Cute vs Hot  

TakesTeatsStood 50M
1358 posts
5/18/2005 11:08 pm

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Cute vs Hot

Confession time... I am 'cute.'

Yes, I have come to the conclusion that the women from AdultFriendFinder that have met me - or seen me on cam or my face picture think of me not as 'hot'- but as cute.

This is not a bad thing, I like being 'cute' - I think it is a combination of my writing/chat style, which is pretty much how I am in person, as well as my 'looks' - I just don't do 'sultry' very well.

So ladies (and men if you are so inclined) - which do you prefer given a choice? And/or what do you think makes a person hot or cute?

Ana_6973 43F

5/18/2005 11:49 pm

It depends on my mood, I like them both. As for what makes them hot or cute, I think some guys are both at the same time. Sorry if that didn't clear things up for you.

~~"I can scream as loud as your last one, but I can't claim innocence."~~

toofine82 34F

5/19/2005 12:00 am

me myself I would say that there is a time for cute, and they're is a time for Hot. Like cute is when you are kinda shy and sweet and innocent, Hot is when your very forward and dirty talk helps too. I know what you mean though. I am cute and hot. I am good, but know when to be bad.

rm_LacyCuffs 49F
386 posts
5/19/2005 12:15 am

Rustic Dark haired man with Green or blue eye's, Nice GQ body,Awesome personality="Hot" Really I think all men are cute in there own way...

missy97330 47F

5/19/2005 12:36 am

What do I prefer to look at, or what do I prefer to call someone? What do you mean?

If I see a "hot" guy I will most likely refer to him as "cute" when talking to fellow girlfriends. I am old fashioned that way. "Hot" is a bit too sexual for me. "Cute" is nice and safe, Grandma can over hear it and not faint.

2ofusfor3 53M/48F

5/19/2005 12:36 am

I don't think it is in how you look. Maybe at first, but after awhile you see a person's personality. A beautiful woman can be the ugliest person you have ever met... you know what I mean? What I find "Hot" is that twinkle in the eye.... sexual wisdom or mischieviousness.... cat that just ate the family bird look. Maybe it is how "Hot" I get from a twinkle like that. I find it a bit ironic, but a stereo typical "Hot" dude/man/guy/piece-of-meat would have to prove himself twice over before I would believe he wasn't full of himself. Cute on the other hand, wouldn't.

papyrina 51F
21133 posts
5/19/2005 12:46 am

cute who needs competion from men ,i want to look good at the side of him too.

I haven't seen a real hot man in Years,a few cute and plenty of so so.

Cute for me,is going on intial contact,looks combined with humor and twickle eyes,

I'm a

i'm here to stay

Priapeo 46M

5/19/2005 2:32 am

Hell... this must be the reason why all the girls I called cutie have turned their heels 180 degrees and stepped away. The side effects of not being mother tongue. However, I prefer cute... it's an under-rated adjective.

Never argue with an idiot. He brings you down to his level then beats you with experience


5/19/2005 3:53 am

Well I have seen your whole face , but I do know you have a nice set of eyes

JrsyKnight69 40M
11 posts
5/19/2005 5:01 am

I think just the women being friendly is hot for me, The chicks online or cute mostly. But I think if you are 40 plus and a yound guy wants to tap your ass and he is decent you should take the tumble!

LustGoddess2469 50F  
2453 posts
5/19/2005 5:15 am

Hot = Mel Gibson, Steven Siegal (before he plumped up), Tom Cruise, Sam Elliot, Vin Diesel, Wesley Snipes, George Clooney

Cute = Matthew Perry, Noah Wylie, the guy from Scrubs (sorry, can't think of his name at the moment), Nick Lachey

I don't have a preference either way, but I think I would tend to go for the "cute" guys because they usually have a better personality and a great sense of humor (that's probably what makes them cute).


playfulwithyou33 56F
961 posts
5/19/2005 5:46 am

Hot Guy: when a woman who doesn't normally hop into the sack immediately--suddenly "considers" it.

Cute Guy: when you want to want to eat him up.

PailsDiverHonks 55F

5/19/2005 7:01 am

Hot ‒ Antonio Banderas, Johnny Depp

Cute ‒ Tom Cruise, Brad Pitt

Post what can I say?? You are cute! What’s wrong with cute? I bet you are HOT in bed

I have been called sexy hundreds of times…I don’t think of myself as sexy…how can someone who hangs out in bluejeans and t-shirts be sexy?

purejoy4fem 46F/44F
682 posts
5/19/2005 8:39 am

HOT - Angelina Jolie

CUTE - Melanie Griffin

Cute is based on personality, Gorgeous on looks, Hot is a combination of both. If someone is cute or gorgeous it will take them a while to get to us, if they are hot we'll be out of our clothes in an instant

greeneyes, jeans and t-shirts can be sexy as all hell

rm_bluegenes51 56M
245 posts
5/19/2005 12:18 pm

This is a depressing post...well not the post, but the comments... I'm too old for cute and too ugly for hot... I am going back to reading for the blind...

rm_morefutility 37F
175 posts
5/19/2005 1:57 pm

Hot= possible one-night stand
Cute= possible one night stand with phone call next day?
slept with a hot guy once, only to find out he used to wet himself in elementary....I love my friends!

expatbrit49 62M

5/19/2005 2:24 pm

Well as a lot of the men didnt weigh in I can only assume they neither hot nor cute LOL Personnaly I strive for the so so described by Papy, although women have said rugged.

