Typical, just so typical.  

rm_phoundrx7 39M
498 posts
10/30/2005 10:52 am

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Typical, just so typical.


I was going over life today; thinking, feeling; and a thought occurred to me - I get bored rather easily, unless I'm actually enthralled by something. And there hasn't been much lately to make me enthusiastic. Too goal oriented, too much into being challenged.

Also, I am too nice, and I need to stop it. Seriously, I let too many things go, to where I just laugh it off, chalk it up to a learning experience, and move on. But the more I look at what is around me, the more I want to stop chalking it up, and start making chalk lines of some people. But getting over the nice thing is hard. Difficult to reverse almost 30 years of teaching, but I'm working on it.

The main reason I need to kill Mr. Nice Guy, it doesn't mesh well with others. I notice this especially with women (it might just be the area I'm in, but not according to many I know who go outside the area). This one female I know. She has a guy, and he busts his ass to make a good living. He pays for the food, gas, place to live. All the things she wants, yet she wants to throw it all away, and why: because the man she's with is too nice. He puts her on a pedestal, when she'd rather be on a leash. And it's indicitive of many women I see - you either have to have money, or treat them like dirt.

Another woman I know of. She will go out to the bar with her husband. If she sees a guy she wants to get down with, she'll actually get her hubby kicked out, so she can go fuck him. She'll flirt with his friends in front of him, and basically (not literally) castrate him in front of everyone.

That and hearing the stories from my friends, seeing what they go through, and watching all the b.s., people wonder why I'm single.

I'll tell you why. I've been in a relationship almost exactly like that of my father & mother when they were together. It was hell. Her telling me what to do, where to do it, and how to do it. If I didn't, cry me a river type crap. Got tired of putting up with it, and so I walked. Ever since then, I have seen cheating spouses & girlfriends (that wanted to get with me, but if she cheats on him, how do I know she won't do the same to me eventually?), money-grubbing bitches, downright dishonesty & lies, and total manipulation. To find a woman that I actually want to be with, that wants to be with me, seems like a needle in a haystack. So, I would rather have friends with benefits until I can find that one needle.

But see, here's the thing. Finding one to keep that way is almost as hard. Women pay more attention to their emotions than men. That's why they are as confusing as they are. How can you know what goes through their minds when they don't even know themselves?

Anyway, back to the nice guy thing. If I treat people with courtesy & respect, I should get the same back. But if the people perceive your niceness as weakness, then they take advantage of it. Plus, when you have so much to lose, and they don't care, it makes everything that much worse. Especially if the people are about as useless as Bill Clinton.

Anyway, I'm tired. Going to check the NFL scores, watch some South Park, and go to sleep. Enjoy.

areugame4 46M

10/30/2005 1:31 pm

Your Brillant... makes me wanna go shopping to buy the one you just reminded me of.... something nice!


zoopc42 47M

10/30/2005 1:29 pm

hey don't get discourged on the nice guy shtick. I too a that and I can totally relate. I have tried also to put up a not so nice front but it doesnt work either.

it is tough out there for us nice guys. occasionally we get feed some nice tenderloin but most of the time it is groundchuck. make the most of what you get and make them a better person if possible.

hang in there


Anonymoustafa2 35M
1 post
10/30/2005 11:36 am

yo man. I know EXACTLY how you feel. I'm the same way, except I recently put my Mr. Nice Guy to sleep. I stopped giving a shit about other people and I stopped letting things go. I don't take shit from anyone and that's the way to go man. I used to be a nice guy, but I'm sick of getting walked on. Do that shit man. Being nice isn't gonna get you anywhere. Time to be ruthless.

Rich


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