So many things,  

rm_sharksnsails 45M
697 posts
1/20/2006 4:19 am

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So many things,


So many things, important things to talk about.
The importance of acting with integrity.
The reason why chivalry is good.
How to teach the children (maybe by example?)
Why we are here.
How to love ourselves.
Loyalty.
Proficiency in bed, and learning to care about your partner's need.
Tollerance for the differences among people.
The preservation of our planet, sustainable living, eco-consiousness.
The role of government, individual freedoms vs. the needs of society.
When to fight / when to walk away.
Serving my own wants and desires, how to strike a balance.

with so much in the world to know, to consider and debate, where to start....

maybe just to listen.

I'm listening to you right now. I am most interested what you have to say.....

Sharks

SaucyTart_36 47F

1/20/2006 6:46 am

I love your posts. They are full of thought and therefore make me think as well. We do not live alone on an island.


redlipsprincess
(Princess Lips)
51F

1/20/2006 6:51 am


The reason why chivalry is gone?
Where have all the Knights gone?


TTFN


CelticKarma 43F
1350 posts
1/20/2006 8:25 am

I started answering... it got so damn long I moved it all to my own blog, I hope you don't mind, darlin'


rm_sharksnsails 45M
738 posts
1/20/2006 8:28 am

Thank you saucy,
I looked for a quote on google, "No one is useless in this world who lightens the burden of it for anyone else." ~ Charles Dickens in Our Mutual Friend Is what I found.
I prefer what we learned in scouts, "leave it better than you found it"
It is wonderful to me that you say we do not live alone on an island; because I believe we live together - on an island (a small fragile island in a great void of cold lifeless space).
Do you worry about the current lifestyle that americans live? what about it most concerns you if you do?

princess,
why do you believe chivalry is gone? please elaborate.
I dont believe chivalry is gone, though I believe that the evil will always outnumber the good, just like there will always be those who say fear has more power than love. Chivalry is not just how a man shows his love and respect of the being of woman, it is also his humulity at (and respect of) the power endowed him by devine providence. The strong who are enlightened (not burdoned by) this understand that it is a blessing to be able to protect and aid. I am very certain that love is greater because its remberance is voluntary and not compulsory as fear, therefore its strength is that it is a gift and not a tax. Things grow in environments rich in gifts, and die if overtaxed, therefore love is life and continuance, and fear is death. How can death be greater than life? How can arrogence be greater than humility? Chivalry will never die. And the spirit of the knights (service, piety, loyalty) is still around in great abundance if one looks in the right places, though it will always be the minority view.
I do wonder sometimes that it seems women are so attracted to "bad boys" like moths to flame, this always causes great dismay on my fellow good men, who dont think of themselves as boring weak or unsexy. I honestly don't understand either. this is why I have a really hard time playing games like "who's slut are you?" or forcible sex games. I am a terribly bad at that kind of play. How unsexy of me. ha ha.
Gee, I sure am talking a lot for someone who is supposed to be listening LAMOL (laugh at myself out loud).

sharks


rm_sharksnsails 45M
738 posts
1/20/2006 9:43 am

I will be glad to read the whole answer on your blog dear>
I have been reading tons of blogs lately, This rig is driving me fucking mad! muaaaaww ha ha
sharks


rm_sharksnsails 45M
738 posts
1/20/2006 9:45 am

PK
I will be glad to read the whole answer on your blog dear>
I have been reading tons of blogs lately, This rig is driving me fucking mad! muaaaaww ha ha
sharks


SaucyTart_36 47F

1/20/2006 12:18 pm

Do you worry about the current lifestyle that americans live? what about it most concerns you if you do?

YES. So many things - our eating, our lack of movement, no appreciation for nature/fellow man/family. I learned alot when I lived in Munich. Not one of my friends over there has parents that are divorced, NOT ONE!!! They don't like paying the high taxes but they know it is necessary for schools, socialized medicine, nobody has to be homeless, etc. They go for walks when they meet friends and don't just sit in a cafe. When a woman gets pregnant she leaves work 6 weeks before she is due to prepare and then can wait 1 yr to come back, if she chooses her position or an equivalent is saved for three years. Americans eat too much fast food, prepared food. I would love to find someone to settle down with and enjoy a home cooked meal most nights.

Would you spend the day hiking? camping? sitting in the sun and enjoy just being?

-S


redlipsprincess
(Princess Lips)
51F

1/20/2006 2:40 pm

sharks,
I correct myself my dear butler...
you are very wise and compassionate.
My apologies..*bows*

Chilvalry was almost extinct,
many men grew up not learning this important skill and gift.

I hope for our future, it is learned and revered again.

Love has more power than anyTHING.
EVIL pales in its bright light.

I have to say I am regretably guilty of "the moth to flame" syndrome... I looked in wrong places ...yes..and got burned.

Sometimes knights are really bad guys in black, and visa versa.

It is a quest...

TTFN


redlipsprincess
(Princess Lips)
51F

1/20/2006 2:42 pm

and a former boyscout ?
impressive

did u make eagle?

TTFN


PrincessKarma 43F
6188 posts
1/20/2006 6:22 pm

I'm back as me!!!

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma


redlipsprincess
(Princess Lips)
51F

1/21/2006 12:43 am

wohoo PK! royal welcomes!

