Food a poor substitution for cock  

rm_tennismaiden 59F
2103 posts
6/30/2006 9:58 pm

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Food a poor substitution for cock


I've been stuffing my mouth this evening with gooey chocolate covered caramels. Why you ask? Why would I be sabotaging the boot camp regime of 6 day gym, weight, swimming, training? Because this little lady ain't gonna get some anytime soon! Com'on guys you know what "some" stands for.....SEX!

I've come to the point where exposing myself anymore just isn't working. Not the naked physical exposing but the emotional psychological you got/he got/she got/me got baggage of issues to deal with at our age exposure.

Jesum Christmas if I had a dollar for every insecure, burned, dried up, dysfunctional head case I've met along the way I'd be a VERY wealthy women! I'm seriously considering taking a down payment for liability if the supposed attraction of another suitor freaks out and pulls a disappearing act on me again.

Here are some classic lines that have been fed to me over the last many months. You know, the ones where they're trying to talk the talk but cannot conceivably walk the walk. These People lack communication skills, the purpose of verbalizing might as well be translated into "hey baby I'll tell you what you wanna hear just so I can fuck the shit outta you"! Lines offered to confirm they are so full of egotistical mumbo jumbo and will do anything to confuse the hell out of you and use avoidance as a new sport.

1)My last three major relationships were with aggressive women, I don't scare easily.

2) I'm not a jealous man

3)I understand no promises are being offered, I don't have a problem with that.

4)I am concerned that you are too freshly out of a recent relationship that still has resolution issues. (but never taking the time to ask me directly how I feel about my last relationship)

5)I've left your things by the back door for you to pick up so you have them, you'll be over again when I'm ready for company.(sending 5 to 6 emails or phone calls that should have been returned but were blown off instead)

6)I'm too upset to call you, let me stew in my own juices first and when I'm ready I'll call you in a few days.(as sent via email cause he's too chicken to confront the real situation by direct phone call)

7) Oh I don't have Monday night available I have personal plans already...and no it isn't with another woman (the man doesn't socialize with men ever only women)

I'll be home some time during the weekend you can come over and get your stuff then (never hearing from him for 4 weeks for the invite to get my belongings)

9) I'm so content and you play a big big part in that, uh... oh... I don't have any time available to meet you again for another date. (ok you like me but don't want to see me) WTF?

So you see? I'd rather eat the chocolate covered caramels instead of the bull shit I've been fed as a steady diet of "I'm just not really into you" "you're the fucked up one and I'm just being cautious of you" "I'll say anything I want whether it's true or not" cause bottom line? My dick talks and my brain cannot be responsible for all the fucked up lines of bologna just to get one chance at sticking it into your pussy.

GIVE ME FOOD, the cocks are only providing an endless diet of frustration and lies. If I get fat at least the food will still love me when all the others are still making excuses for trying to be human!

Beddy Bye Time for Tenny...night all!

zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz


abitcrazy4sex 44M
1335 posts
6/30/2006 10:35 pm



nice post !!


rm_tennismaiden replies on 7/2/2006 6:19 am:
Thanks! Welcome to my blog, I hope I haven't scared you off. This post is a bit unusual as my many friends down below would tell you. I'm hoping to regain some composure and get back in the game....it can be a bitch sometimes.

Nightguy_1961 55M
4866 posts
6/30/2006 10:50 pm

TM,

If I may offer a humble suggestion...

Instead of trying for the physical aspect, concentrate on developing the friendship aspect...you might get more than you bargained for in the long run.

My lady and I always tell people that we talked on the phone for almost four months before we ever met each other face to face. Not only did we get past the "Hello, my name is.....", but we knew each other very well; our families, our desires, our dreams, our fears, etc. We are now husband and wife, lovers, confidantes, Dominant & submissive, but most of all we're best friends, no matter what.

Another suggestion, if I may...one thing I tell younger guys who ask what is the best way to get a lady's attention is to act uninterested...in other words, (and please pardon my crudeness) to get pussy, you have to act like you don't want any pussy.

I think the same could apply for the ladies as well...to initiate a physical response from someone, you have to act like a physical response is the furthest thing from your mind. I know, contradictory at the very least.

