the power of art  

rm_rabbit8747 36F
129 posts
2/23/2006 4:21 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

the power of art

Funny thing. I hadn't posted a picture on here for some time. Well let me start at the beginning. When I first joined in my naivete - I did post a pic - a sexy one 'cause when my I was married - my ex's job often took him overseas so I would send him sexy pics. Anyway, I posted one of those and then I came on the site later and saw it was on the home page and I was all like...whhhhoooooo....hey privacy. Not cool. So I took it off. Then I haven't had a pic in a while 'cause I was worried about privacy and then I posted one without my face - and MAN - you do get a lot more emails.

Regardless. Something interesting. Who reads blogs if they aren't interesting, and so I am interesting rabbit. I'm thinking here. K. Couple of weird experiences I've had so far are guys that get very attached just cause you have sex. I don't have sex a lot and haven't met that many guys on here in person, don't get me wrong. But I'm on AdultFriendFinder cause I know I am not ready to commit to anything - I know my head isn't there. And then I am meeting up with people and they are offended when I don't want to be exclusive - and I"m thinking, "you met me on AdultFriendFinder, and my profile says, friends with benefits!" I know that I am not ready to go on to a relationship. I mean - if anyone here has been divorced - doesn't it mess with your head? I went into my marriage young - 19 - and I gave this guy everything from me and it sucked. Our marriage sucked. So isn't it safe to say that it takes a while to learn to trust people - to let them in- again.

Arg. I'm having trouble with this blogging thing. What do people want to hear about. I feel like in my life, it's always - I tell people what they want to hear. I am a great cameleon (sp?) in that I can blend into any situation. But after a divorce you have to figure out who you are - what you want and learn how to stand up for that. I'm still working on it, but I want to. One thing I am proud of is that I left my ex cause I realized that I didn't want to settle. I didn't want to be some unhappy person in an unhappy life. I figured if I never found someone, I would run off and work for National Geographic (cause I'm a writer) and just that would be the end of it.

Did anyone ever tell you that life is complicated. arg. Well, it


seeking sanity still. thanks for putting up with this. I'm sure I'll find a writing stride soon. smiles.


ByteChaser2 52M

2/23/2006 4:38 pm

And I'll come 'round to check that progress rabbit! Your off to a great start

Jeepidiot 42M

2/23/2006 4:54 pm

Life can be anything other than complicated? I just thought that was a given.

Yeah pics do changes things. I had a nice respectable pic on here once and just didn't get as much attention as I would have liked. Changed the pics a bit and suddenly people are looking. It's sad though really because when you post a more provacative pic, people are seeing perhaps a part of you that 90% of the time isn't seen. The important parts that are seen everyday, people don't seem interested in.

It's funny you say men seem to get attached because you've had sex. I always thought that was something a woman did and guys were called callous and pigs if they just didn't look at it as anything more than sex. Dammit someone give us men a guide book or something.

Jeepidiot 42M

2/23/2006 7:18 pm

Nothing wrong with ramblings. If you can find an outlet for it then by all means use it. No one is forced to read these things. The only time ramblings might be a problem are perhaps when you are in public, mumbling to yourself, and talking to a wall. That's generally frowned upon. Not that I know personally or anything like that.

aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
2/24/2006 1:32 pm

Ya, life is kinda hard... It makes you apprecaite the good times though...

Jeepidiot 42M

2/24/2006 4:35 pm

A thought about posting pics and privacy. You know I was worried about it at one point and then I kind of thought about it. If you're worried that someone you know perhaps from work is going to see you here then you have to ask yourself just how did they see you here? I mean you don't exactly just stumble on this site while browsing Barnes and Nobles or Ebay. You pretty much get to this site either because someone told you about it or because you were browsing the naughty sites. Either way, what is that person going to say? They had to not only come here but make an account and then start searching. They're suddenly no different from you and chances are wouldn't want you to know they saw you. The only thing to really worry about would be the co-worked that decided if you were here then you'd obviously be willing to fool around with him.

My biggest fear honestly is stumbling on the profile of a family member. Clicking on the profile of one of my sister's would be so traumatic that I don't think I could ever fully recover. And while poking my eyes out, I'd be screaming "NO! I had it selected to allow members to see that I was viewing them !!!!".

scrumpled 41M

2/24/2006 9:17 pm

Well, I'm going to weigh in on the guys that get very attached even though you are clear you aren't available. I'm not one to get attached knowing the other person isn't available but I can recall two times I did. I wasn't stalker like or anything but tried like hell to change there mind. As much as I knew logically what I was doing wasn't going to work emotionally I guess I was hoping. Anyway, as much of a hastle as it is for you dealing with these guys I think it's quite a compliment. These guys probably aren't intending on getting attached anymore than I was the couple of times it happened to me but something about you caused them to lose control of acting out of logic.

So enjoy this figuring things out phase and just keep being up front with the guys where you stand. Enjoy the weekend, Rob

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