from a girl's perspective  

rm_sweetone244 56F
583 posts
5/13/2006 12:06 am

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from a girl's perspective

What do you look for when you come here ... or maybe I should ask, HOW do you look for what you want when you come here.

We women are picky, and we should be. These are scary times and a hell of a lot of you men out there are just plain perverts. But there are also guys who are just as picky as us girls.

When minds meet it's great, but when they don't, I just step back and let it go. No need to be pushy, insistent on why this or that. I'm not going to seem desperate - because I'm not. Just as we women have an "intuition", guys have it too. They feel it when you're desperate. And there are many guys who will take advantage of that - those are the ones who hurt you. Those who are up front about it, well, honestly, it still hurts, but at least you know where they stand. I'm so grateful to those who have said thanks, but no thanks. They have saved me a lot of heartache.

The thing is, I'm worth a hell of a lot to many people. I have a lot to offer - a lot to give. Why waste my time on someone who obviously isn't interested.

Go slow, friends first - give a lot of space. You may think you're finding a FWB, and end up finding much, much more.

And if you don't, you say its been nice chatting and move on. Life is too short. Life is too good.

SlimGoodGuy 38M

5/13/2006 12:40 am

As long as you let them know friends first and that it *could* turn into more, not shove them into the friend corner for all eternity.

Honesty works, but add a little finesse and it works for YOU.

Argh! @ double meanings

rm_sweetone244 56F
377 posts
5/13/2006 12:14 pm

I always use finesse. I am the queen of finesse. But I won't ever say up front that it could turn in to more... that just gives false hopes and expectations. This just invites pain for one or both parties if it doesn't work out.

There's nothing wrong with just being friends if thats what it is.

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