Love, Sex, and Me: A How-to Guide  

rm_sexygurlsex2 47F
60 posts
10/6/2005 1:47 pm

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4/5/2006 11:26 pm

Love, Sex, and Me: A How-to Guide

Got your attention? Good.

Just a short note to expand on a couple things I've learned being on this site for about a week. First, I'm here for several things including personal growth through honest, no holds barred, communication about sex, love, and what I want from those things and it's a great place to use for that. Second, if you screen carefully, you can meet sincere, down-to-earth, people who are here for similar reasons whether experimenting with their sexuality or just an opportunity to be honest without being concerned with someone judging them for their honest human feelings/emotions.

I don't claim to have any of this figured out yet, this is one of the reasons I'm here taking the risk, exposing myself. But here's a few things I do know, starting the sentance like with; my man can please me by:

1. Paying attention to me -- there is nothing more sexy or a turn on for me than the guy totally being into me. This doesn't mean he is calling me 4 times a day to tell me he's going to call me in the afternoon. It does mean when he's with me I'm the apple of his eye (yummm, thinking of apples be sure to read mzhuny's blog post [post 108266] - but I digress). And the reason no one can turn his head is because he mesmerized by me and our conversation or better yet the sexual energy between us.

2. Sharing in bed -- yes this means I don't have to do all the work, he doesn't complain about his bad knee, his back or that he's tired from the 28 mile hike he took earlier. He should be interested in me and my pleasure as I will do the same for him, it has to be a two way street.

3. Knowing about a woman's body -- getting to know mine, every inch, and cunnilingus is a must. And would prefer an apple "polisher" not a "peeler" (see mzhuny's [post 108266]) Note, I'll never look at a man eatting an apple in the same way and thinking back this can also be applied to women, I eat an apple with the peel on, just biting in without worry of all the juices dripping, so if I were performing cunnilingus on a woman then I would be the apple polisher -- hmm, yea, guess I'm a polisher. And sausage, I like to savor the moment and it's such a turn on to see my man cum, to hear him scream out my name is unbridled pleasure (sigh - getting wet just thinking about it -- moving on).

3. Cuddling/Spooning after sex -- OK, a totally gurl thing but more often than not I want to feel his warm, strong, hairy (not talking about back hair but love a hairy chest and goatee), body next to mine after we've shared such an intimate moment/experience. You know feel the connection, electrical energy of the other person.

4. Gently caressing and kissing me all over - especially on my mouth, neck, breasts, back of neck, curve of my back (sending chills up my spine just thinking about it) -- not a requirement for quickie sex -- there is a time and place for everything this is a general expectation

Not much to ask, since I'm going for what I want, I'm being selfish, don't get me wrong, I'm not selfish in bed, I give as much as I get, just not willing to be the only one giving anymore.

Until we meet skin-to-skin --


snooker96692 53M

10/6/2005 7:28 pm

Very Good SexyGurl! I applaud your articulate "How-to guide". I will have to read the "are you an apple polisher". Personally, I do all the above and love to perform cunnilingus on my girlfriend...for hours sometimes. Thank you for the four points. Cheers. - Bill

mnfun952 102M

10/6/2005 8:49 pm

and yes, you are INDEED a sexygurl....

Have fun,


DallasPhallus56 60M

10/6/2005 9:13 pm

Paying attention is the key one, clearly why it's first in your list. Virtually everything else follows from it. I can't imagine having sex with a woman and then not wanting to hold her close afterward. I love the feel of her wet pussy against my leg, for example.

Have fun, and I hope you find what you're looking for.

mountainlove69 62M
3 posts
10/7/2005 11:27 pm

How to the point and honest. I will read the apple polisher and get back to you. I'm sure you are expressing what every woman wishes they could put into words. Honesty is the best policy.

gudulkaman 67M

10/9/2005 11:36 pm

sometimes a peeler, sometimes a polisher.
she may want me to be slow and delicate,
enjoying each and every detail.
she may want me to just dive in, head 1st
and splash in the puddles.


phangasm2003 106M

10/11/2005 12:51 pm

So funny I ran into Love, Sex, and Me: A How-to Guide while finishing my lunch with, of all things, the juice from an apple running down my fingers. I was going to go wash it off, but I suppose I should lick it off instead Though I'd suggest a change of fruit. See, here in Colorado we get peaches by the bushel during July and August. There's nothing better than going to the Cherry Creek Farmer's Market and getting a bag of peaches, and eating a peach still warm from being in the sun, letting the juice run down your face...

BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

10/12/2005 12:16 am

You forgot #5: Bring me a drink of water.

LOL! Damn I gotta stop reading all this stuff so late late night..

rm_oneeyedbob2 52M

12/20/2005 8:56 pm

well now. this is what every lady wants and if they get just what they want then they will not be happy. let me tell you why. well they just dont understand it when they do get it because they never had it before. i know from personal experiences. yes i have given everything on her list accept i also went a bit furthur and gave breakfast in bed. as well as back rubs, hell i have even washed their hair and brushed it too. and they love it for awhile but they get to this place where they freak out and run like hell. wish one would hold still long enough to be together forever. big wish. but to be honest im old enough now that i wont see a 50 year anniversary and if i could just get someone to stay until i did die it would be a blessing.

col975 49M  
326 posts
1/7/2006 8:26 am

I know this topic is pretty old now but I just found your posts. I would have to say I never thought how a man eats a apple is how he is going to perform oral on a woman. I have thought thought that on a peach or orange becuase of all the juice.

One of these days I need to come of with a list for guys. It would probably be shorter. Something as in

Hands on breasts
Mouth on breasts
Hands on pussy
Mouth on Pussy
Hopefully her mouth on your cock


I enjoy your posts


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