A Mini Tribute To Manhood ... & Getting There  

rm_talldarkavg1 105M
15586 posts
10/10/2005 5:43 am
A Mini Tribute To Manhood ... & Getting There

Yesterday was my Dad's birthday. He clicked into 81. I know what you're thinking..."Tall...how can your Dad be 81 when you're 94?" The answer is simple...I think he lies about his age. Friday my brother, my oldest nephew, and your's truly took him to lunch. What follows is an account. The names have been changed to protect the innocent.

For those of you who may not be aware...my Dad is an Archie Bunker. He pretty much hates everything and everybody. He grumbles like nobody I have ever met, and is quite obvious with his thoughts. At least with a person like him, you always know where you stand. However, his smoke screen is going to get busted right here.

He may well be the guy that the bark VS bite cliche was written about. Let me share a bit about this gruff old goat. He's an ex-Marine from WWII. He flew a Corsair (single engine single bomb airplane) and was stationed in the South Pacific. In my early childhood he was pretty spit and polished. He lightened up as he aged. I think partly do to maturity and partly to my antics.

A little more background. My mother was diagnosed with MS when I was 10 and she spend the final 10 years of her life motionless and bedridden. When she dies, she didn't have a single bed sore. Nor even the hint of one. My father used to take off work everyday to come home and feed her. Turn her. Take her to the bathroom. And see that the proper television show was on.

Not one time during this period did he complain. Not one time during this period did he go out on her. This brings me to the most valuable lesson he taught my brother and me. What a relationship means. Keep in mind, I am not judgemental. What fits on me may not fit on someone else. We're all different and we all have different circumstances.

My Dad always used a guy named Cliff for his examples. Parental examples are nothing new now are they? Well, it seems that Cliff was married. He dated non-stop during his marriage. He told the women he was separated. LOL, he stayed separated for 19 years...until she found out what had been happening and finally dumped him.

My Dad told us that nobody but us has to think our thoughts. We have to think them for the rest of our lives. Never do anything that you'll regret later. Above all else...treat other's hearts as you wish to have your's treated. WTF? What kind of Marine training is this?

Morality. To this day I am a one woman man. I always have been. Is this important? Do it really matter? Well, to me...it matters. Fidelity is very important for me. I live it and I want it from another. Old-fashioned? Yep. But then again...I'm 94. Thanks Pop...you did good! Happy Birthday. I love you Dad.


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frbnkslady 48F
6183 posts
10/10/2005 8:48 am

AWWW< Happy B-day Pop.. That is a very nice story to tell. Wish all could be blessed with having known something like that.. T

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ExploreMore4Me 59F

10/10/2005 8:57 am

Dear TDA...Your Dad did more than good! He did GREAT! Is it really old fashioned, or perhaps is it that your personal commitment to a relationship is highly valuable to you? Bravo to you and for you!

Happy Birthday TDA's Dad! You have a great son, a fine man! I'm sure you're proud!

Hugs & Kisses My Friend!

EM4M


digdug41 49M

10/10/2005 9:10 am

hey TDA that was so cool and I feel you on that if we ravaged each others hearts then it wouldn't be a surprise if the earth collided with the sun

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yagottalikit 49F
583 posts
10/10/2005 9:21 am

You're dad is a wonderful soul! Seems he did a fine job of keeping the apple close to tree, as well. Birthday wishes for "Pop", from me!

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it


rm_StripPokher 57M
387 posts
10/10/2005 9:58 am

talldarkavg1,

Congratulations to you and your dad. My father and mother were married in 1948 and celebrated their 57th wedding anniversery this past summer.

I'm a one woman man myself, as well...

...one woman at a time...one after another...


rm_talldarkavg1 105M
10172 posts
10/10/2005 11:07 am

T thank you. However...there is also the discipline side to him. When I was 11ish I pulled a fire alarm. Wasn't sure why. I got busted and heard the usual..."wait until your father gets home" As soon as he got in she filled him in. He said nothing. Cool! After dinner he said, "After you finishing loading the dishwasher...go downstairs."

I gulped..."Why?"

"Because you're going to get a spanking for the fire alarm!"

"But but but...why the basement?"

"Because I don't want the neighbors to hear you screaming."

It took at least 2½ hours that night. FYI...he figured that I would punish myself thinking about it. He was right. I got one whack. To this day...I see a fire...I hand my phone to someone else.

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DirtyLilSecret61 55F

10/10/2005 11:07 am

Happy Happy Birthday to your Dad. He sounds like quite the guy and something tells me alot of him is in you. Personally - I crave and need
monogamy.

"Lil"


rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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10/10/2005 11:11 am

Thanks EM4M. I guess it is the comittment factor. Don't say it if you don't mean it type thing.

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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10/10/2005 11:12 am

Thanks Dig. The human heart is as vaulable as it is fragile.