Just my viewpoint...if I've stepped out of line, my apologies.

Sleep well...

NG61...quietly disappearing back into the darkness...


rm_tennismaiden replies on 7/2/2006 6:53 am:
I love when you guys get right in and give it to me straight! Please don't ever hesitate in offering your opinion it gives me so much to think about...and isn't that why we're here?

I agree friendship is the foundation for any solid courtship to commence. Moving into a natural progression of intimacy is by in large dependant on how the friendship proceeds. If there are bumps the two parties can ride them and smooth them before the erogenous zones are tickled cause we know once that occurs all logic goes straight out the window.

Trust me love.....I know all this...I understand it, digest it accept it. But my vagina is saying..."Argh I'm getting older, don't know how much longer I can hold on before I dry up and stop working and wanting" I can now relate to all those 40ish women who haven't had the pleasure of of carrying life inside them. They are desperate for their bodies to be in syncopation with the rest of their journey.

Shit....synchronicity isn't always happen'n for us when we want it. And at this point I must step back and re-access why for me? Ok...so I'll try and be a little less eager and not throw myself at every 10 inch cock that struts his stuff in front of my pussy.

Thank you for your sound and humble advice.There is a reason you are at the top...because you care and have the chutzpah to back it up!

free2chose2 66F

6/30/2006 11:14 pm

Likes NG's comment

Don't worry, be Happy


rm_tennismaiden replies on 7/2/2006 6:54 am:
Yeah me too! But we'll see if we can practice this new adaptation of acting like we don't want any...should be interesting huh Free?

gjg1965 51M

7/1/2006 6:01 am

Hi The guy,s you are talking about are pretty dumb.Got to admit i,m guilty of some dumb things too,lately i haven,t committed any dumb acts.Ice cream has been my bad food raspberry swirls chocolate chip.I,v run in to a lot of crazy bitches George


rm_tennismaiden replies on 7/2/2006 6:56 am:
Well George....welcome to the club of insanity and being single!

WayneMarie4girl 45M/38F

7/1/2006 7:43 am

Nightguy is right about the friends point. Not the fast solution like chocolate but will satisfy better than a snickers later.


rm_tennismaiden replies on 7/2/2006 6:58 am:
Ooooo but I love snicker bars...all peanutty and full of calories. Taking a sabbatical form both eating and sex might be good for my soul. Depravity can be quite a learning experience!

Rustyj4 73M

7/1/2006 10:23 am

I feel so bad for you, but you know there are all kinds of people out there and you just have not found the right one yet. Maybe that means you are not using the right criteria for selection. My experience in life is that one seldom can have everything perfect - there is always some compromise. If you get the perfect guy in bed, maybe you have to put up with a personality that makes it difficult or impossible to communicate. Maybe the solution is to look for the guy who is communicative and interested in sharing thoughts with you. If you click on that level, give him a try. I suspect that even people who may seem less than attractive at first glance will turn out to be good lovers if you really like each other. How does that saying go? something like "Sex is great, but sex with love is fantastic". I'd expand it to "and sex with friendship is pretty terrific too", or something like that.

Anyway, don't totally blow your diet and keep looking. I know if you persevere you will find a great match.

Russ


rm_tennismaiden replies on 7/2/2006 7:07 am:
I've had all kinds Russ, done compromises and tested the theories of change allowing for different experiences with all different types of men. The one thing I've learned is I have a hot spot for men that are highly intelligent, processing at a level that most cannot. The compromise here is that not all these gentlemen are gentlemen or are capable of emotional rational or logical thought processing. They are somewhat immature in their relationship growth.

So....what's next? To sit back, enjoy my growth and not yearn for something that perhaps isn't right for me now. You know as well as I...that there are some compromises you simply cannot make, the one most important being the compromise to yourself!

QueenCaribbean 39F
12 posts
7/1/2006 12:18 pm

Good Day.....Miss Tennismaiden...I know that I am not alone in saying how much we all enjoy your blogs. I am sure someone must have suggested this before but here goes. Have you ever consider writing a column for a local newspaper or even a book. With you connections you might even know someone. I know your schedule is really full, but you are so very talented it is ashame to have all of this talent and not share it with more people.