TTFN


rm_sharksnsails 45M
738 posts
1/21/2006 4:48 am

Saucy,
Yes MTV and XBox, my wife thinks I am abusive, because I would actually make my daughter leave the house and walk around, go to parks, and learn things. She sees me as a threat to the "Norm" and I am. And to me that's a good thing. The "Norm" right now sucks. I really want to take my daughter overseas, and expose her to world cultures other than our own, I think it would be good for her. So many other children should be so lucky as to have parents pull them away from the tv computer xbox, and actually spend time with them, talking and doing things. Marriage fails in this country because of several factors, I believe they include too many distractions from spending quality time together (no watching tv together is not spending quality time). Do we live in a culture that encourages dissatisfaction through marketing, unfaithfulnes, a use and abandon attitude (a throw away attitude), short term thinking, laziness, the importance of instant gratification, and dwells on superfucial unimportant things?
European culture is got many many trumps on the US, and I believe that many of them enjoy a higher standard of living and more freedoms, in particular the netherlands. Everybody talks about how the Europeans pay "Higher Taxes" for all of the social benifits they get, but I believe we do if you look at the "whole" picture. Social Security is a tax (no we will never get it back, they have spent it all now it only goes to pay interest, and it will not be there for us later and everybody knows it) Paying my health coverage premiums is a tax if you consider that the cost is impounded in the regular tax of Europeans for which they get the service. Therefore, I pay 34% income, maybe 8% state income (ok not in texas, but some ppl in the US do), 10% Social security, 10% for my health care coverage. that equals 62% tax when its all figured in, and everybody I know has done this exercise though nobody seems ready to admit that we pay higher taxes than the Europeans, for an equivlant (or lower) quality of services. The reason I believe noone wants to admit it is because it would me we are, on masse stupid and getting royally screwed. which sadly is the case. Anybody want to add up the cost of thier SS, there Health premiums and co pays, and thier state and fed. income tax and argue that we pay less, please prove me wrong.
As far as how I would love to spend my day, I still have my backpack, and still use it from time to time (I have had this pack since 85.) Sitting on a beach watching the waves all day is good too, though I would rather be skim boarding or boogie boarding, windsurfing or boating in the surf, or on the lake. I would like to try rock climbing. also disc golf isnt bad.
My wife used to cook extremely high fat, high carb dinners and sugary deserts all the time, and said it was her way of showing that she loved me. I understand the principle, but I ballooned to 260lbs, and felt bad if i didnt oblige to eat large portions to show her that I appreciated her. I feel great pressure to oblige somebody who cooks, but my normal (weight loss ) portions of food are so small that most cooks take it as an insult. Even the cooks on the rig here thought that at first, though I explained my plan to lose weight. So sometimes I get nervous at home cooked meal plans, and at going out and eating plans. Mostly the best idea is eat small, (like teaplate) meals and then only when hungry. (In fact even with my small portion meals I am still rarely in hunger pain, and barely losing weight) Most meals are just to damn big. and a small meal is almost depressing. so meal time is a bummer either way. lol. If you were to cook a meal, what would it be? how many calories is that? lol
would you leave the country and become a dutch citizen if you knew you would make the same level of disposable income (after tax, rent, food, and transportation)? You, having lived overseas are especially good to ask this question of.
whew!
ok, next...

Why are you drawn to the bad boys RLPrincess? what was it that attracted you to them, is it something deep and indescribable? try...
yes sometimes wolves wear sheeps clothing, honestly I think women have an intuition about these wolves that they ignore (you ever just knew you were messing up, and went for it anyway?).
And, yes, I made eagle, blog about it another time, long and short, 8 "Life"(its the rank before eagle) scouts including my arch rival at the time (a real draco malfoy), and 4 eagle scouts all got red eagle shirts with thier names on them from "malfoy's" mom, very cerimoniously. I was a life scout at the time too but was skipped (the implication that I wouldnt make it),I cried, then got angry. I beat 7 of them (the 8 "redshirts" I called them). 3 would never reach eagle, malfoy was one of the last who did, and tied with 1 (the son of the scout master) to eagle. I was 15.
lastly, no apologies needed, if you reached a realization that your fear of there being no fair knights anymore was a generalization, and you know that there are now, than I have restored your faith in finding one! that makes me feel good. real good.
Do you fear that your knight might pass you by?

Princess Kharma is back!
Trumpets sound! and all note that blogland has regained some of her former glory. Camolot d'blog may return as the shining kingdom it once was someday! PK, could you please post your blog response that was too long on this thread too?
Now that you are back, I will have to get a membership (I promised the powers that be that I would if they restored you, on another thread) still at least i will finaly be able to read profiles.

OK everybody, crank this out, write me some more of these great long responses, I have so far enjoyed this post as much as any. Lets make this the longest post on my blog.
here are some more questions for yall.

Saucy,
What is the best way to change the attitudes and actions of americans on mass? Lets say I wanted to do something about all this ranting, what should I do?

RLprincess
Do you think that someone can be a force of good even though they walk in a world of evil and interact with it on its term. what makes a person evil? what makes them good? Do you think your perfect life mate would compliment you, or be like you?

Princess Karma, I am soooooo glad you are back.
Do you feel any culpability in the events that led to your banning? What have you learned from the whole incident? Jealousy is one of the seven deadly sins I grapple with the most, the others are lust, pride, envy, averice, sloth, and gluttony. Others I grapple with are lust, envy, and gluttony. You have known me for a year now, do I seem to be doing a good job growing out of them? Americans seem to be battling them on mass too. do you think Panamanians are as bad about some of these issues as Americans?

all right laddies! start those key boards!
lol

I love yall. big happy smiles
sharks


PrincessKarma 43F
6188 posts
1/21/2006 3:15 pm

Ok, here it is... I also posted it in my blog, but now I've answered all your questions (and I do mean ALL, the first post and the last comment) in one comment block. I am being completely honest here, so it will probably ruffle some feathers.

Integrity is acting the same way toward everyone in all circumstances. Sad to say, 99% of the time people will treat you differently when they see a change in your fortune. "Kiss 'em when they're up, kick 'em when they're down," seems to be the code today. If you claim to have a code of conduct, then stick to it, FFS! Show us you mean what you say, otherwise you’re just another two-faced £$%&#@.

Feminazism all but killed what is commonly called chivalry in the 70's and 80's. This in itself is not such a bad thing, except it seems to have given both sexes license to forget good manners. I see nothing inherently wrong with gentlemanly conduct as long as it's not patronizing. Remember, the code of chivalry was created as a guide for the powerful as to how they should behave toward the weak and helpless, or those of "inferior" condition. While attitudes are much more enlightened as to the "inferiority" of others, chivalry is still needed by both sexes.

