Daddy Said Goodbye  

rm_reisaree 42F
817 posts
9/7/2005 9:44 pm

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Daddy Said Goodbye

When Daddy died 2 unexplained things happened. First The day he died my mother was lying in their bed in such sorrow.. when I checked on her she had an expression on her face I didn't recognize... She said that Daddy's spirit had just washed over her.. HUH? She was lying there when she saw at the foot of the bed a warm glowing light that slowly went through her as it passed through her feet towards her head,

Second. A few days later trying to leviate some sorrow, as my Daddy loved to have company we had a couple friends bring their kids over to swim in Momma's pool. I spent most of the evening in the house with Momma, which is where I was when Casey ran in and told me and MOmma to hurry and come look. There as close as 5 foot is a bird. I honestly to this day haven't a clue what kind of bird this was, looked like some sort of pigeon but its beak was all bumpy and weird looking.. and it was the coloring of a dove.. but the bird just stood there and stared at us all staring at him..Remind ya that there are 3 kids running around the pool area, and my son has had time to run in and get me and my mom to see this bird. And it still sits.Momma took a step forward and put her hand over her mouth. She was thinking what I was thinking.. Daddy came back to say goodbye. I stepped behind her and put my arms around her waist and my chin on her shoulder and stood and watched this bird for what seemed like forever..He didn't leave. I told Momma to come on back in the house. Of course she didn't want I took a couple of steps towards the bird and it didn't move. Momma said oh it is fake. No its not.. I reached down to try and touch it and thats when it finally flew ... just over to the window ledge and kept watching us. Its strange.. but yet I have no doubt that somehow this was Daddy.. coming back to say bye or to check on us... whatever the reason I am glad I was there that night.

darkskin4086 42M

9/9/2005 11:39 am

Hello Reisa

Hw is my white chocolate sister doing? Well, this story touchiest your heart and soul. I still have both my parents and I think sometime how I will make it if one of them past away. Then you gotten me thinking how would either one of my parents would make it with out the other one. It not a great thought. It doesn't matter what we think about that bird but to your mom that bird meant the world. If it brings peace to her heart then that is all that matters. I hope and prayer that you and your mom heart is full of his memories because with those good memories you never forget him.


rm_reisaree 42F
611 posts
9/9/2005 12:08 pm

Thank you dark... You hit it on the head.. doesn't matter what it was...but what it meant to her... Yeah.. good stuff bro... Thanks

Nectar_Jules2 35M

9/9/2005 9:32 pm

So sorry about your father Reisaree, I personally think the symbolism of that bird was what darkskin so elequently commented on, and not to take away from his thoughts, I'm just adding another idea/impression. What if this is exactly what your you and your mom thought it to be, there are so many things in the world unexplained, and now with technology growing so rapidly things are becoming more and more clearer. I'm not as religious or faith oriented as I once was, but I have been dragged through the mud by my ex, which I don't doubt I deserved at some point...abandoned by my father and his entire family because he couldn't stand up to them, and so much more, not to compare this at all to death. But I still believe in every extreme or negative circumstance, there's something good and real out there for everyone to hold or benounced to us, that literally hold us up. Just like that, real love, like your fathers, transcends I really believe he found this as his way to make sure his family not only new he loved them, but to make sure they were safe and taken care of, and he didn't in a more than obvious way...which proves how strong willed of a person he was. I mean you don't hear such an amazing story like that after the death of a loved one very much. The only thing I can tell you is to "JUST BREATHE"...I don't know what type of music you listen to, but whenever I think of my father or his family these days(they lived in New Orleans...the flood), I play this one CD(the whole thing). Its the "GARDEN STATE" soundtrack, play this as your laying or sitting in a quiet room and just breathe. Good night.

rm_reisaree 42F
611 posts
9/10/2005 6:49 pm

Thank you Jules... I am now crying like a baby... but thank you so much for your words sweetheart. I will download the CD... I listen to hip/ but that doesn't really matter,... I listen to anything as long as it has a meaning.. And I like to put music and thoughts together.. Appreciate you taking the time to talk to me..

TeamsCocoaBated 51M
23 posts
9/11/2005 11:09 pm

I'm betting it was your Daddy just coming back to check on his baby girl. Lost my mom when I was very young, but I swear the times I seem to wanna give up, for some unexplainable reason, I feel as if somebody or something just comes along and give me a loving hug. Don't know if it's Mom or Granny, but you just know it's someone who cares. Keep your head up and think often of the kinda guy you Dad was and the thinks he often said. It makes things easier when you do that 'cause it makes it seem as if they are still here with you in the flesh and not just in spirit. Vincent

rm_reisaree 42F
611 posts
9/13/2005 2:21 am

Thank you vincent.. thanks alot...

daighi 49M
1449 posts
9/14/2005 5:45 am

You know reis,the way you described that night,i could picture it so clearly.Heck,i was almost there with you all.I have faith,& it's nice to see that you do too.

I really don't know what the bird synbolise's,but i'm sure,what you describe is just as good an explanation as any.When a loved one passes,we all wish that we could bring them back,& spend some more time with them.We look for things that might just be signs that they are still here,watching us,keeping us safe from harm.

