rm_sensualart2 42F
259 posts
4/29/2005 5:23 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm


He (married guy) said something real dumb last night and then after i said how he could b a jerk at times he left a message saying "whatever",no "sorry". About sums it up tho as it means nothing to him,us,just sex,as he has a life,wife,kid, void except maybe not enf time in the hay. Let him hire someone for that. I am gonna try to distance myself from him for awhile. I took him off my y! bud list for starters...What u think? Think I did the right thing or should I talk to him? He asked me why I was pissed atleast. i just blew him off. Sometimes when I m mad, I can't talk in tat moment. Ever happen to u?! Probably for the best as he has someoen he needs to talk to and work out things with so they r both happier and leave others out of it. Happens I guess taht people talk to others ainstead of who they should. What u think?!~

smileguyqc 53M

4/29/2005 8:00 am

Yes, you said alot of things that are true. Very often in marriage its easier to talk to someone outside or to seek comfort from someone outside and yes if your not a part of the wife, daughter, kid thing its easy for you to get dumped, hurt. I think he needs to know what you want or expect from him, seems that its alot more than sex (very understandable) and he needs to be honest in letting you know if he can give you what you need. I never talk when I'm upset either, maybe thats a good thing.

Searching6171 55M/45F
2 posts
4/29/2005 8:15 am

I think that you are the suject of an "American Guy". For some reason, when your classic American men get put in a difficult position with a woman, they get a little stupid. They may not give any indication of their real feelings, (except for the fact that they are acting unreasonably knuckleheaded)! If a seemingly reasonable man suddenly starts acting like a peach orchard pig, he is very likely affected by someone that they are remarkably emotionally attached to, and don't know how to deal with it!!!! I can say, that besides the excitement of the taboo aspect of hanging with a married person, you are most likely going to run into more of this type of treatment.

You Are a very exciting woman, find a married couple that wants to get to know you!!! The only personal plug in this message!!!!

rm_fillup2469 75M

4/29/2005 10:07 am

I know that I can only speak for myself, but not all married men that deal with other women are totally insensitive. Despite my age, I have a very healthy sexual appetite and my wife has never really matched my appetite. I wish that she were the type that would be able to agree to allow me to experience others but that just in her makeup/personality. So, I have to do this without her knowledge. I have always been very honest with the women I have made love to. And yes, I have gotten hooked on some of them but could not let them know that for that would lead to all sorts of problems.

I do appreciate the women that I am with and would never think of being disrespectful or inconsiderate with them. Their pleasure is also paramount to me and I wouldn't stay with someone if I felt I could not give them something that they enjoyed.

margo32 40F
1 post
5/2/2005 6:41 am

I feel strongly that you should make strong efforts to distance yourself. Not calling him would be ideal although I know that that is hard. You need to take care of yourself right now. Dont worry about him. If you relate your needs/expectations to him and he says he can't meet them, then you have to be honest with yourself and find something new to occupy your time. He really may not even see things from your perspective. You deserve more.

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