Teaching children only works by example. When my nephew was 3 he was forbidden to watch most cartoons because he would get aggressive after watching even one episode. We don't realize just how impressionable children are, so they end up suffering the consequences of our carelessness. (For the record, the only things I will EVER let my kids watch on TV are Sesame Street and carefully selected DVDs. I fear the consequences of TV as nanny.)

Why are we here on this site, or why in the world? To the first, we each know the answer. To the second, I can only say to live, to experience the human condition to the fullest without giving in to fear or looking back in regret. Even the things we later wish we had not done have a lesson inherent in them, if only to teach us our limitations.

How to love ourselves... if we say we love someone else unconditionally and accept them with all their flaws, then why don't we love ourselves the same way? I don't say we shouldn't work on improving ourselves, there is always room (and more to the point, need) for improvement, but the starting point is to love and accept ourselves as we are.

Loyalty is a must. Loyalty to my partner, family and friends above all; to my employer, as long as it is mutual (yes, I gotta make a living, but I won't allow anyone to walk over me); to my country, well, that depends, I don't believe in the nationalistic BS the government and /or press feeds us.

Proficiency in bed is a learned skill. It's never the same with different people, or even with the same person, there's always something new to be tried. Caring about your partner's needs in bed is what separates the merely good from the great. While Casanova certainly publicized himself in his memoirs, there seems to be enough evidence to back his reputation as a lover. Women don't recommend a man who doesn't care for their needs; I don’t base my recommendations merely on endowment at any rate (if it's too big or I'm not wet enough it hurts), but on skill and consideration….

This just brought back a recurring thought. No man I have ever given oral sex to has ever forgotten me, and even years afterward they remember it in detail when we cross paths. *giggle* I must be really good, guess all those Creamsicles as a kid paid off in the end. LMAO

Tolerance means nothing more than acceptance of others as they are and reaching a mutual accommodation. I’ve noticed, however, that some groups who bewail someone’s intolerance of them are also groups the least willing to accommodate other modes of thought. Radical militant feminism is my biggest peeve of them all, and the reason so many women of generation X and Y shun the term "feminist". Feminism is not just going out into the corporate world and kicking Trump, Turner and Gates off the ladder, it’s also standing up for your choices as a woman. A good case in point is mine: I’m a professional with sixteen years of freelance experience under my belt, I can work at home or in the field, almost always have. I don't need to punch a fucking time clock, nor do I want to be a corporate toady all my life. I can say all that and be praised, but I can't even mention my desire to be a stay-at-home mom until my children are old enough for school without the Feminazis attacking me for it. These same cunts (a term I despise, but applicable in this context) are the ones who are pissing and moaning the loudest at the abundance of jerks who expect them to put out on a first date. So much for tolerance and equality!

The planet is not going to die. We are. Life on Earth has survived several mass extinctions already, from the Pre-Cambrian period on down. The only difference is that the current one was started by one of the species living at the time, namely humanity. Sadly, the nations that can make a difference are the nations most involved in the destruction of entire ecosystems in their greed for natural resources, both renewable and non-renewable. (You know who you are.) The grassroots efforts are laudable and do make a difference, but until the effort is carried out on a larger scale there won’t be much change. There are viable alternatives to the fossil fuels used today, and to the tropical hardwoods entire forests are razed for, but until we are all truly conscious of the results of our desire for fancy furniture and the latest plastic gadgets, the destruction will continue under the heavy hand of the corporate mentality which only cares for profit to the shareholders.

I'm a firm believer in hands-off government, as long as corporate culture isn’t getting the upper hand (see the previous paragraph). I believe in freedom, but I also believe that with it comes responsibility.
a) I watch the news and see elections where turnout was barely 50% of registered voters turned out, and they in turn are 50% or less of the population of voting age. If we accept as valid an election by simple majority, then 51% of the vote is barely over one-eighth of the voting population. And then people are complaining about not liking the way things are run?
b) People want freedom, they want to do as they please, yet when someone else's practice of that freedom impinges on their comfort zone they scream bloody murder and off with his head. The mindset is "It's ok if I break the law, it's your ass if you do it." Any group of people needs guidelines for living together, be they verbally agreed upon when stranded on a desert island or written down in a code of law. Yes there are unfair laws, so we work to change them, but until someone gives me a reason to accept murder, , physical/emotional abuse or stealing (I do accept attenuating circumstances on absconding with another's property), you had better walk the line. It isn't so hard to do, it’s simple consideration toward others. Treat others as you would be treated. Protect those who need protection, for you will be one of them one day.

When to fight and when to walk away is always a personal choice. Sometimes the fight is worth any sacrifice, even if you lose everything, but other times the loss outweighs the benefits. I fought long and hard for something I believed in, but there came a point where I saw it was futile to go on, there was no way I could win or even reach a draw. To go on would simply have destroyed me, and for no purpose; I'm not cut out to be a martyr. Sometimes capitulation is the only way, it gives you respite and a chance to let the wounds heal.

I really can't help you with striking a balance between your own wants and desires and the needs of others. That's something we each have to figure out on our own. In my case, I am relatively unfettered by others' needs, since I am single and have no children to care for. Still, I do have to take into account that my needs and wants may interfere with those of others. I try to follow the Wiccan maxim of "As it harm none, do as you will."

"Culpability"? If you're asking if I admit fault, well, yes, perhaps I was. Do I feel guilty? No, guilt is no longer a part of my emotional vocabulary (long explanation withheld for now). What have I learned? Money talks, ergo bullshitters walk.

