Meeting for the first time....  

rm_roobeeq 37F
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12/15/2005 8:58 pm

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Meeting for the first time....


Everyone has gone through this at least once. The nervous knots in your stomach as you muster up the courage to meet a person.

I have had this fear for as long as I can remember, after chating on the net, though emails and im's and speaking on the phone, the natural progression is meeting in person, looking at each other face to face.

There is a sense of security while on the net, something that allows you to be open and speakyour mind, something that allows you to trust the other person, this is the mystery that still lies between you, the fact that in truth you have nothng to lose because they still don't really know you.

When I was younger I started a friendship with a young man who was older than me, we emailed back and forth, chatted on occasion and spoke every night. When it was time to meet I was so nervous I almost ran away and when we were in front of each other I couldn't look him in the eyes.

That nervousness can be so feezing and unlike the true you. I am just glad he looked past that first meeting.

I guess my reason for writing this is to encourage forgiveness of bad first impressions in these situations and understanding as well. Also to encourage those of us who are shy and have had similar experiences to just be yourself, there isn't anything to be scared about, we are all just people after all, and we all have our fears, we just have ot move past them.



FriendlybutKinky 49M

12/15/2005 10:36 pm

Thanks for visiting my blog, I appreciated your comments. I try to make the first meeting as casual as possible...eliminate expectation (that doesn't mean eliminate desire) but just approach the person as just a person you are meeting for the first time...no matter how much you may have communicated or opened up online.

I like to give a friendly hug though (a frame style, short...no weird long first hugs) to people I am meeting for the first time who I have had a great deal of online contact with...innocuous physical contact can go a long way to breaking the ice.

I just remind myself I like good conversation, and if that is all it is, that is great, and if it is more than that, that is great too.

If it is awful, at least it will make for good blog fodder!

Take Care,
FBK


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