To oral or not to oral...  

GraspCrownRusts 46M
738 posts
7/13/2006 12:33 pm

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To oral or not to oral...

"To Oral or not to Oral, that is the question...."

I met a girl online recently who says she does not give head. Now, I am alright with this. No biggie. There are plenty of other things to do besides give and/or receive head, right?

She apologized though and that struck me as kinda funny, in an odd sort of way.

What I mean by that is this: "Is oral expected nowadays?" Is it like the peppermint in the bottom of the Sonic bag? Do we just expect it to be there?

About 90% of us (my rough guesstimate based on what I've read) enjoy a decent amount of foreplay. I find that for myself the foreplay is where I score the most points in my game, so I need to come out strong there.

To me, oral is a big part of that foreplay - not neccessarily receiving, but rather giving. If I don't get the little guy licked up and down prior to intercourse, then it's not the end of the world. Most of the time finding myself firmly entrenched at the "Y" for a while is a good enough turn-on that I don't need any further stimulation to get going - doesn't hurt though either (and it's fun to watch in my humble

Now I didn't say all that to toot a horn or nothing. I just know for me that foreplay is as much fun as the intercourse itself - and that oral is a big part of that foreplay.


Is it expected?

Ana_6973 43F

7/13/2006 1:38 pm

As a woman, it sometimes seems like guys just expect you to go down on them. I certainly don't expect a guy to do it to me, but if he does, YAY, bonus point!! But a lot of guys I have met seem to expect us to do this to them, some even expect us to get them off that way even if we haven't gotten anything from them. I'm sorry but I'm kinda selfish that way. Since it takes more to get most women, myself included off, I am certainly not going to get him off first if I haven't even gotten warmed up yet.

Now that being said, I enjoy giving head. I just don't always give it to completion. I rarely give selfless head and that only when I'm in a commited relationship or with someone who I see on a semi-regular basis. Certainly not the first time I sleep with them. After all, some guys use that first come as their excuse not to perform again and I'm not playing that game.

But, yes it does appear that many men do expect it. Some even demand it.


~~"I can scream as loud as your last one, but I can't claim innocence."~~

rm_abutoo2 44M
1078 posts
7/13/2006 5:01 pm

bah! all's fair in love and war with that being said. Oral is great, but there are many ways to please during foreplay without it. Fingers come to mind. Many errogenous zones to kiss and you can still give hand jobs or finger. All I'm saying, is enjoy it! lol

GraspCrownRusts 46M
780 posts
7/14/2006 6:07 am

Ana_6973... I agree whole-heartedly with your sentiment. Guy's lose some of the horny edge after the first cum - and for some guys that is their only shot at interest and arousal. So, you are correct in what you're saying there. It is a give and take sorta thing - but definitely a foreplay only kind of role and not for completion in your book. I see where you are coming from there. Gives me a new angle to ponder on for a while...

GraspCrownRusts 46M
780 posts
7/14/2006 6:09 am

abutoo2... Thanks for stopping by again - made me chuckle with "all's fair..."

Yeah, I agree, there is a whole lot to do as foreplay to make a simple BJ the last thing on your mind. It's just about having fun, in my humble opinion... lol.

Addy19742 42F

7/15/2006 9:41 am

I personally don't put limits such as that, all situations are different, I just do what feels natural with that person. Ya know!

GraspCrownRusts 46M
780 posts
7/17/2006 6:50 am

Addy19742... I'm with you - go with the flow and whatever sounds fun at the time... Of course, oral usually is a part of that for me...

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