I think you have managed to outgrow your jealousy some, mostly because you seem to finally be accepting that she didn't love you the way you loved her. Lust is ok with me as long as you take care of yourself and please, *gives Sharksy THAT LOOK* I don't want to know anything about your sexual escapades. Do me that kindness, will you? This ties in to my own tendencies of jealousness and envy.
Speaking of envy... I know yours, and I really see no reason for it other than the trauma caused by that woman comparing you to someone else. I'd be happy to be getting what you have.
Avarice is not merely the desire to have but the desire to keep others from having as well. I believe in sharing one's good fortune.
There is a difference between pride and arrogance. Most people tend toward the latter, even as we are taught false modesty. I take great pride n my work and in my considerable intelligence and education (most of it non-academic) but I see no need to rub it in anyone's face unless it's called for to take some arrogant prick down a notch.
Sloth... I'll get back to you on that one.
Gluttony is insidious. It's a personal and societal problem. On the personal level, gluttony is promoted by "super sized" portions, the "Buy now, pay later!" mentality, "keeping up with the Joneses" and the alienation that drives people to shop or eat to alleviate their loneliness instead of taking a good hard look at WHY it's so hard to really connect with another human being. Societally, "developed" countries guzzle resources at an alarming rate, extort economically waker countries into giving up more and more of their economic freedom in exchange for "aid" which leaves them even more in debt, and then have the arrogance to point fingers of blame at them when the economies collapse and the ecosystems disappear. (I think [blog FreeLove999] can go into much greater detail on this if you give her half a chance.)
Oh, and Panamanians are just as envious, jealous, greedy, and slothful as any other nation, it's simply a matter of how it's expressed.

© 2005 PrincessKarma

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma


rm_sharksnsails 45M
738 posts
1/22/2006 5:02 am

That was fantastic PK.
That kind of long post was exactly what I wanted here.
Let me introduce my friend the devil, and his servant advocate.
"mr. Advocate, can you please help us with some of the responses to that great blog"
"O.K. sharks here it goes,
I don't believe you can act exactly the same way toward everybody in every circumstance, because every situation is a different puzzle with a different desired outcome. Can I have integrity by sticking to a principle goal, for example the most benificial outcome/ least harmfull one, even if it means altering the way I behave in different circumstances. Two overweight people, but with different personalities (this an example barrowed from a recent experience) they both ask, "how can I lose weight" One you tell every time you think of eating a meal or snack that you don't require (or overeat at a meal) write down what is going on in your life, and in your mind in this notebook, then you can work on the emotional and habitual reasons why you aver-eat." The other you say "You know what you need to do, Quit talking about it and do it, or shut your pie hole" The first recieves the message feels encouraged, loses weight. Good. The second feels challenged, Loses weight. Good. Both solutions worked, it was the reciever of the message that changed, there for the transmitter of the message coded it differently. Is this bad integrity?
I am glad I am not an ism. but sometimes using the power of grouping together for common goals is a great way to affect change.
Teaching by example, the first thing I tought my daughter, she is a child and I am an adult, and there are things I am allowed to do, that she is not. Fact of life, for instance, I believe I have the god given right to drink, but do not believe Amy should. Lead by example falls away when it comes to many adult behaviors that children should not be allowed to do. I think the first lesson a child should learn, you are not allowed to do everything or anything you see an adult do. This is the youngest first lesson in personal responsibility a kid can learn.
Also I believe that example is not the only way to teach kids. There are others such as reward and consequence.
why are we on this site, to find love or get laid or both... always a fun question.
The world is ours to live in how we please, do we really owe nothing to the past or future? can we just pass through, without regret. I think regret is a tool for learning, it is the pain associated sometimes with mistakes we make. wishing we had not made them helps us learn, and personal shame matters, it shows we understand the wrongness of an action. It shows we have learned.
Unconditional love is not a healthy standard in a relationship.
Loyalty, is good, but what about circumstances where the situation changes on you, should you stiil be loyal?
I've seen too many posts and talked to too many women to honestly believe, that sieze is not a factor. I'm not saying it can't be mitigated, or that it is in all women, but it is in enough to matter some. For a man good cock size is like for a woman, small weighst size.
(yes I read all the stuff in white)
I think that feminist are trying to oppress woman as much as men ever did, but then, each culture will police thier peers, through sanction and reward.
No the planet wont die, but I don't want humans to live in a way that causes us to.
What if I think none of the people are worthy of a vote, consider Iraqu, som of the best voter turn out turn out of any country for the saddam elections, and everybody voted for saddam.
In this country cops will step over the line and impinge on your freedoms, and intimidate you and evn lie to you about waht thy are allowed to do and not.
fighting does suck.
I like harm none do as I will
I hate to tap on this one but I want to hear, so you believe it was ok to find out what you did the way you did? you dont feel it was wrong or regret doing it (maybe even a little)...
I know that you have jealousy issues regaurding me, and I to my fault had them regarding you back in june. but in the end it is the jealousy issues that scare me, it is a relationship pressure that might harm our relationship, and i don't want that. I want us to be close, but I don't want to be in an own/own relationship, do you? Although as a relationship gets closer and closer certain sacrifices are made in consideration of the others feelings, for instance, if I were to find a mrs. right, I would stop comming to this site, if it bugged her (it might bug me if she continued to come) I am horrible about jealousy and can tell you are too, so I have been poking a bit, I don't want to be owned just yet. As much as I want to touch you and love you, and comfort you, and get pleasure from you, (and I do) I can't be locked into something that exists only in 1111s and 00000s, or even in a few (good) phone calls. As far as telling you my sexcapades, im sorry, i will refarain from talking about it when i talk to you privately, but I will blog about it here, and honestly if I get a chance to get laid by someone I like I should go for it just like you should. In fact we have , since meeting each other both been in positions where we were seeking the affections of others. probably so much of this conversation belongs in private between us. I know this though (and this is to everybody). I would love to get laid, I want a good hard fucking especially after that lame crap the last girl pulled, and am seeking a chance to experience one ASAP.
sorry if this hurts you PK. I have considered your feelings and my needs, and the best balance I can come up with is the one we live in. Thats why I will not pressure you to do or be more than you want to. I have no right to ask it.
there is a difference between pride and arrogance.
I love your look at the other deadly sins.
well i got to get to work but i will be back more today.
sharks


PrincessKarma 43F
6188 posts
1/22/2006 8:51 am

I'll reply to the rest of this later, I'm skipping to the end for now.