Yes we do eat when we are bored.


rm_tennismaiden replies on 7/2/2006 7:13 am:
Good morning Gorgeous! You are WAY too kind....I don't have an inkling about writing and fear I'd get writers block only seconds after committing to challenging myself with that talent.

For now I'm happy where I am, here with my buddies so they can get a good laugh at that kooky nut maiden with big yellow balls!

WhyUseBOB 60M
11 posts
7/1/2006 4:06 pm

You make me smile. Only because I hear in you...what so many have already said in so many different voices but were afraid to say or didn't have the the wherewithall to say it. Mmmmm Men don't hear. LOL
I have to agree with Nightguy.
Personally, I'd rather have a womans mind first. Her body will follow.

With respect always

Joe


rm_tennismaiden replies on 7/2/2006 7:15 am:
I think you are considered to be on the "Good Guy" side of life Joe. Those of you who love a woman's mind are the keepers and respect the courtship process. Kudos to you!

DIVISION77 39M  
8321 posts
7/1/2006 5:13 pm

I love posts like these!

A sexually frustrated women at wit's end.

What type of men do you attract, anyway? If they're feeding you all this bullshit, what is it that attracts you to them in the first place. You seem like an intelligent woman, so you tell me.

"I'd rather eat the chocolate covered caramels instead of the bull shit I've been fed as a steady diet of "I'm just not really into you" "you're the fucked up one and I'm just being cautious of you" "I'll say anything I want whether it's true or not" cause bottom line? My dick talks and my brain cannot be responsible for all the fucked up lines of bologna just to get one chance at sticking it into your pussy.

GIVE ME FOOD, the cocks are only providing an endless diet of frustration and lies. If I get fat at least the food will still love me when all the others are still making excuses for trying to be human!"


Perhaps you've got it all wrong, tennismaiden. Maybe they're coming up with these back door excuses just to get one chance at sticking it in your ass.

See the logic?

I love your expressiveness, you're at the point where you just don't give a fuck.

I wish more women were like this.

DIV

"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur


rm_tennismaiden replies on 7/2/2006 7:26 am:
Divi Divi Divi....I adore when you stop by, giving me a good swift kick in the ass and loving me while you're doing it!

What kind of men do I attract anyway? All kinds, the good bad and indifferent, the nasty, the sweet, the dysfunctional. You name it I've had it and with each and everyone I've learned something new. MOstly to not be a doormat and try taking a little "attitude" like I'm the best fuck around (well I am but that's beside the point)

You know how you adore pale women with dark defined features? I gravitate to men that are eccentric, colorful, complex and that there in lies the problem. I am not attracted to someone without a personality, I love a mind that never shuts off as I study them.

OkOkOK...I know most of these men are depressed, schizophrenic, bi-polar or addicted to something or another. They are relationship challenged and cannot figure out how to be kind to us tender and sweet thangs...Maybe I should ask for references from their Psychiatrists first before jumping into bed with them? Yeah that sounds like a plan!

wickedeasy 66F  
25415 posts
7/1/2006 5:18 pm

chocolate with raspberries

god

You cannot conceive the many without the one.


rm_tennismaiden replies on 7/2/2006 7:26 am:
Oooooo Yes yes yes! As close to orgasmic as it cums! LOL

rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
5220 posts
7/1/2006 5:46 pm

I made strawberry ice cream this afternoon. Want some?

Maybe your problem is that you want love and are the result is no sex. Try reversing it. Check out Sarahwilling's blog.


rm_tennismaiden replies on 7/2/2006 7:29 am:
Fine line between love and sex...I've had just the sex and that's only OK...in fact I cannot get off with someone that won't form a bond with me. I'm not asking for them to love me....just be kind to me and use some brain on occasion. Communicate communicate communicate...as that too much to ask?

jimnorton 42M
2 posts
7/1/2006 7:31 pm

your on an adult sex web site. These guys dont want a relationship, they want to have sex with no strings attached. Meeting them and not giving them anything results in a blow off. If they wanted a date and dinner then they would go to match.com. Maybe its me, i dont know.


rm_tennismaiden replies on 7/2/2006 7:37 am:
Mr. Norton, Yes there are some here looking to plug some holes, there are many here looking for something with substance. You really should read the many bloggers and profiles of both MEN and WOMEN. All kinds come here looking for something. As in life nothing is definitive, and all aspects of community are stretched to the limits.

