Silence Over Violence  

rm_noisy_belle 39F
40 posts
7/16/2006 9:38 pm

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8/7/2006 8:16 pm

Silence Over Violence

i honestly don't think silence is the best way to deal with insults but very often we make excuses such as we should not drag ourselves to the scumbag's level, or it's not worth losing our cool, or there's no point arguing with the scumbag et cetera. last night, i remained silent over an act of violence and i felt very guilty about it. if i say something, am i giving the person the attention he doesn't deserve? or does silence perpetuate even more violence?

i don't know if anyone will back me up here but neo_hk in the China chatroom is particularly agressive towards the female members. he thinks the chatroom is a waste of time and that we should all "get a life". yet he keeps coming back night after night. he believes we are fakes if we aren't into taking things further with him because, he says, he is "a hot, intelligent and no nonsense guy". at one point he even says, "are you females all prostitutes from Wan Chai?" - to provoke a reaction i suppose. and being an ardent reader on Freud, i believe violence towards the others, especially women and children, is a sign of violence towards himself, that he is unhappy, insecure and full of self-loathing.

some girls just want to chat and see. some just want to have an ego boost from the attention of the other male members. nothing's wrong with that. some are curious why the others are on the site even if they aren't looking for real actions. some prefer to have clean and safe cam fun. no matter what we are after on the site or in reality, women have to take precautions in protecting themselves against date , and that's a simple reason why we have to be extra careful when we do meet up with people, especially those from a sex site. women have to speak up when they don't feel comfortable during a date. to quote neo_hk (ironic isn't it? lol), we do have to "step up to the plate" and defend ourselves.

noisy_belle x

LustyTaurus 48M  
21253 posts
7/16/2006 10:24 pm

In the context you're talking about, it's best to ignore, delete, ban etc as he is clearly seeking attention and seems like a controll freak. Any acknowledgement of his prescence will be viewed by him as progress and his participation will be more frequent and possibly more agressive.

MarcoPolo197676 39M
541 posts
7/16/2006 11:00 pm

Dont perpetuiate his negativity, ignor him, he sounds like he just wants the attention.

mtmike55 61M
21 posts
7/16/2006 11:19 pm

Noisy, If the fella is a boor, you need to call him on it. An asshole is an asshole irregardless of the language spoken. As one who has only reentered the male/female dialectic I urge you to call bullshit on this guy. Only my two cents worth. Mike

ride_deep 37M
58 posts
7/17/2006 11:50 am

There's no real point in getting worked up about stuff online. The way I see it is that we're all on here to enjoy ourselves; if someone doesn't want to be a part of that, then they're not worth our time or effort.

I'm glad you're keeping a good attitude about it.

Loud, adventurous, insatiable? Yikes, that was designed to get a rise out of me... and it worked, haha.

secondtimeluck00 46F

7/17/2006 2:49 pm

Ignore him, he is rude and just after a quickie.

rm_noisy_belle 39F

7/18/2006 8:33 am

it's ok if a man's after a quickie on the site but he's more than rude! thanks for the comment. i hope more girls will read my post and ignore him in the chat room as well.

dannykok 47M

7/28/2006 9:01 pm

I understand him a bit cos I am also sick of all the hookers and gold diggers on this site. It is really frustrating when you take the time to read someone's profile and write a personal message only to find out they want cash. Worse still is you spend a lot of time cultivating a "friendship" with them and when finally you meet them, have dinner or coffee and they offer something moire they say, well it will cost $$$. That's kind of unfair. They should introduce a "professionals" section on this site.

rm_noisy_belle 39F

7/29/2006 3:51 pm

danny - but calling all girls in the chat room prostitutes? that's a bit much. bad experiences just do not justify a person's rudeness. next time, cultivate a friendship anyway but just stick to having long conversations over coffee lol


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