I don't mind your tapping on that one.... was it ok? No. I admit it was wrong. Do I regret doing it... in the end, not really. I go back and read my blog before and after it happened and I realize that particular love drove my self-esteem into the ground. Unrequited love sucks big time, as you know so well.
I want us to be close too, but I've held back on you from the start. If my feelings for him were bad for my self-image, I can only imagine what feeling that for you would have done to me, knowing you still loved and longed for your ex. Maybe that's why deep down I still don't believe you, I've been lied to too many times.
I haven't asked you for anything, I have no right to ask, only to wish... and sometimes not even that. All I want is that you refrain from the details as far as I'm concerned, for now at least; your blog is yours to do with as you wish. The same applies to your dick, where you stick it is no business of mine, really. Your chances of getting laid are better than mine anyway. In short... I envy you that way.
You know what jealousy is, don't you... insecurity and feelings of inadequacy.
*SIGH*

Oh, before I forget, you're invited to PrincessKarma's Book Palace...

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma


rm_Bct2Esi 50M/50F
1375 posts
1/22/2006 9:15 am

Wow,

I am in aw of you and wanna thank PK for sending me over here,
For now this is all I am going to say and then after the Denver-Pittsburg game I will come back to this awesome blog and take the time to say something

I am married to a man that thinks that chilvary is slowly dieing, we raised our son to keep the tradition of the good guy going Our children were raised in the libraries, on a ranch before and illness I acquired caused us to move to the small community we live in. We don't have TV anymore, gave it up 3 years ago and we don't miss it. It was ruining our family and our childrens grades. Me allowing my baby brother to buy my children a playstation for christmas 7 years ago was a bad move. One that I regret, to this day. My 18 year old is now addicted to this one online game NO his grades in college are NOT suffering, but.........

We have always raised our children with honesty, sincerity and let them suffer the consequences of their actions.

Ok so now I must go, sprky is waiting for me I will return later, to answer your questions

hugs and smiles


rm_sharksnsails 45M
738 posts
1/22/2006 10:13 pm

Yes PK, not just unrequited love from my ex, but can you imagine how my heart sank when I read "Oh Sharksy I'm in love" in a love doctors chat room after believe I was the mystery man you blogged about before you told me that I was not him. I thought it was me. OOOOuuuuuuch. So, Yeah, I know. As far as ex wife goes, regardless of what roads you have been down you can either trust me or not, If you dont I would rather you say it up front (and you kind of just did so I applaud that) because as far as I know I have never lied to any blogger in blogland, and have only ommited things within the realm of fair ommitance that anyone is allowed for valid reasons, and that I have acted with integrity. So believe me or don't, your choice. Let me know either way please.

Bct2Esi,
lovely underwear dear, thanks for coming and visiting my blog, I hope you will write me something in great length that I can think upon and grow from (I already have enjoyed your first post, and it made me reflect that I just got my daughter an Xbox.... but she did just make A honor roll)

well
I hope I get to read lots more lovely lovely posts.
Happiness People!
Sharks


PrincessKarma 43F
6188 posts
1/23/2006 12:14 am

Oh, I can do more than just imagine how you felt. I've been there. Lots of times. I'm resigned to it, but it still hurts like hell. My disbelief is not that you care, I do believe you care; it's about you actually following up on that where the doubts creep in.

I never imagined it, you know... it took me completely by surprise when you told me on that blog comment and gave me hope where there had been none.

I'm willing to take a chance... maybe because I'm something of a risk-taker.

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma


TabithaElectra79 37F

1/23/2006 1:23 am

I really don't think i can top the answers already left here in response to your post, but what i would like to add is that reading over your posts, i think you are a truly amazing man, and any woman out there lucky enough to secure a place within your heart, is a very lucky woman indeed


rm_sharksnsails 45M
738 posts
1/23/2006 2:48 am

PK,
you have some of the absolutly lovliest eyes I have ever seen, you speak 3 languages (maybe more) your cool, like proper oral, have about a million friends on AdultFriendFinder, are a champion of good causes, and are one of the smartest people in the world. You have even thwaped other ladies on AdultFriendFinder for thier self image problems when they are beautiful. One of the biggist fears I have, you yourself do not believe you are beautiful. And so for you babe, with my sincerest and deepest affection. I have to do this.

"thwappe!"

Please be my close and beautiful friend, and don't hang anything else on it yet. You must find your beauty in yourself (not just love your self), and see your true beauty you must see yourself as beautiful. Being with someone cannot be a validation of anything that you must resolve in yourself either. If you can honestly say that you see yourself as truly beautiful, then I will apologize, and get spanked by an angry german. If not, than please understand why I hesitate to talk LTR, or commitment (oh and there is that big fucking hole in my heart from the last LTR) when I don't want to be in a co-dependent relationship, or hurt you by implying one to soon for me. Both people must have self esteem and self confidence on thier own. thats why I won't move forward on this until I am ready even though I desire the closeness of it now.
Very much AND Also, I will keep my promise I will come see you, because I want to see you. YOU, beautiful, wonderful YOU! and I absolutely won't pressure you into anything (sex, relationship, I won't make you even have to hang out with me when I come if you don't want to.) I said I will be there. So bet on it, bet the farm. I will. Please, please understand! - that I am still unsure of EVERYTHING and I won't commit or ask for commitment unless I am sure. And I am scared of lying to or leading ANY woman on. I would rather be
celebate. (ill bet I just mispelled celebate)

Tabitha,
Thank you so much! lots of women have secured places in my heart! Most of them are my friends, some of them I have "slept" with. Some of them I have slept with. Some I have slept with and not "slept" with. And with flattery like that, you are well on your way to finding a place in my heart too! honestly most I would like to sleep with. but then I am into that sort of thing. (I didn't say "sleep" with. LOL now I am just being crazy...
So see you around, (like dont be a stranger) and like the movie title says, please..."Say Anything"

With affection for all my PEEPs
including my lady PEEPs,
My ... PEEPETTEs

sharks

and one more thing. just so you know, I get absolutly rock fucking hard when you talk sexy to me PK, and have wanted to jump your bones for a long long time, the time when I injured my circumcision scar by squeezing to hard while jerking off, I was fantasizing about you. But I have had many fantasies about other women from this site too, and I don't know what that means. I just dont want to hurt you or lead you on. and don't want to promise you anything I wouldnt do. I would rather lose you now and be honest about not being sure, than cheat on you later, or lie to you at all. Ok I think thats it.
affectionatly, warmly, but frustrated horny and confused, aaron


__Huntress__ 55M/57F

1/23/2006 4:26 am

Wow ... how do you write so damn much ...

