My Life on the "Friends Ladder"  

GraspCrownRusts 46M
738 posts
7/31/2006 12:39 pm

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8/2/2006 8:11 am

My Life on the "Friends Ladder"


Friends are important...

We all have a need for someone we connect with, can identify with, to share our experiences with, laugh with, brainstorm love strategies with, trash the opposite sex with, and etc with...

I like being a friend to people. I enjoy hearing all the "stuff". I enjoy being an encourager. I enjoy offering way more than my two cents even when I'm not asked. It fits me well.

Being a friend sucks though. No, really. It can.

Ever heard of "The Ladder Theory"? Google it. See what I'm talking about.

I'm firmly entrenched on the "friends ladder" of some fun people. I enjoy talking to these people - I think some of them even enjoy talking to me - but that's it - that's all it will ever be. For me that is a hard realization to swallow sometimes when you look down and realize you're not on the ladder you thought you were on.

See, there's two ladders for women they place the men they meet on from the first moment. There's the "Guys I Would Sleep With Ladder" and there's the "Friends Ladder". Guys are instantly quailified as one or the other - and the guy is never told which one he is on. Go figure. No wonder it's tough sometimes, guys.

Fellas, you ever wonder why you get to hear all the "stuff" and never get to do all the "other stuff"? Turns out, you're on the wrong ladder, dude. Enjoy the view from over there - you can be a casual observer of all the guys on the other ladder where you wish you were.

Women are lucky - evidently guys only have one ladder. Women don't have to worry about looking down too often - just up to see who is in front of them on the ladder. Geez! Must be nice.

I wish I could say I had two ladders. I guess in a way, it works out the same way. A woman could be so far down my ladder, there'd be virtually no way I'd sleep with her. Right? Did a guy just type that sentence? Is it possible?

I guess that anyone I am friends with and whom I share a connection with is always high up enough on my ladder that they are never out of play. Then I'm on their "friends ladder"...

Dayumit! It sucks to be a friend sometimes... but, I like it...

canuhandle1968 48F

7/31/2006 3:19 pm

Although I can't exactly speak from experience, I tend to disagree to an extent... I believe that a guy can go from one ladder to the next. Women gab between women because we listen to each other. I think that possibly somewhere down the line a man who listens to us; to our problems, our sorrows, our joys and all the "stuff" may eventually end up on the other ladder.... Why?? Because we discover that through all the smog and fog, he still "loves" us anyway.... And that's basically what we want... someone who will love us anyway.


rm_abutoo2 44M
1078 posts
8/1/2006 8:46 pm

I have two ladders now, thanks in particularly to one sweet nurse from southern oklahoma


GraspCrownRusts 46M
780 posts
8/2/2006 8:11 am

    Quoting rm_abutoo2:
    I have two ladders now, thanks in particularly to one sweet nurse from southern oklahoma
Geez! She's off the "Girls I would sleep with" ladder? Where did she end up? I was thinking guys only had the one ladder...

Must be a special girlie if you made up a whole new ladder for her... If it's the one I have in mind, then yeah, she is...


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