:
Hello doll face, the creative process is a re-awakening in us all, from pain comes great joy. The moon captures the stillness of that creative process when nature and your thoughts transcend tranquility, a good time for healing...and expressing!

Kisses.....L {=}

rm_silly153 63M/59F
26 posts
6/11/2006 9:47 am

Well done lil' lady. I hope that your Prince Charming will soon ride up to steal a kiss from you fair maiden.


rm_tennismaiden replies on 6/12/2006 4:25 am:
As long as that kiss comes germ free! Oh heavens don't want to pass along any little bugs, I think some rest is due till the time I can throw myself back into the game of smooching some toads. Funny I can't see any warts on you silly...perhaps you're already a Prince?

Only time will tell.....{=}

TheRealThing655 48F
9558 posts
6/11/2006 9:56 am

That was wonderfully written. I know what you mean. There is something about the moment when you finally have to put it behind you and move on. It is not that you ever forget, but you realize dwelling in the past prevents you from looking to the future. Good for you..and always look forward to your next post...your journey.


rm_tennismaiden replies on 6/12/2006 4:28 am:
How about tagging along with me realthing? We can journey together, hey with both our wits about us one of us should find something worth writing about! Stay tuned....not sure what will happen next!

QueenCaribbean 39F
12 posts
6/11/2006 1:25 pm

....Everything you are feeling is only natural. I think there is a song that goes "I've got to wash that man right out of my hair". Now that it is OFFICAL you have to put yourself first. After a decent period of mourning start looking again. You don't want a Rebound relationship...those things just never work, but in a few weeks or a month you will be ready to give your heart to someone again.......


rm_tennismaiden replies on 6/12/2006 4:32 am:
Let's see...should I use Biolage, Nexxus, Clairol or bleach to wash that man REALLY out of my hair! LOL, you're such a hottie Queenie, too bad we didn't live closer, but if ever I get you're way I'm sure I'll know exactly where to find you! Up on that pedestal where all of mankind is worshiping your goddess like beauty!

WayneMarie4girl 45M/38F

6/11/2006 1:43 pm

oommmmm, oommmmmm


rm_tennismaiden replies on 6/12/2006 4:32 am:
Breathing in...breathing out...that's the ticket...Ommmmm Ommmmm!

SirluvsStorms 46M
684 posts
6/12/2006 2:34 am

Of coarse its always good to remember the good things its the bad stuff that needs to be put aside


rm_tennismaiden replies on 6/12/2006 4:35 am:
Being thankful that Bad teaches us the flip side....good. When we stumble upon that which is healthy at the very least we'll know it when it's staring us in the face....hey that's a GOOD thing!

HeardLankaMalls 55M
2925 posts
6/12/2006 5:34 am

I too saw the moon on Saturday night after the clouds were blown away (it was a very windy weekend here in northern NJ). A big silver-white ball, as always

A good cleaning is always good, as you say. I'm afraid I am a bit of a 'collector'. I have things from my life that remind me of where I've been, and who I was. Whether it be old baseball cards, or "stuff" from college, it's all part of 'me' too. I do go through things and weed out those things that no longer hold the sentimental or 'real' value. But, there are still those things I don't want to part with.

Hope your fresh start is as fresh as those crisp, bright spring or fall days, where the sky is that bright, clear blue, the temperature is just right, and it just feels great to be alive!

Hugs, C


rm_silly153 63M/59F
26 posts
6/12/2006 6:38 am

Well fair lady, time will in fact tell. I know what you mean about those pesky little germs, I seemed to have picked up a nasty little summer cold myself. You just have to wonder where these things come from.


SpaceRangerNJ 55M
4687 posts
6/12/2006 7:21 am

Gonna wash that man right outta my hair!

Well ya gotta know I'm big on lyrics as much as you are on cliche's.

Good to hear that you are moving on and preparing for the next great adventure.

Cleaning can be very theraputic. And it's Spring. Perfect time for cleaning and feathering a nest.

I didn't see the moon but did hear it was fantastic. Really large.
Did see it the night before. Not so dramatic. Just nice floating up there.
SR


_Safira 53F
11260 posts
6/12/2006 9:17 am

Namaste, Sunshine ... The moon was glorious, as are you. *warm hugs*

Safira {=}

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rm_Keystone3812 65M
583 posts
6/12/2006 11:30 am

Good Luck with the "NEW", Sweet Tennis. I hope you're smiling.


libgemOH 56M/52F

6/13/2006 4:18 am

" All the torment, the pleadings, the anger, un-appreciation. In a nano second a sense of calm washes over you and the feeling you can breath and relax all those muscles that have been flexed for the last month disappear."

That is how you know!! I'm glad you were given the clarity to see it!! It's that clarity that helps us to move on when just a few days before, we felt all was lost.

And yes, the moon was truly amazing!! -B


firestarter665 42M/39F

6/15/2006 4:55 pm

What a wonderful outlook. I really had never thought of relationships that way, but it does make sense.

Unfortunately I did not get to see the moon.
But I did get to see the crazy people that were out during it.


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