Forgiveness?  

rm_nutsahoy 41M
4 posts
10/12/2005 5:32 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Forgiveness?


How the fuck can I forgive someone who I hate? How can I forgive someone who lied to me for months to trick me into loving her? She used me, she manipulated me, I was her entertainment, I was her puppet on a string. We never spoke because she cared but because I cared. We were never friends, I was her friend. I was a source of love, affection, concern, whatever. I was everything her man was not...

How can I bare to talk to someone like that? Why should I forgive someone who takes advantage of people intentionally, someone who lies most of the time? Why should I have anything to do with her again? She doesn't deserve forgiveness.

We 'made love'; the second person in my 29 years. I did it because I loved her, because of passion, desire, a bunch of wonderful and powerful emotions. It probably ment nothing to her other than a challange or perk up. We made love because I trusted her, believed her words, her eyes. How could I be so wrong? Now I have to go for STD tests.

The worst part: she doesn't care. I torture myself with a million and one conflicting thoughts, with understanding the 'truth' behind all the lies, with the fact that I made such a terrible mistake, with the hope that she'll talk to me and tell me what happened...
We were 'good friends'. I knew more about her than anyone else in her fucked up little life. (she said). She 'trusted me'. She told me things 'no one else knew about'. I thought I was her friend. She had that respect from me and much more. Where the hell did I go wrong?

I've been told to forgive her for my sake, for my health. In time the pain will go away, in time, the memories will fade. In time, I'll be able to look at her pass in front of me and not ache with discomfort. I will not forgive her. I've been told to forgive her for the sake of the women who will come along later on in my life, for the sake of ending the bitterness I feel... I'm too young to understand but how can I forgive? The pain will stop drowning me in time but the final memory of betrayal will alwayse remain.

I hate someone I once loved. How amusing.

nuts.

rm_Kissmystuff 61F
1435 posts
10/27/2005 4:19 pm

Hello again nutsahoy:

I'm not going to say I know just how you feel. I don't. Each person experiences love and pain in their own way. I can empathize and sympathize...and I do. If I could reach out my hand and touch your heart and draw out some of your pain...I would. You are young...you are strong...the pain will pass. I know it may not seem like it at this time...but believe me me it will. In the meantime...take care of you. Eat healthfully to keep up your strength. Breath deep and fill your lungs with fresh air. Slowly and surely...your thoughts will turn more positive and you will begin to live in the brightness again. Please take care.

Kiss


rm_lickmepretty 50F
851 posts
11/18/2005 11:06 pm

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