Friends Found  

rm_sakrilej 41M
200 posts
8/4/2005 3:41 am

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6/5/2006 3:16 pm

Friends Found

I joined this site initally to get a better look at a pic of a girl in the ad that popped up, only to find I still couldn't get that better look. I wasn't disappointed though. Just filling out my profile taught me a lot about parts of myself I'd neglected to acknowledge for so long.

I found that I confused my fantasies with the reality I'm looking for, turned it upside down, saying I was looking for groups and couples (which maybe later down the track I may experiment with once I've found the right woman) and when asked to write a fantasy story, I described the type of encounter I want as reality in my normal life.

I'm at a cornerstone in life, just stopped running from myself and cut the losses of the past, drank expensive gin on my 30th birthday and haven't touched alcohol since, when I had wasted 15 years being drunk. So this look inside came at just the right time.

What's the coolest about AdultFriendFinder for me is that people everywhere are being able to talk in detail about their innermost desires, insecurities, dissapointments, hang-ups, triumphs... anonymously but almost like a group therapy session.

I'm sure some of the gold members are probably hooking up left, right and center but for us standard members, we seem to be here mainly for moral support and to share and bounce thoughts off each other and I've been really enjoying FINDING FRIENDS (around the WORLD) to do this with here in weblog land.

I've been amused to read posts from people disappointed that they haven't been laid as a result of their membership, when this site is not called 'fuckfinder'. I have started finding new friends I can tell anything to, who so far haven't betrayed the vulnerability of opening my most intimate feelings. AdultFriendFinder has already lived up to its name. I don't think I ever expected to hook up from being here.

So I'm going to stay on as a member, just to keep up with all of you and carry on the friendships I'm building here. It's been a perfect way to sort my head out concerning my heart and I'm happy to keep it up.

What are your takes on the matter?
Song for the day: With the Quickness - Bad Brains

DirtyLilSecret61 55F

8/4/2005 9:47 am

Now this is a great post. Yes, too many folks here come with the intent of getting spontaneous sex when most of us deep down want some sort of attachment (even cerebral) along with it. That NSA attitude always has some sort of strings - a platonic sort of string even.

You seem like a great guy and I'd really be interested in hearing your music. Let me know sometime how I can do that.

Oh, and congrats on pulling your head out of the alcohol. Addiction of any kind can be dangerous, but some moreso than others.

Hope to read more of you soon, and definitely hear you!


PrincessKarma 43F
6188 posts
8/4/2005 10:50 pm

*sigh* I met a great guy here... and I can't go to the US... he's too broke to fly down here, too

I have rotten luck with love

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma

rm_free2bmybest 55F

8/5/2005 4:26 am

Cool blog! Makes me stop and think, and think about things I haven't. If that makes any sense.

rockwriter58 56M
1389 posts
8/5/2005 8:36 am

Hmmmm... AdultFuckFinder... you may have something there... more direct marketing is always better... best copyright it quickly though.

On a serious note... congrats on finding yourself... or finding the process to find yourself....


CuriousKitty675 41F
365 posts
8/7/2005 9:52 am

You summed up my feelings on this site entirely. I too came here intially with thoughts of simple mindless sex but then discovered that that is not what I'm looking for. But I am glad I came. I have met some of the best people through blogs and groups. The shame of it all is that the vast majority of them are so far away from me. I think the cosmic joke is that people who click are born and destined to live on opposite sides of the world from one another. *sigh*

mcsusieg 49F
56 posts
8/8/2005 7:41 am

LOL… This site provides a great source of Like Minded people (AKA sexually open and expressive) to “date” from. I have really enjoyed meeting so many new people, and a couple of times, found a great connection/friend to completely enjoy. I hope you are able to find similar companionship…if you want it.

Theflinkychick 105F

8/10/2005 11:30 am

Your post answers my questions from my blog nicely, thanks for telling me you posted on the same subject.

Not all who wander are lost.

__Huntress__ 55M/57F

8/17/2005 8:27 pm

Amazing that a site based on fantasy can help us discover our own reality. As farfetched as it may seem ... the place some people come to to get lost in may be the very place they are found.

Good blog entry !

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