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__Huntress__ 55M/57F

1/23/2006 4:28 am

My whole blog isn't this long, Sharks !

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rm_sharksnsails 45M
738 posts
1/23/2006 6:09 am

huntress,
yeah it is dear, (yours is longer than mine, but its not how long it is its how well you use it! lol)
and the answer is that right now they are running casing which normally would be me home on standby but they kept us on the rig for this one, and so Im stuck out here. with shit to do, and I am lonely and frustrated, cuz the rig crew does not befriend the service hands, and I am a service hand. (except for my blog buddies of course)
plus, some of this stuff really needed to be talked about I think.
s


rm_sharksnsails 45M
738 posts
1/23/2006 6:32 am

Flyaway1012,
why has it been a long time? I will go read your blog and find out. hmmmm, I am listening. and what I hear from you, is that you usually sleep uneasily, maybe. maybe somebody has hurt you too (ok , thats too easy of a guess.) maybe you have everything you ever wanted and it just wasn't enough. (no i don't think so) sweet mystery I will go to your blog and share you with me, and for it gain a new perspective and thats why blogging kicks ass. I hope you post here some more, or as led zeplin says, "Ramble On!"

sharks


HOTNBOTHERED0414 46F

1/23/2006 10:02 am

Thought I would come visit you, since you did visit my blog. But now I am just lost.....
So I guess I will just say "hello"


__Huntress__ 55M/57F

1/23/2006 3:47 pm

It is why I love You so ... you have passion
it runs both deep and wide
and knows no bounds ...

Double, double kisses for my oh so cute friend ...

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Fox4aKnight1 43F

1/24/2006 2:55 am

aaron my friend....you are true to your friends and true to yourself ...that is all you can ask of yourself. Loving yourself is a trait that I have....but sometimes I get angry, and rarely do I focus that anger on someone else. I see it as I have no control over what someone else thinks , says, or does. I only have control over me. Therefore if I am angry then I have assumed something with another person which makes me an ass....rather than take out my sometimes unjustifiable anger on others I castigate myself for failing to realize that I was again assuming when I should have either A.asked or B.left the whole thing alone. I try to operate by the rule of "do unto others as you would have done unto you" I do not belive that everything is Fair. As a matter of fact I belive it is just the opposite. However in reguards on how to teach children.....all I can say is to teach them with love, example is a good teaching tool, however teaching them that there are rules that we all must follow helps them unserdtand why things are the way they are. that Effect follows cause and everything has a reason. My family always anwsered the "why" even if I didn't understand it at the time. and something I found out very young .....they also explained the bad things that could happen if I did this that or the other. and then explained why that would be bad ...and then told me that it would hurt them to have this happen to me also. It seemes to work well with me.

I belive I will stop for now and address the rest of your points at a later time. thanks for coming by my blog hun
gummies
kelli


__Huntress__ 55M/57F

1/24/2006 3:40 am

For you ...

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__Huntress__ 55M/57F

1/24/2006 3:43 am

Oops ... typo above ... damn those torpedo nails ...

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rm_sharksnsails 45M
738 posts
1/24/2006 4:01 am

HnB

I don't know why this song poped into my head.
please don't read anything into it...

"She's well aquainted with touch of leather on her hand like a lizard on a window pane."


rm_sharksnsails 45M
738 posts
1/24/2006 9:26 pm

foxy I know you worry about being unstable, and you have some medical problems (where for a while you were very sick).
Im always amazed that despite everything that is going south inyour life you still cling to hope, and keep trying. One of the things I liked most back in the good old days before all that stuff happened between y'all was that I had to of the strongest women on AdultFriendFinder as my regular fans. I was so proud that even though Those other ppl had all that other drama that we were somehow above that. yet in my arrogance i failed to realize that misunderstanding is a fooly that can befall anybody, even the smartest of people, (even me). I really liked it back then, even though my posts are happier now, Im not as happy posting them now as when I could always count on a comment from you and one from karma, and they were always a HUG, and warm support.
I wish I had a time machine.

Huntress,
I think its awsome, that you like my work. I count myself so lucky to have a fan in you (as you have many many fans, including myself). To be respected by one you admire is the best way to validate ones ability. I feel a little more valid this week than last. It is both quite unexpected and makes me happy.

I am going to post a story soon, the main character is a huntress, anyway Im giving her that name because it fits in the story. it's not by way, a pass on you, I really don't think most people here understand that although I may talk sexy to a girl, and may come visit her, and sleep over, etc etc, I don't think sexually about all these girls I meet here except in a fantasy way. the reality never accidently gets confused. I don't know how to say it. Like, I will have a fantasy about Huntress' beautiful tits or fantasia's awsom ass, or G.o.Dawns fabulass outfits, or sexyfit womans wonderful gymnastic poses, and as a fantasy in the shower they are quite fun, but transposing them into real action or the fantasy of making the fantasys come real inspires almost a terror, if not a great discomfort. It would ruin the excellent fantasy to start imagining a reality that follows the form of my fantasy, and I lack the courage to be who I am in those private moments in real life and be comfortable. Just as to many degrees as much as I talk about falling in love, I lack the courage to give it a fair try yet, (though I fantasize about it all the time)
I'm sure that sounds rediculous. but its true. I'm happy with the comfort of a fantasy. And for me that is quite enough, to be happy.


redlipsprincess
(Princess Lips)
51F

1/25/2006 1:28 am

Why are you drawn to the bad boys RLPrincess? what was it that attracted you to them, is it something deep and indescribable? try...

hmmm *digs deep*
not looks...

a sense of advenure perhaps?

a careless whim?

a spark in their eyes?

something not really tangible?

but you know when it eye fucks you


yes sometimes wolves wear sheeps clothing, honestly I think women have an intuition about these wolves that they ignore (you ever just knew you were messing up, and went for it anyway?).