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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10/10/2005 11:13 am

Thanks yagotta. Apple has the same worm too!

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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10/10/2005 11:14 am

LMAO Strip. Congrats to your folks on a happy life.

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BLONDENEEDSSEX 57F

10/10/2005 11:55 am

I love it when you write like this, underneath the humor more often than not there is a heart of gold such as yours . My mom taught me the same values and I follow them not only for myself , but for my mom and her struggle to bring us up right.


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
10/10/2005 12:15 pm

It's good to see that you are living your life according to your upbringing. I can blame my actions on my Mother and her example or lack there of, but I can be the only one responsible for my actions. I saw what my mother did and I could have changed my actions not to mimic hers, but oh my god, I am becoming my mother! No, I can't blame her. I can only take the blame upon myself. However, I have also decided not to feel guilty for my choices.

I am very glad that your father has been the example to you that he has. It sounds like you have a great relationship with him, I am happy for that. When my father died, I know I didn't have one regrets, because he and I were very close. I miss him so much! Give yor dad a big hug for me in honor of my father please.

DustStormDiva


rm_1hotwahine 63F
21091 posts
10/10/2005 1:14 pm

You are either a welcome exception to the rule or else I really have become jaded. Or maybe a little of each?

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JJKittyKat 59F

10/10/2005 2:18 pm

wow what a great Dad. Mine was my hero too but he has been dead more years then I care to think about. I am heartened to see you enjoy and appreciate yours while he is still alive. Incidentally my mother also had MS but outlived my Dad by 15 years, The strain of being the carer was too much for his heart. Your story it made me smile and think about Dad again Thanks for that. XXX


rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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10/10/2005 2:29 pm

Lil I am very very into monogamy! LMAO I have my initials on everything.

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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10/10/2005 2:30 pm

Blonde parents are a wonderful gift. LOL and we all know what problems my parents had!

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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10/10/2005 2:31 pm

Honni respect is the key isn't it. Respect yourself and you'll respect others.

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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10/10/2005 2:33 pm

Diva, consider it done! Having not one regret speaks highly of you Diva. It sure is easier to resolve issues while they can speak back.

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
10172 posts
10/10/2005 2:35 pm

Wahine I think many men and women think this way. Especially in here. It may not be the image that they want to project...but deep inside...maybe this is exactly how they feel. Then again, I like cold toilet seats so what do I know?

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
10172 posts
10/10/2005 2:37 pm

JJ it is my pleasure. I'm happy I brought back fond memories and a smile. MS is a horrid state to say the least.

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deliciousngood 64F
1666 posts
10/10/2005 4:26 pm

I miss my Dad.

Thanks!! Words to live by!


rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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10/10/2005 4:53 pm

Delicious you're welcome and it's my pleasure.

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rm_beaujelais 59F

10/10/2005 7:35 pm

Ha ha, very nice ...

Happy Birthday TDA's Dad!


dano6332 56M

10/11/2005 12:11 pm

TDA that was really nice. Thanks for sharing it


rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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10/11/2005 4:15 pm

Beau thank you.

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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10/11/2005 4:16 pm

Thanks Dano. You know how the jarheads are...ingrained training LMAO.

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rm_1hotwahine 63F
21091 posts
10/11/2005 5:04 pm

"I think many men and women think this way. Especially in here. It may not be the image that they want to project...but deep inside...maybe this is exactly how they feel."--I thought about this and you know, I think you might be right.

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slidein2meplz 61F
1994 posts
10/11/2005 6:19 pm

absolutely touching...loved it.. thank you. Happy b'day to your dad.

~~~ Just me, poppin to say HI! ~~


rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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10/12/2005 3:37 pm

Wahine...sometimes I hit the spot. After all, law of averages are with me by now.

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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10/12/2005 3:37 pm

LMAO Risky...a fuzz smile?

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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10/12/2005 3:39 pm

Slidein, thank you and welcome to the neighborhood. LOL, care for a beverage?

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
10172 posts
10/12/2005 3:46 pm

Redbee I guess you busted me. You are correct, my profile is a load of BS. If ANYONE thinks for a moment that I am on the level...they need help more than me. I have but one father, and I am proud of him. My comments about him are honest. Sorry you wasted 20 minutes in here. But look at the bright side...you got to chew out a complete stranger, imply doubt as to my integrity towards my only reamining parent, and insult my father for ever considering children. I'd say that's a well invested 20 minutes wouldn't you?

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rm_talldarkavg1 105M
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10/12/2005 3:51 pm

Redbee, glad you came back. Welcome. On my profile I state that I am single. This refers to the fact that I am not married. Here's another one too difficult to believe, many of us in this site actually talk to one another often on the phone, actually know each other, and many many of us are meeting in Chicago in 10 days or so for a face to face convention. Most all of us are who we claim to be. Including me!

Redbee, not everyone bombs Pearl Harbor dear.

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