I can't say that the bird was or was'nt your dad watching over you.If you derive comfort from that,then who am i to tell you otherwise?It's good to have faith.One thing is for sure,You dad may be gone in body,but he lives on in spirit,& in your memories for you to cherish for all your remaining life."Gone but NOT forgotten"!!

Take comfort in knowing that you have a friend here that you can talk to,will never be judgemental,& always supportive.

I wish you & your family well in this time of your loss.

Here's a (((((((((BIG HUG))))))))) for you,from me!


"Always remember...keep smiling!"



rm_reisaree 42F
611 posts
9/15/2005 6:38 am

thanks D... appreciate ur kindness... you are a good guy...

rm_IALTF 60M
7 posts
9/16/2005 3:40 pm

Very sad story and I think it's very enlightening towards the end. Losing close family members is part of our lifes here on this planet, but, I don't think many of us do well with that. I guess all we can do tho is accept, remember, and wishes for you and the family !

rm_talldarkavg1 105M
10172 posts
9/21/2005 3:34 pm

You will always carry this experience, and your mother's, in your heart. When it's darkest during the worst have this memory to light your way.

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bigred219722 44M
5 posts
9/21/2005 9:19 pm

They say in life that things happen for a reason.I am a true believer of that your story has touched a part of me i thought was long gone, there is a sign that your always being watched and so is your mother the meaning of the bird creates a form of freedom but always within sight of the ones that care and love it.As for your son it is a form of protection because it did not fly away from them . Thru out the years i have lost many friends but not a close family member like you sorry for that lose in your life , but your dad will always remain living in your mind , soul , and body .Would love to become one of your friends thanks for the oppurtunity to veiw your blog and your profile .sincrly your new friend big red !!Sorry no pictures not familar with scanners new to computers but i do have a video on this network.Best wishs to you and your family they sound really cool!

rm_reisaree 42F
611 posts
9/23/2005 1:43 am

Thanks Mister... I plan to never let it go....

rm_male_in_va 44M
22 posts
10/13/2005 5:26 pm

Hey honey, I'm just now reading this......very sorry to hear about your father *BHUG*

I hope you and yours are managing to cope with the loss. We all love you here baby and are pulling for you.

winwinwin555 61M

10/27/2005 4:08 pm

wow I dont know you ,,,,I am brandnew here,,,,,this makes me weep.

I have died to my 4 daughters cause I left their Mother....

maybe I can come back as a dove.

Peace be with you

rm_reisaree 42F
611 posts
10/28/2005 12:05 am

    Quoting winwinwin555:
    wow I dont know you ,,,,I am brandnew here,,,,,this makes me weep.

    I have died to my 4 daughters cause I left their Mother....

    maybe I can come back as a dove.

    Peace be with you
If I could grab your daughters by the shoulders and shake the living shit outta them I would!!

Tone_33756 55M

11/3/2005 4:33 am

I'm late to comment here...

That was a chilling story. It reminded me of the Peter Gabriel song where he sings about "an Eagle flew out from the night" - and the eagle came to dispense infromation to him - information he could not ignore.

I believe in things that do not make logical sense. That bird was your dad - and if somebody forced me to explain how that could be - I could not provide an answer - I just know what I feel.

I'm sorry for your loss - losing a parent is like losing a part of yourself.

PS: To winwin: Even though it's dark today, as long as your breathing, there is hope. I was a counselor for 18 years and I saw miracles happen to people I worked with - again - things I really can't explain - but lives that were considered "un-repair-able" suddenly made whole

rm_reisaree 42F
611 posts
11/3/2005 11:56 am


Thank you... Its not like I needed others to tell me they believe this to be my Daddy.... but it is certainly nice to see that everyone does believe it though.... Just reinforces what I already knew to be true...

Hawgpilot 49M

11/15/2005 11:35 am

I know firsthand what you speak of, because on the day my father passed over a year ago, there was a large stinkbug (not quite as classy as a bird, but you'd had to have known my dad to understand the humor) on the window above the bed where he was in a coma from a brain tumor. A female friend of the family asked me to remove the insect from the room, and as I set it free outside, mt father drew his last breath. My mother has had numerous stinkbug sightings since then, and my brother and I (both pilots) have had stinkbugs unexpectedly as passengers in our cockpits. Even my 140 pound rottwieller who is deathly afraid of all bugs will let a stinkbug walk on his paw. To anyone else, it sounds absurd, but I know where you're coming from. God Bless.

rm_reisaree 42F
611 posts
11/18/2005 12:18 am

Hawgpilot... a stinkbug?... you're dad must've had a great sense of humor! *smiles*


3/6/2006 2:56 am

i lost my dad 13 years ago. i still miss him. his death was evil. it has split the family in two. i still think of him every year on his deathday. for you see his day of dying is my birthday. the reason the family is split is because he took his own life. then the blame game set in. really deep wounds. i just think you should be grateful for your good memories. i'm still after all this time trying to heal. sorry if i brought you down.

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