Harmony  

rm_rsp54 58F
892 posts
7/10/2006 6:06 am

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Harmony

This weekend was one of the rare occurences where things went smoothly. Where my family is involved, that is a major accomplishment. Usually, when we gather for a party,and alcohol is consumed, there are arguments in great numbers. This weekend was cool.

My brother's daughter has just moved into her new house, at a lake, three hours south of here. She is in the process of a fucking nasty divorce. I use the f word, because it is bad beyond description. I want to cry for her when I just think about everything.

It has recently become family knowledge that three of my brother's children have a devestating, genetically passed, nuerological disorder. They have an awful, young death to look forward to. All three of these siblings were at this gathering. I am close to them all; very close to two of them. But somewhow I have never talked to them in any great length about their plight. I am very fond of their spouses(all except my niece's husband) I would really like to talk to them about this, but just can't bring myself to do so. They all have at least ten productive years of life left, perhaps more. I just can't imagine what they are feeling. If you knew that your time here was limited, what would you feel?

My niece's husband is a snake. He was fired from the group that my niece works for. She was slated to become a partner. He went to the group and told them not to consider her for partnership because of her condition.(which had been kept secret until that time) As a result, the partner offer was off. She still earns a great deal of money, but this move was financially devestating. He also uses their children as pawns in the divorce. It is so sad.

So this weekend, we all got together, were on our best behavior, and had a wonderful time. I still haven't spoken to any of them in depth, but I know that I must.

My head is spinning. My problems with my youngest son pale in comparison to this situation. I am not sure how to handle this. I need to find a way to deal with it. I guess I just need to be stronger for them.


angelofmercy5 58F
17881 posts
7/10/2006 6:37 am

I'm glad that you had family time with no big drama. You are right though....you need to find a way to talk to them. Even if it is only to tell them that you love them and will be there for them if they need you. It might be a huge relief for them to talk to someone about it all. It is a very sad situation though.


rm_pussnballs4u 61M/54F
326 posts
7/10/2006 6:49 am

They say that's why you often get along with friends a lot better than family; you get to pick your friends. Be ok in the long run tho. Maybe just try to sit back and watch, almost like an outsider, see what's going on and learn from it. Life really is nothing more than a series of tests and challenges, you know. Learn from it, grow from it, become a better you from it.

PnB


Angeleyes160 49F
1 post
7/11/2006 4:25 am

You know it is true with all families, there is sibling rivalry, no matter what age. Just know that you are not alone with this. It happens to all of us. Take care!


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