I have an extra sharp 6th sense, and yes I have been known to push it to the backburner and regret it..*SIGHS*

And, yes, I made eagle, blog about it another time, long and short, 8 "Life"(its the rank before eagle) scouts including my arch rival at the time (a real draco malfoy), and 4 eagle scouts all got red eagle shirts with thier names on them from "malfoy's" mom, very cerimoniously. I was a life scout at the time too but was skipped (the implication that I wouldnt make it),I cried, then got angry. I beat 7 of them (the 8 "redshirts" I called them). 3 would never reach eagle, malfoy was one of the last who did, and tied with 1 (the son of the scout master) to eagle. I was 15.

wohhoo proud of you! That is truly awesome...


lastly, no apologies needed, if you reached a realization that your fear of there being no fair knights anymore was a generalization, and you know that there are now, than I have restored your faith in finding one! that makes me feel good. real good.

think they are very rare- endangered even but yes they exist if not in my world in someone else's...shall we start a petting zoo for them?

Do you fear that your knight might pass you by?


I fear no evil...

I think he probally has a lady or three already or wants other
knights or is rusty from the elements


RLprincess
Do you think that someone can be a force of good even though they walk in a world of evil and interact with it on its term.

yes why there is hope...

what makes a person evil?


so many things...

life
love
lack of self respect
remorse
guilt
anger
drugs
etc



what makes them good?


love
life
nature
children
pets
fairies
angels
chocolate
sex
a highe rpower
self esteem
education
community
talent
passion
etc...



Do you think your perfect life mate would compliment you, or be like you?


no perfect mate

alot of maybes

but

would have to be the yang to my ying

the air to my fire

the earth to my water


TTFN


Fox4aKnight1 43F

1/25/2006 9:01 am

[sixe 7]*hugsssssssss*[/size}
aaron,

You will always have that sweetie. My friendship always hun. I am humbled that you thought of me as one of the stongest women here. I actually blush to think so. I unfortunatly agree that I wish things could be like they were before. I know sadly they cannot be changed. The Past will become more so in time. I want you to know aaron.....you are one of my sweetest friends. Telling me truth even though I might not like it. Making me laugh when I needed it. And hopefull giving me a swift kick to the ass when I need it!LOL You are to me ......sweet,careing,sexy man that I am proud to call my friend. We are all human and it comes with faults and the "sins" that we all fall prey to. For me they are not "sins" as the Chruch calls the (Roman Catholic)
but a common failing of humanity. Some are better at their "control" than others. But in this case I have to say that anyone who looks perfect probly isn't. Its my one desire you know (going a touch off topic here) to be in love and happily married. Its also one of my fears that I would fail. So I made a descion a long bit ago....not to get married. Beacause of my sickness and my fear. Yet I still hope, I still dream. I Still see the pretty white dresses everything that goes with them in the Fairy tales. I am a hopeless romantic, and a ruthless pragmatist. My sickness and my survival won't let me be anything else. And you know sadly a little part of my dies each time My fairytale side comes up aginst reality. It hurts a great deal. But I would die truley had I not any dreams, any magic to belive in. My heart would wither and die a cold and lonely death if I lived only in this world.

*end of line*


SaucyTart_36 47F

1/25/2006 7:15 pm

And finally my responses....

Do we live in a culture that encourages dissatisfaction through marketing, unfaithfulnes, a use and abandon attitude (a throw away attitude), short term thinking, laziness, the importance of instant gratification, and dwells on superfucial unimportant things?

Most definitely. We live in a culture now that we only think of ourselves. A sense of community is no longer there, maybe this is because I have always lived in big cities though. I wonder what it would be like to go to a neighbor's for coffee in the afternoon. What it would be like to see the friends each week that I had gone to high school with. LAZY - I was training a 12 yr old boy today and he complained about having to use the stairs at school, he wanted an escalator!!! Then he wants to know how to use the piece of cardio that looks like an escalator so he can WALK STAIRS!

If you were to cook a meal, what would it be? how many calories is that?

depends on who was there. For me - chicken breast and broccoli, for a man - something sexy like stuffed salmon steaks with sauteed spinach and a scrumptuous desert - moi. For friends - brunch.

would you leave the country and become a dutch citizen if you knew you would make the same level of disposable income (after tax, rent, food, and transportation)?

I would love to move back to Europe. It is a better lifestyle - see previous answer. I made the same level of disposable income in Germany as I had in Houston the first go round. I needed less over there. Nobody expected me to have a BMW, fancy apartment, matching furniture, etc. They just expected to be invited over every now and then for a glass of wine (6 Euro a bottle wine at that!)


Saucy,
What is the best way to change the attitudes and actions of americans on mass? Lets say I wanted to do something about all this ranting, what should I do?

Honestly - I think the only way to change attitudes and actions of americans is to run for public office. Sounds sort of hokey but I believe it. You have to start somewhere and the only way to affect public policy is to be in the thick of it. If you want to make sure that abortion remains a choice then you have to either be a supreme court judge or be someone that votes who sits on the court. If you want to ensure that gays and lesbians have equal rights, that we treat the environment with respect and worry less about big business. etc. Run for office.

Jealousy is one of the seven deadly sins I grapple with the most, the others are lust, pride, envy, averice, sloth, and gluttony. Others I grapple with are lust, envy, and gluttony.

Why is jealousy such a thing for people? I grapple (nice word) with it as well. If a man chooses to be with me why should I be jealous? Only if I am not sure that he really wants to be with me am I jealous. If I am really not sure he wants to be with me why am I with him? Because I don't like to be alone. I know that I need to be though. That I am not 100% ready for a LTR, if one came along I would not send him away though, just make sure he knows where I am at so he can make an intelligent decision.

