the surrender  

rm_strapondoll 48F
46 posts
5/29/2005 2:45 pm

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5/13/2007 8:53 am

the surrender

in leui of creativity this afternoon, i'll review a little erotica.

a precious few of you out there might know of a book called "The Surrender," by Toni Bentley. most of you never heard of it. that's OK. i wouldn't know either if i hadn't read a New York Times book review.

later when you log off, you can imagine me going from bookstore to bookstore asking clerks in my non-urbane community for this title. a guy at one of the chains dug through the back for me. months later, he and i eventually became friends through a friend of a friend. he likes to tell me now that i look familiar to him.

i smile and say, "i have one of those faces."

but the truth is he's trying to remember that i was the girl who came looking for the book about butt-sex.


"The surrender" is what Bentley calls "an erotic memior." aw baby, you know i want to tell you all this book changed my life or that this book put anal on the map, kids. i want to pat your arms and say, it's OK now. come out of your corners and closets, dust all the taboo right off that sodomy and go to it. tell your wives and girlfriends. rounds of K-Y for all!

better yet boys, bend over for me... anal sex will make you see the light. look here, former ballerina Bentley says it's the way to spiritual peace, to nirvana!

hmmm. as much as i dig my anal predilection, i'm forced to admit the truth to y'all, sorry. Bentley even goes into a short chapter on how butt-fucking will simply never be mainstream. no book could make it so and this one doesn't do all that.

but man, this woman writes some serious poetry about how much she likes it in the ass.

she writes, "he fucks me into my feminity. as a liberated woman, it is the only way i can go there and retain my dignity. turned over, ass in the air, i have little choice but to succumb and lose my head. this is how i can have an experience my intellect would can never allow..."

given my fascination, i wonder about men letting a woman fuck them, wanting a woman to fuck them. is bending over for me freeing them for an experience their intellects will never allow? ah, i love a mental hard-on.

Bentley briefly touches on the "'bend over boyfriend' movement."

"this movement certainly deserves... ah, well... these guys must deserve something for facing not only the terror of homosexuality but a girlfriend wielding a dildo bigger than their own dicks. and what a movement it is! the chance to be a girl, the chance to find out just how much submission it takes to have a hard, seven-inch cock up your bum," she writes.

she delves into the concept of equal-opportunity ass-fucking. you fuck me baby, and i get to fuck you. but she goes a step further and muddies the waters writing that no man of her's would be bending over.

"protest is the only dignified position for a straight man to assume when he's consented to be ass-fucked. protest every inch of the way, i say."

for a long time, i thought this meant that she was vetoing this moevement. i cursed her mentally. but i'm reconsidering this. i think she is saying something different here.

some men want it and don't want to admit that to their women. it's a tricky space to be in... protesting every inch of the way is the only way some men can surrender. when the two people doing it thoroughly understand that, i'm thinking that protest becomes a script for something else entirely.

you'll have to read it and let me know if you agree. don't buy it. this book is simply not that great. one of my favorite butt-boys simply stretched out in a cushy chair and read it in the bookstore. i love this detail. a man sitting there so non-chalantly reading an anal sex erotic memior in public.

beautiful. it's the kind of thing that makes you want to start noticing what other people are reading when you pass them by, even if you already did.


ltjo2xd 58M

5/30/2005 2:54 pm

I about as straight as they come and while there is some element of surrender in a good ass fucking the fact of the matter is that it is just a great release and can do wonders for you attitude and relationships. So, surrender, yes, but more than anything if you're at all comfortable with yourself it shouldn't be that difficult to open up...pun intended.

A doctor friend of mine initiated me to butt fucking. She loved getting it and was convinced that I would as well. She was right... In on of your earlier postings you were talking about positioning. Several other factors to consider as well (as I'm sure you know} are length, girth, shape and the amount of lube you use. My favorite position happens to be on the end of the bed with my legs on her shoulders. Not only can she see the pleasure in my eyes and get a hand on my cock, but I get to see her enjoy as well.

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rm_namgel 66M
245 posts
4/4/2007 12:32 pm

Bentley is right.


otkbbsme1957 60M
10 posts
9/28/2007 11:08 am

My wife use to fuck my ass and I EJOYED IT! Then one day she quit because it felt weird to her. Now I no longer get it. Damn it!


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