First thoughts  

rm_swannee04 59M
3 posts
1/28/2006 5:21 pm

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First thoughts

About 3 years ago my wife announced she was too fat and did not want to have sex anymore, of course I said she was not to over weight and I still desired her. It did not matter our sex life was gone. I understand that this may pass, so I hung in there being the good husband and father, putting no pressure on her at all. One year latter nothing had changed so I asked if we might try to have sex, she said no way she did not feel like it. So I found somebody at another friend site and we began meeting, Great Sex and it was just great being with somebody wanted you sexually. Well to make a long story short my wife found out and got really pissed, not going to divorce me just make my life miserable. My first question would be, why does she expect for me to give up sex just because she said so. Maybe I am dense but I do not get how she can be so mad. Let me know your thoughts, I would appreciate it.

rm_Angel47389 61F

1/28/2006 10:18 pm

Umm, did it occur to you that she might be getting it on the side??? That's what my ex did when he just quit coming to bed with me--no announcement, no explanation. Just no roommate anymore! It took me a while, but I finally figured out he was still gettin' it. But when I tried to do the same thing--shit hit the fan! How fair is that??? Well, needless to say, that's why he's the ex!

I realize your situation is different, and I'm just throwing out some ideas. Something I would definitely insist on is that she see her doctor. There could be a medical explanation. If she refuses, or you find out there's nothing wrong, and she still won't have sex, I'd say you've done everything you could. According to my rules, you're entitled to have your needs met elsewhere, and if the wife doesn't like it, then SHE better meet them herself! And as far as making your life miserable, remind her that TWO can play that game if she insists! Good luck!

rm_swannee04 59M
1 post
1/29/2006 9:36 am

Thanks for commenting. Yes it did occur to me but no I do not think that is it, she might stray with her mind (my kids swim coach) but not physically. I have asked her to see a doc and she absolutely refuses. If I make her life miserable she takes it out on my boys too. Stcuk between a Rock and a Hard place. Thanks for helping me out with your ideas. I might put up more musings as I call them and I would appreciate your thoughts.

krzysexikewl2 54F
1 post
11/30/2006 7:06 am

I say...Move on ! get rid of only live once , obviously your not happy and neither is she...time to see a LAWYER & get a DIVORCE........ it's a no brainer.....good luck !

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