The Power Of Attention...How To See Wth Your Heart  

rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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3/21/2006 10:45 am
The Power Of Attention...How To See Wth Your Heart

This is an homage if you will. An homage to Lulu. Her influences. Her legion.

Lulu has, by any account, been delt a poor hand in life. Down's Syndrone, Lupus, and Celiac are some of the more noteworthy afflictions we all detected during her 44 years among us. Today she slipped into a coma, and learning of this prompted some serious thoughts and some serious anguish from me.

I am indeed pretty fortunate in life. I have none of these afflictions to rob me of cognizance or ability. No one sees me as handicapped or less than perfect or less of a person. I get to enjoy strangers talking to me. Not avoiding me or my eye contact. Yep...I'm pretty lucky.

Lulu doesn't enjoy my liberation.

Today I heard a story about when Lulu was 5 years old. She was sitting on the couch with her grandpa and he asked her if she wanted to learn to tie her shoes. She was excited and wanted to learn. Grandpa patiently went over and over the accepted methodology. He had some errands to run and departed for a bit. All afternoon Lulu remained on the couch. First working on her shoes...then waiting. All afternoon. At 5 years old.

Grandpa returned and Lulu couldn't wait to show grandpa her shoes. Grandpa looked them over. Were they tied properly? None of us would think so. Grandpa did. He smiled, hugged her, and said..."You know what I think this calls for? Ice cream!" Hand in hand they went for ice cream.

As an adult Lulu acknowledges that a part of her has Down's. A part of her is affected this way or that, by this or that. But none of the afflictions are her. They are a small part of her. Even her near-daily physical pain is accepted as a part of life...she knows nothing else. She looks forward to most everything. And if she's avoided by another, she even accepts that.

Lulu sees and accepts life every day as it arrives. She isn't judgemental, cynical, nor holds grudges. She remains open, honest, and loving even though she has been so unlucky in life.

As I sit here thinking about this wonder named Lulu, and her legion...I realize how handicapped I really am.

Lulu, my heart is with you. Get well soon!


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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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3/21/2006 12:41 pm

So correct Lioness. Thank you for your prayers.

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rm_saintlianna 45F
15466 posts
3/21/2006 1:47 pm

I think when I was reading this I felt something tear in my soul. And now I cant quit crying. It is beatiful because its true and beauty and truth go hand in hand. Thank you for writing this, I only wish her the best.


libgemOH 56M/52F

3/21/2006 1:55 pm

I was beginning to wonder if you had a serious side...and am glad to see one! My daughter has disabilities too and she is the one who teaches me what life is really about. Lulu sounds like an extraordinary woman and my prayers go out to her and to her loved ones, you included for strength. Please keep us posted! -B


Vick_Demise 44M
2431 posts
3/21/2006 2:00 pm

Best wishes in this regard!!!


You can shine your shoes and wear a suit
You can comb your hair and look quite cute
You can hide your face behind a smile
One thing you can't hide
Is when you're crippled inside


rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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3/21/2006 2:13 pm

Thank you Saint.

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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3/21/2006 2:19 pm

Gem I shall, thank you.

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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3/21/2006 2:20 pm

Thank you Vick.

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TTigerAtty 62M

3/21/2006 6:17 pm

Thanks for posting this. I causes me to recognize and appreciate how fortunate I truly am to have my health. My thoughts and prayers go out to Lulu and to you.


southrnpeach333 50F

3/21/2006 8:04 pm

Lulu sees and accepts life every day as it arrives. She isn't judgemental, cynical, nor holds grudges. She remains open, honest, and loving even though she has been so unlucky in life.

I should be so handicapped.


MOfunNOWWOW 55F

3/21/2006 8:44 pm

Beautiful post I would love it for my physically and mentally challenged kiddo's parents, if I may. There is a familiarity to your words at the not for profit I work at that we often use with eachother. The world has it backwards, we are the mentally challenged.
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hotandhorny107 58F

3/21/2006 10:41 pm

wonderful post and my thoughts and prayers are with her. It is wonderful sometimes to see life through the eyes of another that is less than perfect. They seem to bring a new meaning to all of it, reminding us that it is not all about the money we make, the home we live in, the car we drive. It is about experiencing people places and things to the fullest with out thinking about what another may think. May God keep watch over her as well...


papyrina 50F
21133 posts
3/22/2006 7:31 am

a wonderful tribute to all the lulu's of this world


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i'm here to stay


readytolay_3
(What the fuck is this shit..?? *rolls eyes*)
105F

3/22/2006 8:21 am

Wishing the very best for you Lulu and thanks for reminding the rest of us what REAL grace, beauty and strength is....Ready

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rm_1hotwahine 62F
21091 posts
3/22/2006 8:50 am

I frequently see allegedly 'handicapped' individuals with much better attitudes about live than the rest of us and I've often wondered about that. I find this true particularly in those folks who have Down's Syndrome. It seems like everyone that I've ever known with Down's has touched me in a way I can't explain. I wonder why that is.

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digdug41 49M

3/22/2006 9:08 am

TDA not only can I come her to laugh I come also for the inspiration you give also thank you it always reminds me to check myself and attitude

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barbiebunny 36F
5597 posts
3/22/2006 2:41 pm

Give lulu a hug for me and I really like it when u do these things here.

Its good to be...ME


mm0206 68F
7767 posts
3/22/2006 3:40 pm

I think I just fell in love

.....m.


rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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3/23/2006 9:58 am

Salz thank you on behalf of Lulu's loved ones, and the loved ones of the Lulu's we've yet to meet.

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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3/23/2006 9:58 am

Thank you Tiger. We are lucky indeed.

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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3/23/2006 9:59 am

Peach...me too.

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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3/23/2006 10:00 am

Mo you have that right!

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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3/23/2006 10:01 am

Thank you Hot. I agree, it is life that matters most.

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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3/23/2006 10:02 am

Thanks Papy. Oops...sorry. I accidently pinched your butt. Twice.

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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3/23/2006 10:02 am

You're welcome Ready. Thank you for your thoughts.

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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3/23/2006 10:04 am

1Hot you're right. Nature lends wonderful compliments moreover to that which we tend to see as an oddity.

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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3/23/2006 10:04 am

Dig thanks buddie.

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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3/23/2006 10:05 am

I will Barbie. My pleasure. Thanks for stopping in.

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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3/23/2006 10:06 am

MM...thank you for your thoughts.

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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3/23/2006 2:06 pm

Thank you Jay.

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