Dating vs. Friends with Benefits vs. Booty Calls -- It's quite a rant!  

rm_sam7782004 47M
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7/17/2005 1:24 pm

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Dating vs. Friends with Benefits vs. Booty Calls -- It's quite a rant!

Okay, I this is my first attempt at blogging... ever- so be kind. lol

What do you do on your first date? I mean how do you treat it? Is it important what you do? For me, I try to think of doing something special or different... I do like the old standard of meeting for lunch or dinner, but it's what happens afterward that makes the big difference in my mind. I like to have some fun, laugh a little, flirt a little, get to know someone a little; and that basically rules out going to the movies. Movie dates are great and all, but I feel like I'm being seriously limited at the theater. You can't talk while you're in there, and really, at these prices, who makes out at movies anymore?!? I think dating should hold some sort of adventure, what do you think?

Friends with benefits - God bless whoever came up with this concept! And god bless the internet for helping the concept along! lol As a single guy, my horniness can sometimes take over all of my thinking! And having a friend I can call to come over to my place, cuddle up with me on the couch to watch a dvd, and make out with is such an awesome, awesome thing! I love it, and may I say to all the "friends with benefits" I've had in the past... YOU WERE AWESOME! However, there is a simple rule to the whole "friends with benefits" thing: no getting serious! There can be no expectation or push for stepping into a long term relationship, and let's be blunt: it's usually here that the whole "friends with benefits" thing goes terribly awry. Now, I don't blame anyone for wanting the LTR, but if you're doing the "friends with benefits" thing, then explain along the way that you're going to have to slow down or back out since you're starting to have some deeper feelings... don't be unloading the whole, "I think I'm falling in love with you" on someone at once; and I beg you to avoid doing that during the love-making! You freak guys and gals like me out! (we're totally committed to the sex and keeping it just friends/acquaintances) I haven't embarrassed myself or blown my end of the committment to friendship just yet, but I'm sure one day, a girl will come along who just ruins me on it... but until then!

Booty Calls - let's face it, we all need a dependable booty call here and there. For me, it's usually turned out to be a friend with benefits that I end up calling on; and if you might've guessed from the above paragraph on that subject... I've run into a few ladies who ended up wanting a whole lot more of me than I was prepared to give at the time. Booty calls are just that, booty calls! Get in and get out! I don't find a lot of ladies interested in booty calls because of the following reason: 1) women tend to need some emotional involvement before allowing themselves to be physically involved- i.e. they don't like being used. Personally, I can understand that. I don't like having sex with someone in a situation where it feels like I'm not really needed. I had a girlfriend once that made me feel that way; I felt like I could literally leave the room, and she'd be fine without me. Granted, the sex was incredible, but I still felt pretty used and emotionally unattached afterwards. That being said, I love booty calls, especially freaky ones! If you'd like me to share more about freaky booty calls... let me know; that'll be another blog.

Thanks for reading my little corner of lunacy,

Sean


chantilly20002 47F

8/18/2005 10:43 pm

Sam you are a master blogger in the making...very interesting read...Chantilly


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