Lust is only bad if it offends the other person. If I lust after you but you either do not know about it or welcome it, all is good. If you do not want me in that way and I either continue to show my lust for you or stalk you, we have a bad situation.

Envy - who or what are you envious of?

Gluttony - I understand

Teaching children - love them! In my opinion, and this was formed due to my upbringing, the most important things you can give a child are self esteem to know that they can attempt anything and if they fail it is ok, a safe harbor to come home to - if they fail and stand out cold in the rain they will not try again, love - to know that you are loved no matter what is one of the most treasured things a person can have, I learned unconditional love from my grandmothers and thank God that I had them in my life.

Unconditional love in a relationship - I agree that it is something that has to be in a safe environment and once it is breached or when things change it is almost impossible to get back.


rm_sharksnsails 45M
738 posts
1/29/2006 1:33 pm

lips, foxy, saucy

I love your responses. I am still thinking about them, and will respond to them shortly.
Thank you so much for taking your time to blog me back.

Sharks


rm_sharksnsails 45M
738 posts
1/30/2006 4:45 pm

I got answers on this one, or responses I should say, there are no answers.

RESPONSES TO
Saucy

<<Do we live in a culture that encourages dissatisfaction ...>>

"Most definitely. We live in a culture now that we only think of ourselves.
***It would seem so...
"I wonder what it would be like to go to a neighbor's for coffee in the afternoon."
*** In Texas we call that a beer, and for the record afternoon starts at about 12:01.
What it would be like to see the friends each week that I had gone to high school with.
*** people change over the years sometimes not seeing them is a blessing in disguise.

I would love to move back to Europe. It is a better lifestyle - see previous answer. I made the same level of disposable income in Germany as I had in Houston the first go round. I needed less over there. Nobody expected me to have a BMW, fancy apartment, matching furniture, etc. They just expected to be invited over every now and then for a glass of wine (6 Euro a bottle wine at that!)
*** Everybody in America take note of this answer, next time you find yourself blindly prided to our way of life.

<<< What is the best way to change the attitudes and actions of americans on mass? >>>

Honestly - I think the only way to change attitudes and actions of americans is to run for public office. Sounds sort of hokey but I believe it. You have to start somewhere and the only way to affect public policy is to be in the thick of it. If you want to make sure that abortion remains a choice then you have to either be a supreme court judge or be someone that votes who sits on the court. If you want to ensure that gays and lesbians have equal rights, that we treat the environment with respect and worry less about big business. etc. Run for office.
*** not bad, but for personal reasons I will never hold office in this country.

<<<Jealousy is one of the seven deadly sins I grapple with the most, the others are lust, pride, envy, averice, sloth, and gluttony. Others I grapple with are lust, envy, and gluttony.>>>

Why is jealousy such a thing for people? I grapple (nice word) with it as well. If a man chooses to be with me why should I be jealous? Only if I am not sure that he really wants to be with me am I jealous. If I am really not sure he wants to be with me why am I with him? Because I don't like to be alone. I know that I need to be though. That I am not 100% ready for a LTR, if one came along I would not send him away though, just make sure he knows where I am at so he can make an intelligent decision.
*** this is a rocking good answer. for me, I thought it would be that sex is only good under those same conditions.

Lust is only bad if it offends the other person. If I lust after you but you either do not know about it or welcome it, all is good. If you do not want me in that way and I either continue to show my lust for you or stalk you, we have a bad situation.
*** agree
Envy - who or what are you envious of?
*** men with more natural testosterone, bigger dicks, more money. men with better looks, and more confidence, people that live happier easier lifes.
Gluttony - I understand
*** Yes
Teaching children - love them! In my opinion, and this was formed due to my upbringing, the most important things you can give a child are self esteem to know that they can attempt anything and if they fail it is ok, a safe harbor to come home to - if they fail and stand out cold in the rain they will not try again, love - to know that you are loved no matter what is one of the most treasured things a person can have, I learned unconditional love from my grandmothers and thank God that I had them in my life.
*** agree
Unconditional love in a relationship - I agree that it is something that has to be in a safe environment and once it is breached or when things change it is almost impossible to get back.
Request Review
*** agree, except to say, that I wonder if you are not confusing the idea of love with the idea of trust. I agree that trust when breached can change things, and so can love, but love and trust are not the same thing.


rm_sharksnsails 45M
738 posts
1/31/2006 9:20 pm

[sixe 7]*hugsssssssss*[/size}
aaron,

You will always have that sweetie. My friendship always hun. I am humbled that you thought of me as one of the stongest women here. I actually blush to think so. I unfortunatly agree that I wish things could be like they were before. I know sadly they cannot be changed. The Past will become more so in time. I want you to know aaron.....you are one of my sweetest friends. Telling me truth even though I might not like it. Making me laugh when I needed it. And hopefull giving me a swift kick to the ass when I need it!LOL You are to me ......sweet,careing,sexy man that I am proud to call my friend. We are all human and it comes with faults and the "sins" that we all fall prey to. For me they are not "sins" as the Chruch calls the (Roman Catholic)
but a common failing of humanity. Some are better at their "control" than others. But in this case I have to say that anyone who looks perfect probly isn't. Its my one desire you know (going a touch off topic here) to be in love and happily married. Its also one of my fears that I would fail. So I made a descion a long bit ago....not to get married. Beacause of my sickness and my fear. Yet I still hope, I still dream. I Still see the pretty white dresses everything that goes with them in the Fairy tales. I am a hopeless romantic, and a ruthless pragmatist. My sickness and my survival won't let me be anything else. And you know sadly a little part of my dies each time My fairytale side comes up aginst reality. It hurts a great deal. But I would die truley had I not any dreams, any magic to belive in. My heart would wither and die a cold and lonely death if I lived only in this world.

*end of line*

this is one of those that needs nothing added
***agree and thanks


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