Love vs Sex  

rm_secret_rider 53F
24 posts
4/21/2006 9:50 am

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Love vs Sex

Can people love one person and feel free to have sex with others without committment? Do men and women view sex and love differently? I would love to hear thoughts on this from both sexes.

rm_SexWith3rd 45M/50F
1 post
4/21/2006 2:02 pm

For me it depends on the kind of commitment, and kind of relationship you have with that one person in your life. My woman and I would answer your blog's question with a “yes,” so long as we do TOGETHER that wicked sex adding another person(s) to whom there is no commitment.

rm_hitman021367 49M

4/21/2006 9:41 pm

It depends on the person. Sometimes men and women see love and sex differently. Sometimes men and women see love and sex the same way. And I believe that if a couple view love and sex the same then their relationship will flourish.

rm_ElliottB35 57M
1 post
4/22/2006 8:32 am

I would have to say that it all depends on the person. Some view it one way were as another may view it different. Is one keeping it from the other in a relationship or are they open about it? Remember..No two people are alike, that's what makes the world go round.In my case being a male I would have to say "yes" that there is a differents. One can have Sex just to have Sex. but Love is a Emotion. It comes from within. It needs time to grow. Just remember is it "Lust" or "Love"? As for the Female part of it,you'll have to just ask the Wife.

Swede1121 57M  
19 posts
4/22/2006 11:05 am

It may be that he gets more turned on at the vicarious thrill of you telling him about your sexual encounter with someone else. It allows his imagination to run wild with the thoughts of what you may have done, while keeping a bound of trust and communications.

alibis69 40M/35F

4/22/2006 2:47 pm

yes men and women think of love and sex differently...most women mistake sex for love that is why a women can never go out and fuck alot of men...cause of one word..and men they do and are called studs..
women are afraid of being called that one word and that is all it is...
maybe your man is like me and is a man who likes all the details when you tell him..maybe he is satisfied with you and knows himself he cant satisfy you and wants you to be happy..
tell me more write me at the hawtplace couplefun6905

rm_bushice 72M
208 posts
4/22/2006 2:53 pm

I say do what makes You Happy!!

sirtink 54M
23 posts
4/24/2006 8:17 am

This is a question I have been asking myself quite a bit lately. I have to say yes, I love my wife dearly. However I find myself wanting and being attracted to other women. Our sex life has dwindled to almost nothing, we have not been intimate in over 2 months. It hasn't really been a problem for our relationship, we just don't have sex very often. I want more so that is why I joined this site. I want discreet sex on the side. Is that so wrong?

rm_griskman 69M
5 posts
4/25/2006 2:04 pm

Yes it is possible for you to love one person and also have sex with another where the only thing both parties are seeking is sexual satisfaction. I love my wife as much today as the day I married her and our sex life is great, but I still seek out additional sesual fulfillment with other women, particularly women whose needs are not being met buy the man they are with

rm_HungSmaller2 52M

4/26/2006 10:43 pm

Love vs sex. Mercy, how many stories, books and debates have there been on that subject? Speaking for myself, if I can ever find a woman on AdultFriendFinder that is willing, it is sex. I also believe, unless one is cold hearted or has an emotional wall erected for whatever reason, there will be feelings toward the the other partner after having sex. Not necessarily love, but there is something. Having sex with someone, i.e., man and woman or should it be woman and man? lol, guess it's the same, doesn't mean one loves the other. To me, sex comes from love, not love from sex, but of course that isn't always true either. Secret, it seems to me you like your guy enough to want to do things with him and aren't comfortable not doing things with him. That's cool. Seems like love to me, but maybe you still want a little more in the bag, so you are willing to be with others with his "permission" or "approval" of said activities making you feel better about yourself in that you wouldn't be sneaking around. Now if you think I'm full of dodo after that last couple of lines we'll forget I said it. lolol. These ideas don't come from a pro, so don't expect much. Sirtink says a couple of months. Shit, try at least 12 years. I'm not lying, it's been that long for me. Medical reasons with the wife but it has been that long. I'm getting tired of mother thumb and her four children. I would like to get with a woman for sex. That's my story and I'm sticking to it. That's why I'm on AdultFriendFinder, for sex. So, a little bit of help?

rm_maicoman1994 46M

5/3/2006 4:51 pm

i can't beleive we are discussing this it depends solely on you as a person and what kind of relationship you have with your partner ..if you or them can't handle the swinging life style then don't get in the pot.if you are ok with it but your mate only allows this because it is what you want same thing just don't .i think we were made to procreate with several mates due to what qualities a women wants in her children .. look in africa at the aborigenies they are a non monogomous people the women stays with a mate but mates with the whole face it we are out numbered 7 to 1 by biblical standings ..i.e. it's not in our genes to want to mate with only one women ..there's 6 more waiting for us to procreate with them if you and your partner are cool with the idea of sex with no strings all the power to you .it is possible to love one and have sex with many others ..but you and your partner have to have a open and honest relationship .up front no bullshit ..