Trust me I've been on match, e-harmony, Yahoo and done all those vanilla places. People who are there are under the disguise of looking for love, at least the men are! Here I'm more likely to find my sexual match which is integral to my being. I won't settle for a dead fish between the sheets anymore. But hey...why are you here? your obviously not getting something at home otherwise you wouldn't be here. wouldn't it be great if the woman you married was as sexually charged as you? Then this place would be just a distant memory.....

Diversity is the spice of life, nothing is simple and it takes all kinds...would we have any other way? I think not...now go do your homework and report back to me pronto!

rm_molittle69 45M
117 posts
7/1/2006 8:49 pm

WOW:

I've been away for a while and come back to this, tennis where is the the beautiful, confident, self reliant, whitty person that had abolished all her demons; only to pick up someone elses. I may be off base here but you can't be a subserviant dominant unless this has been established prior to. Don't get me wrong, if you feel that you need a man to conplette who you are, thats fine, but that is not who you were when we last talked. I understand that people and sercumstances change, but not always together and if you don't see that its his loss and not yours, than it will EAT you up! and you are to smart to let that happen. Pick yourself up dust yourself off and get back up on the horse.

p.s

If you need a little "horse" to start with .


rm_tennismaiden replies on 7/2/2006 7:40 am:
(Picking myself up and dusting myself off Mo)...hey com'on let me have a little pity party and rant...I'm allowed every once in a blue moon!

Monmouth_NJ 49M

7/2/2006 5:57 am

I agree with your attitude but I have heard the same lines from many women I dated also.

And come on Tennismaiden are you saying you never did the avoidance blow off thing ever to a man in your life?

ALL'S FAIR IN LOVE AND WAR -- "The rules of fair play do not apply in love and war. The proverb has been traced back to John Lyly's 'Euphues' (157. First attested in the United States in 'Horse-Shoe Robinson' (1835). The proverb is found in varying forms. The proverb is frequently used to justify cheating." From "Random House Dictionary of Popular Proverbs and Sayings" by Gregory Y. Titelman ( Random House, N.Y., 1996).


rm_tennismaiden replies on 7/2/2006 7:45 am:
NO....I don't think I've done the avoidance blow off thing to a man I've been intimate with. I try with as much conviction and dignity to use what God gave me...a kind heart and speak when something isn't working.

I know what I'm looking for and will try to invite those that could be a good match, I might fall off the face of the earth but that's only after a few emails when it becomes apparent that I have no interest. I won't sleep with someone for the hell of it and then check out. If you cannot stimulate my head then I'm not going to bed.

Fair enough? Hey I'm far from perfect and sure I've made plenty of mistakes.

rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
5220 posts
7/2/2006 10:17 am

tennismaiden replies on 7/2/2006 8:29 am:
Fine line between love and sex...I've had just the sex and that's only OK...in fact I cannot get off with someone that won't form a bond with me. I'm not asking for them to love me....just be kind to me and use some brain on occasion. Communicate communicate communicate...as that too much to ask?


No, it's not too much to ask. I prefer to sleep with friends. Someone that I enjoy spending time with and who likes spending time with me - out of the sack. It makes it so much more fun and enjoyable. To me, FWB and NSA are not the same. The word friend has a very narrow and special definition to me.


rm_tennismaiden replies on 7/3/2006 7:44 am:
A FWB or NSA is a bit scary for me, I've tried the FWB and I'm afraid I became too attached. I would rather just not have anyone in my life then settle for something that will eventually leave me frustrated and exhausted.

I'm really struggling on this one, what are my emotional limitations and what are my physical needs? I go back and forth like a ping pong ball.

Friends are of course such a blessing in so many ways but how do you keep your emotions in check and how can you become passionate with someone you don't love? I know...of course you love them in a different way but do you find yourself compromising in some way?

Rustyj4 73M

7/2/2006 11:15 am

Wish I was younger - and single. I'd be asking you for a date!

Russ


rm_tennismaiden replies on 7/3/2006 7:47 am:
awww you're such a sweetheart, Thank you!

