So it begins  

rm_teacher4u78 38M
35 posts
7/19/2005 5:01 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

So it begins

Wow so it has taken a while but I actually have people looking at my profile! Actually communicating with these women has proved an entirely different task. Not being the most outgoing person in the world initiating a conversation is something I am neither good at nor had much experience. What do you say? How do you say it. Is a long e-mail best or a short one? Questions, questions, and more questions. I’m am going to OCD myself out of writing anything worth reading. Help. How do most people on here send the first e-mail. What do you like to say or like to read? You help would be much appreciated. Also if I am online my SN on aol is lancer7191 or i usually have the friend finder IM thing on too.

Masseur_0 41M

7/19/2005 5:42 pm

I can empathize. Not sent many emails myslef but humor and brevity are my mainstays, at least at the begining. I want to find out if they actually wanna know more before I go all War and Peace on them. And I never get right down to it on the first email, unless that's all you want, then go for it, waste not want not.
But, as you say, you could OCD yourself if your'e not careful. But fortunately you have a somewhat captive audiance. You'll get to speak again if you want. Not like trying to hit off a conversation on the train and knowing it's your one and only shot. N'Joy

Import1a92 34F  
13 posts
7/20/2005 3:49 am

I usually start off with a short email asking each person what their hobbies, interests, and profession is, so I can get an idea of how busy they are in their daily lives and if they are availible for meeting up. Usually the second email is the longest. Or on IMC or other instant messengers, you can skip all the email waiting nonsense and get down to business. I strongly suggest in any conversation, since we are all on a sex site, to express what you have experienced and what you would like to experience, sexually. Second, what kind or type of relationship you are seeking, so no one gets confused during some ackward moment. Third, request a picture or web cam invite. We all don't want any unsuspecting surpises. Of course we have to be attracted to the person or someone would have to bring the "brown bag" and blindfolds. It's your choice if you give out personal information, just beaware of the consinquences. (i.e. stalkers) Be honest, straight forward, and have fun.

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