things that make me go....hummmm  

rm_stepnout1 49M
5 posts
9/23/2005 6:45 am

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6/9/2006 5:54 am

things that make me go....hummmm

i'm a (happily ?) married male for 12 years, my wife and I have a fairly good relationship, but yet I'm drawn to other women.
I am not entirely sure why, but yet its just the way it is. I would be devasated if she were to find out, or perhaps she already knows but chooses to ignore my infidelity.
I think it is caused by the lack of excitement in our sex lives...its not that we do not have sex it's just the same old dull routine 4 or 5 times a week.

Is their others who go through the same thing?..perhaps its just a man thing- the need for more. Perhaps its a primal urge in us all, that some people control better than others.

I hope you will comment and share your thoughts and feelings.

Alright1951 65M

9/26/2005 8:56 pm

I think what you are feeling is normal, at least it was also my experience. While I did find attractive sexier ladies out there, I never actually crossed the line, but came mighty close a few times. I even experienced other ladies, single and married, that were blunt knowing I was married at the time and offering themselves to me. It was hard to resist and often played on my mind, what if I had.... well knowing me, I would likely feel so guilty, I'd end up telling. Then after 19 years, I found my X had been sleeping with a good friend. And ... now I wish I had and maybe would have learned a few things we could have used in bed to spice things up a bit. Recently tried Male to male sex, and had some good experiences with some guys. It never turned me on before, but it sure was fun.

artmcnab 57M

9/27/2005 5:46 pm

I share your sentiments, but have to admit the ho-hum of 4 times a week would keep me from straying.....but the ho-hum of monthly or less allows me to not feel as guilty

anotherpathetics 61M
23 posts
1/10/2006 4:19 pm

If ur bored, maybe ur woman is to..have u tried actually talking to her

rm_Blondie2867 39F

3/7/2006 1:04 pm

From a ladies perspective i will tell you this, sex between me and my partner could not be better and although i have cheated, none of the sex i had outside of my relationship was as fulfilling as what i got at home. And yet i still love to get the attention and have sex with other people. why? I'm not really sure. It must be the excitement of it all or the fact that they are attracted to you. Who doesn't like to be wanted, sexually? I don't think there is anyone out there who doesn't. And yet i will still look for something outside my relationship. Maybe it's just the need to feel like you can please someone too. Pleasing someone else is right up there for me as much as getting pleased. Anyway, good luck with it all and hey, look me up. I think we are on the same page!!!!!!!!!!

rm_igodownhfx 53M
1 post
5/11/2006 9:46 am

I have only cheated by having sex with other guys, always loved mansex too. I'd be interested at this point in trying some sex with a M/F couple where the guy is bi

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