WhyUseBOB 60M
11 posts
7/2/2006 3:13 pm

You said, in response to my post "I think you are considered to be on the "Good Guy" side of life Joe. Those of you who love a woman's mind are the keepers and respect the courtship process. Kudos to you!"

Yeah but at the same time TM... A DIRTY MIND IS SUCH A TERRIBLE THING TO WASTE. LOL
Thank you for the compliment and you're correct in your assertation of me. But..good guys almost always finish last. I'm looking to be the winner. Intelligence to me is an aphrodisiac and the highest form of sexual arrousal. At the same time though, nothing like seeing a womans look with the "I've just been fucked good" gleam in her eye and the desire to spend more time with me just talking afterward.
Communication is the key. I do that well. Not as well articulate as you but I listen well.

With respect always
Joe


rm_tennismaiden replies on 7/3/2006 8:56 am:
How is it that men love that "just fucked look" on a woman's face? Why do we as women get that and men don't? You guys get that sleepy look afterward accompanied with a smirky smile.

HeardLankaMalls 55M
2925 posts
7/3/2006 5:39 am

Ouch!!

I guess the "dating scene" has been a little rough TM.
Sincerest condolences. But, as you are aware, you have to sift through the pebbles to find the golden nugget. I'm sure your nugget is around somewhere. Just keep your head high, and don't let the 'debris' in between get you down.

Until then, want me to bring a box of chocolates?

Hugs & kisses, C


rm_tennismaiden replies on 7/3/2006 9:01 am:
Is asking for Godiva too much? I love truffles with all that melt in your mouth liquid goo oozing onto my tongue!

rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
5220 posts
7/3/2006 8:46 am

Friends are of course such a blessing in so many ways but how do you keep your emotions in check and how can you become passionate with someone you don't love? I know...of course you love them in a different way but do you find yourself compromising in some way?

The compromise is that if you find a true friend that you can make this work with, you still are emotionally lonely at times. There is no substitute for being in love with someone who loves you back.

But my FWB keeps me from humping door knobs in public places.


rm_tennismaiden replies on 7/3/2006 9:06 am:
I would love having someone to keep me from attacking anything that moves. But sometimes I feel so guilty about using someone with no intention for more.

I KNOW...don't even say it! WHY shouldn't I, Men do it all the time right? I guess if it's mutual then it could work. So Kelli...what do I do, go for a married man who's looking for a FWB so I know there will be no emotional attachment. And what if GOD forbid I become attached to him?

That's it...I'm packing my bags and going to the nearest convent!

rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
5220 posts
7/3/2006 12:57 pm

You mean monastery, right? 200 cocks and TM ...

No, I try to stay away from married guys, don't need the drama and don't like sneaking around. You just need to find someone who is comfortable in his own skin, doesn't want to make a permanent commitment, but isn't afraid of having someone have feelings for him. Someone honest both with you and himself.

And if you find him, ask him if he has a twin brother.


rm_tennismaiden replies on 7/5/2006 6:20 am:
...... you and I have to pack for a sabbatical. Both frustrated, antsy and totally undersexed (ok maybe I'm the only under sexed blogger as you've got a FW.

How do you look with a silk scarf tied around your thick locks and look in a convertible vehicle as we set out to turn some towns upside down? Ya know...the Thelma and Louise adventure? With the exception of driving off the cliff, I'm not ready to do that JUST yet!

HeardLankaMalls 55M
2925 posts
7/5/2006 5:49 am

Godiva it is!!


rm_tennismaiden replies on 7/5/2006 6:21 am:
Mmmmmm that might satisfy me for a day or two! LOL

jimnorton 42M
2 posts
7/5/2006 12:15 pm

i just love the strange and secret meetings. Thats what I'm here for. After re- reading my comment it did sound a little like i was ridiculing you. I wasn't. Im in manahawkin so if you ever need to chat or whatever look me up, i'm around. Your very cool. I love your attitude


ella1966 50F
1528 posts
7/15/2006 6:49 pm

Tennis Maiden just reading your posts above, I have to do a "Goddess of the Dawn" nod to what you have said on all of the above..... but my bloody oath, your a legend hon!

ella X


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