Philosophical - Sex and Love  

rm_sexygurlsex2 47F
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10/1/2005 9:13 pm

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Philosophical - Sex and Love

I've been a member of the some of the other mainstream dating sites but always seem to be too busy to spend much time on them because it seems like everyone is saying the same things except they aren't really saying what they mean, just what they think people/potential mates want to hear. I've only been a member here for a few days but I the abilty to be upfront right from the beginning is what brought me to AdultFriendFinder. Although I have to say I'm a bit hesitant about meeting some people because of all the things I've read about people not representing themselves honestly or are on the site for other trying to promote other sex sites. So I apologize in the beginning if I seem a bit skeptical.

Over the years I've learned that I am able to seperate sex, love, and intimacy although I'm not sure I want to have just sex because in all honesty I can take care of those things myself. What I'm looking for on this site is to explore myself beyond the one-night stands, beyond the detached emotionless sex. Don't get me wrong, I am not judging anyone who is here looking for one-night stands it's just I've been there, done that and know its not ful-filling for me. I'm also not interested in the traditional idea of marriage, although I'm not against it I just think it brings in too many preconceived ideas and things change when it happens.

So in many ways I know what I want and I have no doubts that I know what I don't want. But am interested in exploring my beliefs/feelings about sex, love, and intimacy.

It's good to have a goal to journey towards, but its the journey that matters in the end. -- Ursula LeGuin

Till next time


P.S. In my next post remind me to tell you about my Norwegian adventure.

saddleupnride05 48M

10/3/2005 9:21 am

I've learned the true relationships among sex, love, and intimacy. For me, intimacy is about neither of the others at first, but strengthens because of both. A friendship can be intimate, but that has not proven as fulfilling as a sexual relationship for me. Sex is always looming because we are animals underneath with some of us more ready to admit the primal truth. I think many are afraid to experience sex without the time-honored precursors taught from our youngest days. And then again, some think they can separate everything out and end up doing no such thing after they actually get to know someone. We all think like playboys until humanity sets in and we discover that the person on the other end of the computer/phone/spaghetti noodle is a real, breathing being whose words are not scripted, whose actions are not fantasy, who just wants to connect like everyone else. Sex comes at it's own time. Go looking for it and you just might wind up with the intimacy and love for which you weren't planning. Grab it and hold it if it happens because the sex is so much better. Good luck to everyone.


saddleupnride05 48M

10/3/2005 8:52 pm

I have been that lucky, yes. I was self-employed as a freelance photographer and writer for many years and I still enjoy the perks of understanding gleaned from being solely responsible for one's own life.

I think what you are describing comes not from your professional path, but from inside you, inside the place that sets priorities. Allow me to explain. I work fifty hours a week in a job that is less than fully satisfying creatively. I still wake up without an alarm, I still wish for someone to enjoy as well, I don't rush either because I am secure in my vision of the world, of myself, of my life. I have been where you are and I loved it. I will most likely return to it. It's in me. I think you are selling yourself short, however, if you think you need that life to feel the peace and harmony you crave. It's in you like it's in me. One can reach for it, pull off a little piece, and devour it whenever one needs. Are you lucky? Yes, I suppose you are. But luck is a word of modesty. I believe that you would be just as lucky wherever you are because you are a strong, independent, introspective woman. You understand on a level beyond others. You are admired.

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