"Why can't a woman be more like a man"?  

rm_tennismaiden 59F
2103 posts
11/30/2005 6:23 am

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"Why can't a woman be more like a man"?


I receive numerous responses to my profile, some very creative, others well....amusing. pilot92 had reached out to say hello yesterday and wrote:

"I am curious about your perception as a woman on the female profiles on this site. Have these women been so hurt emotionally that they protect? They find protection by reducing things to such a primal level or are they appealing to what they think men want to hear"?

I wrestle with this dilemma so often I cannot possibly tell you. As a young girl having natural inquisitions, playing doctor with my girlfriend and being found by my mother. I was aghast by my mothers reaction to playing with myself, which was of disgust, she all but slapped me for being human. As you can imagine having an effect on me the rest of my life.

I toil with my sexuality which is very passionate and emotional, as a young woman I did confuse sex with love. There was a desperation to be touched in part due to the lack of affection and perhaps touch from my parents.

I don't claim to be a psychologist, but have had many years of therapy seeking answers to many of these questions. I learned there is so much of life that stems from our earlier foundations as children, most if not all our actions today come from unresolved or confused status as we evolve through life.

Men in general have been reared for generations in the same method today. Pragmatic and typical knowing a career is eminant, that your cock is your best freind, and someday you'll get married and raise a family. The ole standard is usually applicable....men can be raw and understood within their sexuality due to social acceptablity.

I struggle with being seen as a "slut" due to having an intense desire for touch and orgasm. With that comes loss of respect and the perverbial "holding out" that other woman claim suceeds at getting what you want in life. You know the "bitch" that has her mojo in check and knows she's the best damn lay so "work'n it" seems to work!

As we look today at the needs of many in society we see men and woman that experience more stressors, due to careers, school, families, complexities. Our world is changing, more greed, justification,need for heightened gratification to stimulate our already over taxed senses. We then see men and women evolving to those needs, less emotional connection, double carreer partners and children that are being left to their own devices as they grow and formulate the young morale mind.

There is a cycle of freedom that warrants more woman becoming like men in their sexual need as they burst the glass ceiling and have less to do with traditional roles as spouses. Hence less emotional connection, more liberal responses and keeping up with the "jones'" (man) mentality.

While I comprehend this ever changing world I'm still caught within my traditional morals and beliefs. Yet thrilled that more woman are embracing their sexuality and "having it all". There are so many woman of my age that deny their sexuality practically cutting it out of their lives completely due to so many complications. Hormones or lack of, emotional unresolved issues, child rearing, careers, etc.

I do believe that woman are born with an inately need to please, we are cerebral in our plotting and will concoct schemes or scenarios laying a foundation to lure our men. Some women are born with this gift...others like me? Don't have a clue, wouldn't dream about being anything other than genuine loving or completely giving in all aspects of ourselves and sexual conduct.

I am saddened by the frivolity of sexuality in todays daily life, I can only surmise it is a direct reflection of the need to fill a void. It can be an addiction, as is alcohol, drugs, food, gambling. And most will stop at nothing to fullfill the demands of a chemical "high" in order to get their fix.

So to pilot92 I hope this has sufficed in answering my perceptions as to your query. AS usual I enjoy receiving comments to my blogs....please do!

as usual the spell check never works for these bogs...please excuse my mistakes!

Tennismaiden

WoodyDiaryKepis 62M
99 posts
11/30/2005 7:44 am

Once again, I'm impressed at your wordsmithing , and the ease with which you can organize your thoughts and transfer them to paper. It's the hallmark of the professional to be able to make something difficult look "easy" (I should know LOL!), and just another facet of your enormous talent. XOXO N.

"Nature always favors the hidden fault. "- (Murphy's Third Law)


HeardLankaMalls 55M
2925 posts
11/30/2005 12:23 pm

A quite eloquent dissertation TM
I'm sure we can't read the mind's of all that post profiles on here. But I'm sure there are those that are honest in what they are looking for; and those that are trolling the waters (applicable to both sexes).
Thanks for your thoughts...


exit82sexyrub 56M
19 posts
11/30/2005 9:25 pm

I'm sorry, would you mind repeating that.....(couldn't resist)


TopFisher 63M

12/1/2005 1:34 am

First off women that love and enjoy sex, even with a male partner are NOT sluts!

Well most of the time anyway.

Glass celings being crashed...... some of that actually scares me. I've seen to many ladies all too unprepared for such advancement and blow it in ways that so simple yet so stupid. It takes time on task and experience working WITH people to be in a position to aid and guide them.

I've watched both men and women aspire to a position and blow it. Too bad most women allow something petty to destroy them while most men that fail destruct for other reasons.

My early childhood memories are that from the late 50's and early 60's. A very different time in our world.

I don't mind women excelling to positions of prominance. I just remain resereved if they really do have the moxy to handle it. Such is due to seeing so many fail when they should not have. Yet they did.

Wonderful read TM, really is!


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