Should I stay or should I go?  

rm_shortsweet98 36F
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6/24/2005 12:21 am

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Should I stay or should I go?

This is my first attempt at a blog, so forgive me if I ramble. I'm at a crossroad in my relationship with my boyfriend. We've been together for several months now and I've just don't feel as if he pays attention to my needs or wants and it drives me crazy. The more I try to talk to him about it the more I feel as if he doesn't hear me. I keep going back and forth about whether or not I should break it off with him and there are only two reasons I can see that I'm still with him: 1) the sex is good (even though there are even times in the bedroom that he doesn't pay attention to what I want to do) and 2) he loves me and I know how hurt he would be if I leave him (although sometimes I feel as if the only reason why he love me is because of what I can do to him in the bedroom). I am very uncomfortable about this point in our relationship....when I'm unhappy my eyes begin to wander and I start looking for happiness elsewhere. I am not the kind of person that could 'hook up' with someone outside of my relationship; however I do miss the single life when I could just call friends that could accomodate me whenever I was in the mood......I care for him, but I just can't wait around to see if things will get better. There should be two people happy in this relationship - not one.

AltumHunksUnite 53M

6/24/2005 11:49 am

First, welcome to blogland!

Second, sometimes one of the people in the relationship has to take the lead and work the hardest to keep things going. Not knowing you at all, I am unable and unwilling to give you a specific answer, other than if you really do love him, then you'll do everything possible (within your own personal boundaries) to make it work.

Do you think he's cheating? It would certainly answer a lot of questions for you, and help with a lot of your decisions. Sticking to a mutual loving relationship is one thing... sticking to a relationship where one loves more that the other and the other is cheating is something else.

Best of luck.

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