rm_Feelgood2 55M

5/10/2006 1:38 am

I also believe it is very possible to love one person and have sex with no commitment with others. It all depends on how the person feels about it and what everyone wants. You will find women on AdultFriendFinder that only want one man,wants a group of guys to gang bang her,wants to have sex with another man then her husband discreetly with no strings attached. Same with the men you find all the same things. I see nothing wrong with having some mutual no strings sex with others. As long as both parties are on the same page and wanting the same thing that is really all that matters right. The fact that we all understand eachothers wants and have fun as well have sexual satisfaction. As I am seeking a no strings attached discreet time with another woman then my wife. Yes she knows.

rm_curious4it32 56M
1 post
5/11/2006 9:42 am

As long as everyone is up front and honest with each other right from the start, and as long as people are secure enough in their relationship - not only is it possible - it is probable!

VerticalRumba 46M
6 posts
6/15/2006 1:20 am

Yes one can differentiate between love and sex.
It happens all the time and is commonly known as lust until the love kicks in. The difference between love & sex a state of your mind and your commitment to your partner / spouse.
There are many reason why a person loving their spouse would want un-committed sex elsewhere and generally happens when one of the partners are over committed to other activities. Over worked, plays to much golf etc.

Personally, I am not after the sex but occassionally it would be nice
jump a gorgeous chicks bones.

rm_bushice 72M
208 posts
8/24/2006 5:01 pm

stopped at Ty's today ummm nice!!

wa2couple 50M/49F

10/7/2006 9:21 pm

Well we are both married but not too each other. We have this wonderful friendship that seems to work great with out interrupting our marriages. On another note we would be interested in meeting with both of you if you like or just you. That is up to you and your hubby but we do like your profile..

tricitiesswingn 47M/50F
1 post
10/13/2006 8:23 am

depends on the couple. sex can be very seperate from love but it is a slippery slope and extreme caution should be used.

rm_oral_eddie 51M

10/17/2006 3:39 pm

Love and Sex. I believe that they can be separate, though much of society would tell you otherwise. You can love someone and never have sex with them, and you can have sex with someone and not love them. Sex is physical. Love is Mental, Emotional, Spiritual and Physical (and dare I say it…..sometimes stressful.)

Sex is simply gratification of the body, it feels great! Sex with someone you don’t love is a great thing too, it can be nice to have a one night stand, and be done with it or an on-going friends with benefits relationship. Without love mixed in, it’s a ‘as you can’ fling, not complicated at all.

Love as we all know gets a lot more complicated. Your adding all the other ‘levels’ of yourself into the mix. Sex when Love is involved deals with all those ‘levels’, not just the physical.

I guess what I’m saying is: Just sex, brings one thing into it, physical pleasure. Sex with Love brings your whole being into it, on every level.

Feeling good about yourself (and together) only when you play together isn’t a bad thing. What you could try is meeting together with a potential partner, for drinks or whatever. Let both of you get to know this person a little, and then decide if your comfortable in going solo. If not, don’t. If you never feel ‘at ease’ going solo then don’t, only you can decide when the time (if ever) is right for you.

cantgetenough818 37M
1 post
10/31/2006 11:02 pm

Yea, love and sex are different and yet can go hand in hand. But for me, sex is just sex and love is love.

rm_licked_69 54M
1 post
11/11/2006 9:39 pm

alot of good thoughts here. for myself, i have tried to have sex without commitment, and what happens is that i meet that person that there is a spark during sex that creates feelings. the relationship that i am in right now started in such a way. but... being of a wandering nature, i have toyed with the idea of a different sexual attempt! self-destruction at its finest. when i am not feeling good about myself seems to be the times that i tend to stray. i have not cheated on this person yet, and in all likelihood i will not.

discreet, no strings attached! sure... i can do it. and if there is a spark? what then? wow... my nature that drives me...

rm_freestyle518 33M
1 post
11/16/2006 12:37 am

Girl i dont really care im only 23 and i want to give it to you all night long r u down?

rm_sirspasmalot 63M

7/1/2007 8:36 am

I think Billy Crystal said,"Women need a reason to have sex,men only need a place." There is a very good reason why the book Men Are From Mars.Women Are From Venus. hit the Best Seller list a few years back.The difference in the thought processes of the two sexes is influenced by enviroment,upbringing,expectations of society,and a multitude of factors.If you say "sex" to a man he thinks of an act. If you say "sex" to a women she thinks of a process. As far as I've been able to determine the most important sex organ on a woman is the one between her ears. Call me crazy. Uncommited sex only fulfills one need,love fulfills many. Can you separate the two? Of course, as long as you have something to fall back on in your life thats satisfying on a different level. There is a definite place in this world for "lust" otherwise they wouldn't have the phrase,"Lust for Life". It rings too true>

MisterEyes2 56M
3 posts
12/28/2007 8:27 pm

If you can drive a large rig....count me in!

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