Elusive orgasms  

rm_shadesdee 40F
8 posts
6/25/2006 5:01 am

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7/2/2006 2:05 am

Elusive orgasms


Last night I had confirmation that I am not frigid. Someone gave me a lovely orgasm through oral sex. So it just goes to show that with patience and someone that knows what they're doing I can have an orgasm from somebody other than myself. I usually always have to masturbate myself to cum. An ex made me cum a couple of times by masturbating me but he didn't like doing it because it was too much like hard work. So good oral sex is obviously the way to go.

Why is it so hard for men to grasp that I don't like having my clit directly touched? It's painful and it turns me off quicker than anything else. I like to have the area around my clit touched very much. I love to be touched everywhere but not directly on my clit. And I tell them this and they don't listen. They think they know my body better than I do. That I'm like all the other women they've been with. No. It's a fact that some clits are more sensitive than others.

Well last night I think my lover (friend with benefits) finally got the message and he worked his tongue over the top of my pussy, just above my clit, while fingering my cunt and arsehole. It felt perfect so all I had to do was relax and let it happen while my imagination ran wild. In my imagination there were two other men in the room and I was wanking their cocks into my face with my mouth open. The humiliation of having cum all over my face is a major turn on for me. Not sure why, but I shall explore these feelings at another time.

So what have I learnt?
1. It's important to get to know a lovers body or you won't get anywhere.
2. I love the thought of being humiliated by men who really can't get enough of me.

foreignsexaffair 41M/41F

6/25/2006 5:53 am

Hi,
My name is Miao from China and I agree with shadedee. Why are men thinking they know what we want and do not want?
I married my husband who understands me and listen to what I want to feel.
He has helped me discover my sexuality and led my mind and body to some mindblowing and thunderous orgasms.
I have fell in love with anal sex and playing with glass dildos and vibrators.
My next great adventure is to have sex with another female, I want to feel her control me in the bed and have me do what she orders me to do.


imLadyBambi 58M/50F

6/25/2006 6:13 am

Shades

I've had a similar fantasy I Feel so Cheap

Actually, I stopped by to welcome you to blogland and to ensure that you were invited to Free Meet and Greet RSVP as you wish - creative comments are appreciated (there will be follow-up blogs on this one involving all cyber participants).

Lady Bambi


rm_PurryKitty2 48M/49F
9753 posts
6/25/2006 7:11 am

It is very important for your lover to understand your body. I really cant cum with anyone else other than Sail.

Welcome to the blogs

Purry {=}

Purry


rm_Sexy_Mone 64F
1 post
6/25/2006 7:39 am

It's so funny that you say that because I was thinkin' the very same thing last night...minus the oral orgasm. I have never had an orgasm through oral sex. Haven't found someone to lick her right.

Still searching...


Linds1957 59F

6/25/2006 8:11 am

before i had children, i didnt like direct clitoral stimulation.. now it loves all the attention it can get...


rm_shadesdee 40F

6/25/2006 12:34 pm

Miao I am happy that you married well and you don't have to fumble around with people who don't know what they're doing
I too would love to have another woman control me and use my body as their instrument.

Lady Bambi thank you for the welcome and the invitation!

Purri thank you also for the welcome

Sexy Mone I wish you lots of luck in your search. I too continue to search for a more permanent source of pleasure

That's really interesting Linds1957! It's fascinating how much pregnancy and childbirth can change the body. I hope I'm that lucky!


eveready06 41M

6/27/2006 6:52 pm

Welcome to blogland hunny! I think the key to your problem was more the fact that you were relaxed rather than anything else! Pretty hard to orgasm if your all tense, and pretty hard to not be tense if someones doing exactly what you asked them not to! I may be stating the obvious, but then I am a bloke lol!


rm_shadesdee 40F

7/2/2006 2:05 am

    Quoting eveready06:
    Welcome to blogland hunny! I think the key to your problem was more the fact that you were relaxed rather than anything else! Pretty hard to orgasm if your all tense, and pretty hard to not be tense if someones doing exactly what you asked them not to! I may be stating the obvious, but then I am a bloke lol!
Thanks for the welcome! Yeah you're right, it's pretty hard to be relaxed when someone is poking you with a sharp knife and that's pretty much how it feels if I'm touched where I don't want to be touched!


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