just say when  

rm_strapondoll 48F
46 posts
6/17/2005 7:26 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

just say when

part of what i like so much about the idea of fucking a guy in the ass is the role reversal.
given the tastes and fantasies men have shared with me over time, i think for some guys that idea is reciprocal.

you'd think it'd be the best of both worlds for a woman, right? we get to not only say when the sex happens, since we are, after all... women. but we also get to do the fucking.

but there's a seedy underbelly to this role reversal shit that no one ever warned me about. it seems unless i want to become a raving femdom donning 6-inched-patent-leather boots, a corset to match my harness, go around toting a whip and ball-gagging my men when i fuck them, that i have become the man. i lost my ability to say "when."

i im'ed last night with a man i've talked to for some time. i badgered him about a conversation he was having with a woman in another screen. not because i am the jealous type – oh, i am – but because i was curious. "does she know about the *whole* package?" i asked.

so many women rarely sense the depth of a man's sexuality at first contact. i am not saying i hold all those cards but i've seen a lot of hands. call it sexual empathy and a whole other entry.

oh, no. he explained they were hashing out terms. she didn't know anything about the scope of his desires. i thought back and asked him if he and i had done that. being the diplomatic person that i am – i can talk to men this way. you'd think they like it. y'all don't. you want us to... um... be jealous bitches, i think.

if i remember the conversation i had with him, he offered me his virgin ass and a four hour conversation ensued from that offer. i came three times. over IM. no exaggeration. and he kept up, if i remember right.

no, no. i am not enamored. i was pretty turned on – not gonna lie about that. but i was pretty annoyed last night when he pointed out i was the "plaintiff" in any negotiations between us; it was different.

he was right. i shot back, how the fuck did that happen? how the fuck did a woman with less scope in her sexual repertoire and less foresight to see and understand what and who she was dealing with trump me in the negotiation round?

seriously guys, how the fuck did that happen? with him, i didn't dress up my desires with romantic language. i got to know his sexual history, his kinks, enough about him as a person, a man, and i shared the same of myself, as i have with other men i've considered sleeping with both before and since. but the difference is i wanted to fuck him in the ass. and somehow, being the would-be penetrated shifted the power to his side.

this is very similar to the understanding that the bottom has all the power in the realm of BDSM. it's the submissive who calls the shots. as soon as the submissive stops the play, the game is over. a true top only gets off as long as the bottom is also getting off. so really, even if i bought into all the femdom dressage that goes with wanting both to have breasts and yield a cock, i still wouldn't really have the power.

power is all a trick of the light, smoke and shadows. it's nature is as illusive as it is illusional. that's fine. i'm down with that. but what i am not down with is how i lost the power to say "when the sex happens."

is this just me? am i too nice a person? do i hold too much respect for the literal bottom in these situations? should i become very male and proceed to seduce, cajole, flirt my way into the jeans of the male population and take what i want and go?

god, i would have hated being a teen-aged boy. i don't know how you guys did it.


rm_4nik8_4u 61M
2501 posts
6/24/2005 6:39 am

Hello! Do what you want to do. Don't ask when you can have sex! Have sex when you want to. If you want to take more of a male role then you have to take more control of yourself. It doesn't mean you should be disrespectful or mean, just assertive. If a man see's something he want's he usually let his wants be known. You know what you want don't you? You want to do the fucking, right? Do you make love to your men? Think about how a man would make love to a woman and do this to your men. When we get fucked we want foreplay just like women do! What do you think?


rm_Iwillwatch21 51M
3 posts
7/7/2005 5:27 pm

Ok, now you've goten a taste of the other side. I didn't think that would ever happen to a woman. I think I'm speechless at this point.
You've got my respect for putting it out there baby!

James


manupforall 58M

8/3/2005 11:40 am

This is the key and the ture power of women wearing strapons and fucking men. The women get to learn much more about how it feels to be a man and the odd nature of the power that is both stronger and weaker in the mans role.


Divemaster142or3 53M
5 posts
10/31/2005 7:00 am

never tried it before but it sounds like fun


rm_namgel 66M
245 posts
4/4/2007 12:30 pm

I am assuming the position.


otkbbsme1957 60M
10 posts
9/28/2007 11:03 am

Love to have a woman use my ass!


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