PS Purejoy if you ever get Angelina Jolie let me know because she is Hot

Thank You for Your Time and Attention

purejoy4fem 46F/44F
682 posts
5/19/2005 3:51 pm

expat, if we get angelina jolie, you will never hear from us again due to the extatic coma that we will fall into upon completion But we will be the coma patients with the huge smiles on our faces

wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
5/20/2005 6:49 am

I go for Cute every time there is a distinct difference

and I don't mind a little cuddly either


keithcancook 60M
17718 posts
5/20/2005 12:57 pm

"This is a depressing post...well not the post, but the comments... I'm too old for cute and too ugly for hot... I am going back to reading for the blind... "

LMAO bluegenes! Love your comment. Sometimes I feel the same damn way. But that is the age thing that some days seems like a bummer. Most days I feel pretty good about it.

sportyfun56 106M

5/20/2005 6:11 pm

true sexy is not an appearance but an attitude and demeanor... If you have been called that while wearing bluejeans and t-shirt you can believe it. I suspect it's true btw.

I won't speculate on which (if any) category I might slip into. It's not for me to say. But it always feels warmer, sweeter, safer, more endearing to be referred to as "cute". Although the times "hot" has been used was exciting in its own way... lol.

But no woman ever called me cute after sex.... lol

patsam69 51M/51F

5/21/2005 7:57 pm

I love Opus! I named my bird after him...Bloom county, a great cartoon.

I have never seen your face...but your belly pic is def hot!

rm_EE407 41F
3903 posts
5/22/2005 2:39 am

mmm... excellent question...
Hot = Brad Pitt.
Cute = Matt Damon & Russell Crowe
Cute does it for me everytime though....
Thing with hot is that it won't last ... and you know it upfront! It's more the ravishing thing.
Cute means you warm up to a person, more the slow and sensual being together.

But let me ask you this: when is a woman hot, sexy or cute?

rm_bluegenes51 56M
245 posts
5/22/2005 5:58 am

Where does, " Hung like Einstein and smart as a horse" fit into the cute vs. hot scale?

sportyfun56 106M

5/22/2005 7:03 pm

Well it's just happened on this media by one of the "group o' femmes".. I've been called cute. I kinda like it.. lol Thanks B.

EE... Cute in a woman is almost more of an persona/attitude/presentation... just like Sexy is. They often have nothing to do with surface physical appearance.
Hot on the other hand will more often be a description of appearance.
So... a woman can be one or a combination of these simultaneously. But that means that a woman can in fact be Hot, Cute, and Sexy at the same time... When that happens, weak men fall over unconscious. While I simply smile at you and offer to be your friend and lover.

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
5/23/2005 7:28 pm

OPUS is cute... lovely personality that makes me smile....

Hottie is all about the body.... which, without the personality, is a no bill in my house!!

rm_bluegenes51 56M
245 posts
5/24/2005 4:18 am

OOOoooo a dip in the gene pool.. Wa-HOO TY Candy made my day..if only to imagine it..

AmberSolaire 42M

5/31/2005 11:28 am

I am not depressed reading more perplexed.Seeing as the consensus seems to be that it depends on mood is it possible to be both cute and hot?
Like most physical attributation I feel its all down to perception.What I want to know is has anyone ever been described as kinky by looks alone?

duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
6/23/2005 2:37 am

Just by first glance.

Hot: Nice pecs, nice abs, great muscle tone over his body.nice jaw line, dark hair, nice levi or wrangler ass, blue or green eyes, nice white teeth, and great lips. (Similar to what ladycuff said).

Cute: happy bubbly eyes, nice smile and attractive.

Once I get to know a guy, the definition of hot and cute change for me. It's in the personality. A man who is intelligent and can capture my attention, listen, and make me laugh is hot.

A man who giggles a lot is cute. (There's a difference between laugh and giggle)

When it comes to intimacy... I could keep going and going and going. But my definition of hot and cute change with different situations.


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
6/23/2005 2:40 am

Oh and from your photos postingnick, you're hot! Nice levi ass!


demonicsexkitten 41F
10671 posts
7/10/2005 8:47 am

I guess this is an old blog... i'm just starting in on reading them. i agree with 2ofusfor3's description of cute vs. hot.
and i would never tell a guy he's hot... 'cute' 'gorgeous' 'nice looking' 'beautiful' 'sexy'. never 'hot'. (also never 'handsome'... psychological carryover from childhood lol)

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