Fellow members please post, in honor of a fallen comrade...  

rm_tennismaiden 59F
2103 posts
1/10/2006 2:45 am

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Fellow members please post, in honor of a fallen comrade...


It is now 5:30 in the morning here In New Jersey, after retiring last night before 11 PM I awoke at 4 and could not get back to sleep.

For those of you who do not actively blog and don't know, a fellow dear member has departed us suddenly "AnEnigma517" was killed recently and most of us are honoring him with a day of silence in blogland. You can find the neccessary information to his tribute on any of the other major/top bloggers of this site.

Though I did not cross the path of Todd while I was getting started here many of my dear friends had, Mistress "Safira" being one.

Yesterday was difficult for many and wounds re-opened for those who struggle with loss daily upon wakening.

My question to you all.....

If you had little time remaining...and knew of your demise, How would you spend your last breath? We here on this site are the dreamers and fantasizers of all that is wonderful and unique to our lives (even if done via words and keyboard).

If money were no object, and loved ones in abundance, if there were stones left unturned and places yet unseen, or people not met.

How would you immortalize your last days before greeting heaven?

This is in tribute to all those we've lost so dear and to voice wishes that may never be heard. Please comment......

With heartfelt condolences to Todd and those that surrounded him with joy, Every spirit leaves a trace of being....

Tennismaiden

HeardLankaMalls 55M
2925 posts
1/10/2006 4:13 am

Inciteful question Tennismaiden...

I think, if I knew I was soon to pass, I'd like to spend some time with friends and family (maybe a big party...all having a good time and maybe not knowing what was inevitable for me, so no one would be down or sad); then maybe go off somewhere to enjoy nature; watch a sunrise and a sunset, the animals in the fields, birds of the air, and all the wonderful things that Nature shares with us on this small blue planet. A bit idealogical I know; and counting on a healthy life to the point of demise; but it's a thought.

Death makes you want to live life to it's fullest; and take the time to smell the roses, walk barefoot in the grass, watch the people (and children) go about their lives and interactions, and enjoy all that's around you. My humble opinion of course.

See you, and everyone on Thursday

Hugs

C


iwanteaseu 50F
15 posts
1/10/2006 4:34 am

ALTHOUGH I NEVER KNEW TODD . I DO KNOW HOW HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS FEEL RIGHT ABOUT NOW. AND ONE THING WE ALL SHOULD KNOW THAT LIFE IS WAY TOO SHORT. I CAN BE WHAT EVER YOU WANT ME TO BE,BUT ONE THING IS THAT. WHEN I LOST A VERY LOVED FAMILY MEMBER I HAD NO GUILT TO PACK ON MY SHOULDERS WHEN SHE PASSED,CAUSE I WAS THE BEST FRIEND SHE HAD EVER HAD BESIDE HER THROUGH THIS VERY PAINFUL EXPERIENCE FOR BOTH OF US WHILE SHE WAS DYING. IF I KNEW I ONLY HAD A SHORT TIME TO LIVE! I WOULD NOT DO MUCH.JUST WOULD WANT MY LOVED ONES WITH ME UNTIL THE END.THE PAIN NEVER GOES AWAY IN TIME WE BEGIN A HEALING PROCESS BUT WE NEVER FORGET OR LOVE THEM.ALWAYS REMEMBER THE GOOD THINGS,NOT THE BAD.DONT FEEL GUILTY JUST FEEL HONORED THAT YOU WERE A PART OF THIS PERSONS LIFE.MY CONDOELANCES GO OUT TO THIS FAMILY AND MAY HE REST AND GOD BE WITH HIM AND YOU. REMEMBER THAT GOD ONLY TAKES THE GOOD ONES.SINCERLY! JANICE.


rm_need4fire2 64M

1/10/2006 5:29 am

I would take my kids..one by one..and go for a long walk (beach..woods whatever) and re-iterate some lessons on life..love of family,friends..open thier hearts to humanity..civil manners..and then tell them secrets about myself that they yet to know..The people that have touched my life in someway would be gathered at a party where I would tell them one on one how they have shaped or influenced my life ..and I would personally thank each one. (your in good hands Todd)


muscles4u2have 55M
1642 posts
1/10/2006 8:38 am

Make sure my family and friends know how much I love them. Hopefully by be a good person having no regrets about how I have treated others. I try and treat people the way I want to be treated.


mygmyg 59M

1/10/2006 6:22 pm

TM, a gathering of friends and family for a couple of evenings. All of us crammed in the kitchen preparing food, drinking wine, sharing each others company through the cooking and then the consumption of favorite foods.

laughing, telling stories, and teasing each other, memorizing their faces, voices, laughs and enjoying each one for his/her own unique charms.

For me, nothing seems to be more memorable than time spent around a great meal with family and friends.


MyRealLoverOne 46M

1/11/2006 8:05 am

I think I would spend my last days spending time with the ones I love, and making sure I told those around me of my love and appreciation for them. I would encourage those that loved me to celebrate my life when it was over. I would hope that I could leave something for all those around me to ponder regarding their own lives. I would want them to live life to its fullest and enjoy the relationships they have because they are priceless.

p.s. Very good post sweetie!


_Safira 53F
11260 posts
1/11/2006 12:51 pm

I concur with Real Lover ... as well as throw the mother of all parties for EVERYONE.

Goddess1946 asked similar questions. I told her that I would want my last words to be, "Thank you for loving me and letting me be a part of your life." And that I would want my tombstone to read, "She Loved All." It is most assuredly true.

I love you, my princess!

P.S. BLOG ON.

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rm_mjd1105 65M

1/15/2006 11:15 pm

This is my first post as I'm a new member. I just had to comment on this subject which I know too well. Five years ago I had throat cancer and now lung cancer. They gave me a 15% chance when I was diagnosed in July 04. After finishing treatment in April 05 I decided I wasn't going to sit around waiting to die. I told my four children I had something I had to do. I bought a motorhome and in July 05, I headed out alone. From NY to San Diego to South Texas. I have met with old friends in Wisconsin. Made a new friend in Iowa. Spent 3 weeks near Denver, with old neighbors I haven't seen in 25 years, since they moved to colorado. I hiked through beautiful canyons in Utah, even though my lungs screamed for me to sit. I drove for miles out into the desert, wondering at times if I would make it back out. I looked up my cousin in Las Vegas. Hadn't seen him in 20 some years. I went to San Diego and greeted my niece as her ship returned from 6 months at sea, defending our freedom. I spent a week in New Mexico with an old friend that I hadn't seen for 30 years. And you know what...you can go back. After being with my old friends for a few short days, it was like we had never been apart. It was a wonderful feeling. And now, I'm in Texas getting ready to head into Mexico for the rest of the winter. When I come out in the spring I will head to Nova Scotia & New Foundland to visit friends I met the last time I was in Mexico. Somewhere along the way I am going to learn to fly an ultralight and I'm going to go to a nudist camp. Who knows, I might even meet someone on the internet for a wild fling.

That's what I'm doing with some of my last days. Just imagine, if the Doctor's are wrong, all the things I will have done that I probably wouldn't have done, if I didn't think I was dying....


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