Just a Question (from a woman's point of view)  

rm_northnvbicpl 64M/52F
7 posts
7/29/2005 2:05 am

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Just a Question (from a woman's point of view)


I've been trying to figure something out for a little while now. I have been in the lifestyle for about 7 years now and have had much fun through community and through this site and others. I have been in a relationship for about a year and 1/2 now and have many playmates both couples and one on one. What i dont understand is it has been so hard to find a woman playmate for my mate, we do play separate and it just seems that they either want both or none. I understand that some couples do not play separate, but I just had another woman say that she was not willing to meet my mate without me cuz there are too many guys cheating on their wives. I get that, I really do. But, we both have emailed her and i let her know that if it wasnt for a previous engagement, i would be more than willing to meet with her also. I want my man to have fun too. Hes an excellent lover and lots of staying power, it has just been really hard to find a woman who wants to play with an attached man. Its like they dont want to borrow him for an evening of uninhibited sexual play, they either want a relationship or both of us there. It is really frustrating for me cuz i feel like Im the only one having fun with others.

planonplayin 42M

7/29/2005 7:18 am

I feel your pain wife and I are in the same boat! Strangely enough it doesnt even help if the male is quite good looking( not being boastful). We have no problem finding some one to play wth both but when we want to fly solo it seems I have to use auto pilot!!!!!


redmustang91 57M  
8657 posts
7/29/2005 7:26 am

Welll you need to teach an extention course and enlighten your sisters that recreational sex is a good thing. They have learned that it is exploitative and avoid it. They forget that the pleasure is mutual and they need to enjoy what sex can offer.


naughtygirlc 47M/52F  
8 posts
11/14/2005 11:46 am

We are searching for that extra playmate and cumming up empty. We also want to meet couples but haven't moved past chatting yet when do you take it to the next level?


rm_northnvbicpl 64M/52F
9 posts
12/26/2005 10:28 pm

naughtygirlc, My Lady has taught me to take it slow, get to know someone, and you will know when the time is right to take it to the next level. One nighters are ok as far as they go, but it takes time to build the friendship and trust for a long term mutually comfortable and pleasurable relationship. We had to weed through a lot of teasers and jerks before we found some people we can be comfortable with and be just who we are....don't give up keep looking and the right couple(s) will cum along.


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